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9 mo

What do I do if my fetish makes me feel gross?

Obviously when I’m in the mood I find my fetish enjoyable, but when I’m not, I often find myself thinking ‘wow that’s really what I’m into?’ And I feel grossed out by the fact that I have that fetish.

I also worry about what it could mean for me in future relationships. Like am I going to need that in a future relationship to be satisfied? Because I’m going to find it quite difficult in the dating world if that’s the case. I’m trying to not consider my fetish at all in the dating world, but it’s getting me absolutely nowhere. I’m also not sure if it’s JUST a fetish or it could be classed as a more ‘normal’ preference or admiration thing, because I feel like that too, it It definitely feels like a fetish too in certain moments though.

Has anyone ever experienced these feelings before? And how do you deal with them?

(No perverted answers pls lol)
Updates:
9 mo
I may as well share what it is I guess. It makes me nervous to say though cause it makes me sound like I am treating this type of person like an object to get me off, and that’s not what I want. I have a fat fetish I think. But I don’t know if that’s ALL it is, because I also like most bigger guys’ personality and how they’re really sweet and I think they are totally boyfriend material.
9 mo
It makes me feel gross not because I think THEY are gross, but because I don’t want to be that person that’s treats another type of person as like a ‘thing’ to get me off if you get what I mean. But that is what happens, so yeah..
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  • I have a fetish that I had similar concerns about. A few months ago I discovered a website where I could chat with people who share my interests and many others. Over time I learned that a lot of people have fetishes of many different types. Some are gross. I also learned that there's always someone who's into the same thing. One of the thinks I like about that site is finding someone who has the same interest and telling stories of our experiences. It wouldn't be surprising if you learned that there's a group of people where your fetish is completely ok.

Most Helpful Guy

  • You're already anonymous, share the fetish. Just because it's a fantasy it doesn't mean that you need to try it for real. Sometimes a fantasy is just a fantasy. My wife and I shared some really raunchy fantasies during sex. The thoughts and images are hot af and raunchy... and as soon as we cum... all gone. We'd never do that crazy shyt. But leading up to orgasm... we came SO hard. But neither one of us is ever going to do that crazy shyt.

    So share the fetish if you want better answers but also, relax. Just because the thought excites you doesn't mean you ever have to do it.

    • As long as you don't use someone... masturbate to the idea all you want and move on... no harm done

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just deal with it. I deal with a whole audience who knows what I make for them is gross. But they deal with it and cheer with glee when I drop some "steak" for them. And they still are respectable and love my work. My funkin' best friend is into "said fetish" and he doesn't feel gross about it. Soo maybe it's not you think it's gross, it is just a fetish that "is gross" to you. Which maybe soon you can deal with it?

  • Probably look for a different fetish. If it makes you uncomfortable why go for it

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  • It just depends what your fetish is.

    Some fetishes are more common than others. If you wonder if you have a preference as opposed to a fetish the definition of a fetish is the sexual fixation of an object or body part that ISN'T typically seen as sexual.

    • As per your update: Everybody objectifies the people that we have sex with, it's just how attraction works. When people say "Don't sexually objectify others" they are basically kidding themselves and delusional. Why would you have sex or date anyone that doesn't turn you on? Don't feel guilty, just don't discuss your fetish with people. Date who you want and that's it.

  • I think a lot of people feel that way about their fetishes. I know I do. Best way to feel less gross about it is to be comfortable / open about it in your relationship and accept it.

  • I think you're just attracted to teddy bears (that is the name for them). Cuddly. What's wrong with that? I wouldn't even call it a fetish.

  • Sure, I have too.

    What's your fetish? PM me if you want to discuss these things privately... I may be able to help more specifically with how you feel.

    • I really do empathize with what you are going through. These are good questions and I have had them myself. Sexual chemistry is important and often a fetish could be an impediment. But, surprisingly perhaps, some fetishes - even uncommon ones like mine - can have partners who can share or enjoy it too even if that is not directly their fetish.

  • I suppose you stop being judgmental about people like yourself?

    • Don't worry, I won't be offended if you treat me like a squishy object. I just don't even think that way anyway, it's ridiculous. If you actually think it through what it would mean is that no one is ever allowed to enjoy a thing that they like, if you are going to frame it as fetishism. Race is what comes to my mind and so what? Are only people who aren't bothered about which race they date allowed to date? Is everything else fetishism? If you have an exclusive preference does that make you a bad person, should you be alone forever to ensure you aren't exploiting someone by enjoying what they are? No, this is all absurd.

    • I never said it makes anyone a bad person if they like a certain thing. I’m trying to wrap my head around all this still, that’s all. Don’t come for me, I’m still young, pretty inexperienced, and still trying to work all this out 😅

    • Well, however you want to phrase it. You don't have anything to feel gross, bad, guilty or whatever about because you haven't done anything wrong.

  • well i guess that depends on what kind of fetish you're talking about? It happens, like i enjoy a lot when I masturbate, but after doing it I will feel a little guilty after. probably a little similar as what you're saying. but if your fetish is a little too extreme, you'll probably need someone who can accepts it

  • You didn't say what your fish is, but whatever it is, there are millions of people who share it's You deal with it by accepting that you are completely normal.

  • It's your bad habit, not your "fetish", kiddo.

  • Because you still have a conscience but you need to pray and repent and get delivered before your perverted passions take over and control your life and that’s all you become

    • I mean I don’t think it’s THAT serious 😆

    • Well you asked. It kind of is and I love how you don’t want perverted answers asking perverted questions

    • If you’re into something disgusting and feel bad or gross about it. I think you definitely have problems going on

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  • You don't choose a fetish, the fetish chooses you.

  • Fetishes can and will hurt your love life. While people who are overweight need love too, fetishizing their weight will lead to more weight gain, compounding health issues and an unhealthy relationship dynamic leading to early death. Our society needs to start encouraging healthy eating and exercise. The West is in really big trouble. Especially America. Our quality of life and life expectancy are on the decline and it’s accelerating.

  • Do you absolutely need it to get off, or can you make it work without your fetish? If you can make it work without whatever you're concerned about; it isn't a fetish.

    Human sexual dynamics are like so many other things life; it's a question of degree.

  • You're forever a naughty little SLLUT, you'll just have to get a naughty Daddy Dom like me so you can always get that Fetish need met.

  • It's probably a good thing to have a SO that gets you off. You are who you are so go with it or seek professional help. I don't mean a large sex worker. There's nothing wrong with have someone to talk too ( phycologist).

  • I don't know if id call that a fetish exactly. Unless ur only thinking sexual things about them, it kinda sounds like ur just attracted to big guys, no different than a guy who finds BBW s more attractive than regular girls...

  • Nothing wrong with having fetish as long as you communicate to your partner. Explain to your partner this really turns me on. Im sure any big guy will understand if he gets the benefit of good sex and you have your benefit of getting off its the best of both worlds.

  • A fat fetish? ... what's so bad about that? There are some seriously twisted fetishes out there that people have no reservations about sharing and you're feeling anxious about body fat? 🙄

  • Pm me

  • You have a gross fetish because you're a gross person. Stop being gross.

  • Most people have that feeling like when they watch some really hardcore porn, it's good in the moment then feel disgusted with themselves after they cum

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