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What contributes to asexuality and is this normal?

I got penis circumcision some age before age of 10 for some persistent urine problem. Right now my age is 21. I've never masturbated in my life. Never had sex either. But I do have sexual attraction, mainly to women. More of romantic attraction though. I am disinterested in sex and have always seen it as a mindless thing. A pleasure. Nudity was always better to look at, since human body is art. I only look at p*rn to see expressions of people. I'm probably somewhere in the asexual spectrum, though not sure. I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). More of a feminine energy kind of person with random acts of masculine energy. I actually like being asexual and it also aligns with my ideal which is to be childfree.

Is this normal and what do you think is some term that describes this more accurately?
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  • I'll be honest. I am far from an expert on asexuality. It is not something I understand very well.

    Nevertheless, I think that what you describne here, is definitely something on the asexuality spectrum.

    I don't "understand" asexuality in the same way that I don't "understand" how you describe feeling here. It's just so foreign to me. It's hard for me to wrap-my-head around because it's just so alien to any way that I have ever thought or felt myself.

    So when you talk about being disinterested in sex; never having masturbated; appreciating the naked body for it's artistic aesthetics alone; or watching porn for people's expressions... I'll be honest. None of that "computes" for me. I cannot in any way imagine myself thinking/feeling that way. It's feeling a way that is not only beyond my scope... but it's beyond my scope to even IMAGINE feeling that way.

    For example... I in no way feel the same way as a trans girl feels about herself. She has feelings about her identity and gender and whatnot... which I don't "understand" insofar as... I totally don't feel that way at all. She feel super differently than I do. BUT it does "compute" for me. As different as it is, it's still something I can IMAGINE myself possibly feeling (if I just felt totally different about gender and my own identity. In other words, I can imagine myself in her shoes).

    With asexuality, it's a whole other level of not being able to get my head around it. It's so very different that It's much harder for me to understand properly. I think I might not be alone in that. So keep that in mind. (in general, as well as when reading this reply).

    I think there is no question as to whether or not this is "normal." It is not. At least not if we're taking "normal" to mean "usual" or "common." It is decidedly not common or usual.

    BUT that doesn't mean that there's a damn thing wrong with being asexual. You say you're happy being asexual, and it alligns with your ideas about a happy future. To me, that's really all there is to it. It's not "normal", but it's perfectly fine. It's healthy, you're happy. How could anyone find a problem with this?

    I think it might be worthwhile to try and connect with other people on the asexuality spectrum. I think it would make sense to try and speak with some people who might understand what you're feeling... because they feel the same way themselves.

    It's entirely possible that there is some term that more appropriately describes you. I am not going to claim to even know all the terms out there. But as I understand it... this sounds like "asexuality" to me. 🙂

    • Thank you for the elaborate response 💜✨ I suppose it is fine then. Yeah, I understand. Sexuality is not something anyone can empathise with, indeed. Because it's one of our subconscious things.

    • It's definitely fine! And I honestly find asexuality fascinating/interesting specifically because It seems so different to me. The lack of being able to put myself in your shoes makes me want a better understanding. Asexuality (as applied to people anyway) is a term I had never even heard of before maybe 10 years ago (at most). But since then... asexual people do seem to be not "common"... but certainly not "uncommon" either. It's interesting to me that there must have been people who felt like this... forever, but they truly were "hidden". I had no idea that this was a way that so many people felt. It's just interesting. But it's certainly "fine"! 🙂

    • Thank you 💜✨

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  • Castration works better

    • xD But I still have normal sex drive.

    • Doesn’t sound like it lol

    • I get erections and all. I just never masturbated and get that thick whitish fluid.

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