What creates a sexual kink?

What creates a sexual kink? When in life do they form? Are they healthy?
Im asking this to you all as id like to know myself as im beginning to wonder why some have fetishes and some dont.

What i consider strange somebody else might be turned on by and vise versa.
I get turned on by wearing womens knickers and yet i still enjoy normal sex but i think about knickers more than sex. Probably weird to a lot of you but thats me. ain't no turning it off, cos I've tried 🤣

So how do these fetishes deveol? Any imput would be great.
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  • to answer your question "What creates a sexual kink?" o be hones i am not sure, i liked the link that PrettyPriya added and the fact that people who are easily aroused are more likely to have a kink/fetish and can relate to that. i can be at half mast quite easily and doesn't take a lot to stimulate me, just talking to a lady who is dressed nicely can result in satisfaction. the part that i dont know is why certain objects, parts of the body, BDSM etc are sexualised? why is it that some people get off on body parts like feet and some people are turned on by objects or forms of clothing. i have a guess that they all relate to some form of feeling of protection or feeling of love, but this does not explain why people like feet etc.

    "When in life do they form?" i believe that they are formed very early in life, but do also believe that they change with time and evolve, but in my own experience they are still based on or close to the original kink/fetish that we had from a young age. e. g. people who are into feet for example may decide that they only like women with nicely manicured feet with Red nail varnish, that part may come from experience or exposure. same as people who are into DOM/SUB, they may then develop a control factor or a humiliation, but deep down are still Dom and Sub.

    "Are they healthy?" i believe that this is down to the person. if it takes over your life then probably not healthy, if you enjoy some fun in the bedroom etc with your partner then i dont see an issue. however on the other side of the coin, if they are indulging too much and its not healthy, would they have that trait if they didn't have a kink? i believe so. i think its similar to people who get addicted to most things e. g. smoking, drinking, even gym bunnies that have to get a fix or dont feel good, i believe that people have a personality that makes them fixated on one thing and can't get away, so to say that its just kink/fetishes that have mental health is a false claim. also in the article, it stated that most people with kink/fetish are not mentally ill.

  • It has to do with your sexual expierence throughout your life. Some guys that enjoy SPH (small penis humiliation) may have been teased about their penis earlier. My kink is seeing girls in a variety of panties. I am pretty sure that it developed in two ways. The first was that my sister and I shared a bathroom for most of our lives. Seeing as she's 18 months younger than me not much was different in our development. She used to hang her underwear in our bathroom to dry. So I was literally staring at them every time I showered, brushed my teeth, and took a shit. The second came with my girlfriend. When we were first going to be naked together, she kept her panties on because she was on her period. Therefore the first time we were really sexual together was with her panties on.

    • Yeah sounds possible for you but for me I've had the desire to wear knickers since i was about 8 and i dont know why. I think i felt it would be nice to try them on even though i shouldn't. It had nothing sexual to do with it back then, thats for sure. But as i got older it became sexual. Have told two partners about it and they accepted it but didn't really like it. I have no desire to dress as a woman in public or anything like that. I have went to a pro femme dressing service to see and i just thought it was ok. I really thought id love it but turns out i did not. Sexually i think i would like forced feminization for a while but its just a thought. Anyway my point is i dont know where my fetish/kink came from. Its just the way it is for me.

    • It doesn't have to be sexual at the time. It can be a sexual experience that you don't see as sexual at the time. I never thought of my sister's panties as sexual. I don't think of my sister in that way, so her clothing obviously isn't sexual to me. Nevertheless it had an impact because it is a sexual item. Most people don't really know how a kink developed, quite honestly I am guessing on how mine developed. I could be wrong.

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  • I dont know what creates a kink or a fetish just know that these are not the same. A fetish is a kink but not the other way arround. Fetish = something you need to get off. Kink= bassically a turn on, not that precisly defined.

    • Did not know that. 😁 thanks

    • @msmissydc someone that actually understands the difference. Try telling people, you don’t have any fetishes, but lots of kinks lol.

  • Here is a great link from a credible source that explains a lot.

    https://www.healthline.com/health-news/what-causes-sexual-fetishes

    • Yes thank you. Was a good imformative read 😁

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  • Many kinks and fetishes start to develop during adolescence, but some can develop later in life too. Some kinks come from childhood trauma's, others from positive experiences that have impressed on the psyche. Most are harmless and often a way the person receives relief from stress or anxiety or a comfort. Others are born of pure fantasy or even control, and can reflect someone's personality to a degree.

  • I think watching a lot of porn and your imaginations

    • I think mine came from my imagination and definitely not porn

  • I love feet and pantyhose and I don't know why. I used to look at girls legs and feet in pantyhose in middle school but I don't think that cause it because it already turned me on.