Why would a middle age married woman who has adult kids talk to her male friend about all sexual things. She doesn't involve in any kind of sexual acts with that man but their chatting is mostly about sex and personal stuff.
That's a very specific question and depends on the woman and the men involved.
The reason can be that she doesn't trust the husband enough on certain topics. The husband might be closed minded, or insecure, and maybe is less open to talk about sexuality, or less educated. A woman who has an interest in sexuality is likely to find a confidant.
More often the confidant is another woman, to be honest. But I chat to enough married women to know that some of them prefer talking to a man they trust, and maybe is more experienced in sexual matters.
Of course the reason can be that she gets turned on by talking to another man. Or she's turned on by this man in particular. But we have no way to know. It's an assumption like any other: it's quite possible, but we have no ground to know if it's true.
Perhaps they both get a little bit of a buzz from chatting about naughty stuff? Some people get aroused just by talking about it, especially with someone they might find sexually attractive?
They don't show sexual attraction to each other. But maybe.
Thanks for the MHO @disha10
because we all need a confidante.
and a lot of times, sex at home is miserable and unsatisfying.
you talk to a male friend for honest opinions.
and tbh, to think about getting what you are missing at home from some other man (or woman)
This. The husband is now always the best man in your life to talk about certain things. Unfortunately for married people.
@wingattebaby16 nailed it!
and for me lately, Life is hard. My husband has been working a lot of OT, on Labor Day we had a pool party and OMG, he invited people from his work. 6 gorgeous women came that he works with, a few old fat guys, and the whole time, the girls (all wearing tiny bikinis) were flirting with my man the entire time. I got mad, he told me it is nothing, and then one of his fat coworkers hit on me and tried to grope me. We rarely have sex in a given week, usually him coming in to my room, kissing me on the neck, cupping my boobs from behind, and telling me he Needs to give me A Hot Beef injection coz it is "time for my check up". Often lately, he just pulls me up, kisses me hard, grabs my ass, pulling me hard against him to feel his Lump, then pushes me face first over my desk and is done in 1-3 minutes. "thanks honey, you were a great patient!". so i admit i have been complaining a lot to my gfs and i have a couple guy friends that are my close friends (one used to want to date me), and i bitch about how bad my sex life is. so yes, it happens... and the Up Side for me is my husband is not some average or small guy in bed either! It is just the lack of Romance, lack of frequent sex like we used to do, etc...
I see a lot of that kind of talk and yes its just talk, but very very seldom do I ever hear them speak anything of their personal sex life.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Talking about sex is fun and interesting, and maybe her spouse isn't into talking about it. So maybe she's lucky to have a platonic friend to talk to. It can be a relief to talk about things that are on your mind with someone who understands.
because if they are like me, I'm interested in what they do, I have been told a few things, I then talk to John and then maybe we try some out
I think it's normal now in this modern world.. The reason is only that every girl have some naughty fantasy about sex not all things discussed or do with partners so do this to calm sexual emotions and talk chat to other males
Boredom, talking sex is fun
I would guess that she is very comfortable with him. It's also a little bit of a turn-on to be talking about sexual things with the opposite sex.
Even with your update, my answer stays the same
Do you consider it's a cheating?
Not if it's only conversation
I believe everybody needs a trusted confidante. He might be hers.
But what about her husband. Shouldn't he be bothered if he finds out she is talking about sex so explicitly with another man
Maybe he is a typical Indian husband. She cannot have a meaningful conversation with him. And she may just match mentally with the other guy.
yeah i can understand all those reasons might be true but what would her husband think if he finds out
Sounds like she would like it to become more physical. Like unless they have an understanding that their will never be anything between them then the only reason to talk about sexual stuff or s because you f the desire to engage in sexual stuff.
Is she doing it to get turned on?
Not sure about that. It could be.
I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. If she’s hitting on him, it’s a big deal. If she’s making him uncomfortable, it’s a big deal. If she’s just talking about sex, she probably just feels comfortable around him
@JessicaEarl hey your post about sweatpants has an issue with it. It’s not allowing votes and comments. 🤷♂️
She a hoe
She is enjoying thats why and probably thinking too when alone... and she probably knows that she can keep this a secret very well so she isn't tryna stop probably... and maybe the sexual relation w husband is less or dry too
She's sexually frustrated or unfulfilled
Sex therapist?
I guess you didn't read everything lol
Because she's not satisfied with her husband and that chat would eventually lead them to bedroom
i dont think so.
They might share their fantasies, they might meet, might talk about sex face to face, might flirt.. and here they go
Well then it needs to stop lol
Giving her male friend an opening for advancement…?
Can you explain more?
Maybe it’s her way of flirting with him. It could be an opening for him to flirt back with her. Or, she could be imagining more intimate things and is flirting with a purpose/hoping for more.
Okay. But their chat doesn't show that they are flirting or looking to be sexual with each other.
Boredom, maybe
openly talking about sex or anything is a good thing. being able to talk with someone about what ever is on your mind can be a nice friend to have.
She wants somone to discuss those things with without risking anything. Discussing sex with a partner could put preassure on that partner or make him/her feel uncomfortable about ones sexual preferences. You can often find people on gag asking how to bring up certain preferences or how to bring up inviting other people so it stands to reason many feel there's a huge risk involved speaking to ones partner first.
turns her on
She is probably lonely
He's her friend. I don't see anything wrong with that
But their chat is really explicit.
Unless they are telling they want to do explicit things to each other, then there's no issue. They confide in each other enough to be comfortable talking about sex
And what about her husband. Should he be okay with that?
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