What do I do if my boyfriend keeps insisting on escorting with the gay community or stripping?

[corchar]

I have only had sex with him twice in a month, and he keeps bringing up the gay interactions to make money, even after I have told him I dont appreciate it or that's not something I'm comfortable with. He has more gay friends than straight and he is always getting asked to spend some time with them so they can be intimate. He becomes defensive and loud and keeps trying to convince me he is not into men it's just money.

[MrOracle]

No straight man would do this or even think of doing this, so have no illusions of what you're dealing with. Second, he's made it clear that he's going to keep doing this because it's what he wants to do, and you can't change other people, you can only change yourself - including who you choose to associate with.

You're going to have to face the reality of this, and decide if this is something you can accept in your relationship or not. Changing him isn't an option, so your choice is really: accept him as he actually is, or end the relationship.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I could believe he's just in it for the money, but there's a possibility this is his true orientation.
You need to sit down and have a frank chat about it. That's what I did when my fiancée questioned my orientation even though I never considered prostituting myself or even touched other men.

[lilidoosofshmut]

i would lay down my conditions. If you are serious about your relationship and keeping it monogamous, then tell him that you will break up with him if he doesn't respect your boundaries. If he still says he wants to escort guys, then he obviously doesn't respect you or is secretly gay/bi sexual. Either way if he says no I would end things right there.

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Sounds like he does not want to make you feel comfortable in the relationship.

He does not want to change it, for what ever reason he has, and you shouldn't force him to or it will probably continue behind your back.

It's better to evaluate if you want to be with this type of man and make a decision.

[Rainbow_Boy]

I'm a gay man and find that absolutely impossible to believe. No straight man ever has gay sex only for the money. He must be liking it, which makes him at least bi... By the way, I'm an exclusively bottom gay man, and I can guarantee you that I've been topped by more straight-acting men than gay guys.

[Iron_Man]

Get rid of that loser

[corchar]

That was harsh.

[Iron_Man]

That’s harsh I don’t think so

[In_Trance]

You put up with it or move on

[Valnac]

Since it bothers you, and you warned him.
I suggest you kick him to the curb, and find someone that’s into you.

[Sabretooth]

he's on the down-low.

[Sabretooth]

and before anyone asks-i learned what that is from law and order svu.