Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Obviously when I’m in the mood I find my fetish enjoyable, but when I’m not, I often find myself thinking ‘wow that’s really what I’m into?’ And I feel grossed out by the fact that I have that fetish.
I also worry about what it could mean for me in future relationships. Like am I going to need that in a future relationship to be satisfied? Because I’m going to find it quite difficult in the dating world if that’s the case. I’m trying to not consider my fetish at all in the dating world, but it’s getting me absolutely nowhere. I’m also not sure if it’s JUST a fetish or it could be classed as a more ‘normal’ preference or admiration thing, because I feel like that too, it It definitely feels like a fetish too in certain moments though.
Has anyone ever experienced these feelings before? And how do you deal with them?
(No perverted answers pls lol)
11 mo
What do I do if my fetish makes me feel gross?
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11 mo
I may as well share what it is I guess. It makes me nervous to say though cause it makes me sound like I am treating this type of person like an object to get me off, and that’s not what I want. I have a fat fetish I think. But I don’t know if that’s ALL it is, because I also like most bigger guys’ personality and how they’re really sweet and I think they are totally boyfriend material.
11 mo
It makes me feel gross not because I think THEY are gross, but because I don’t want to be that person that’s treats another type of person as like a ‘thing’ to get me off if you get what I mean. But that is what happens, so yeah..
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What Girls & Guys Said
4 31DM me your fetish and only then I can give you an honest answer.
wt is ur fetish?
everyone feels almost the same about their own fetishes.
I'm curious to know your fetish though 🤔
Mine is similar. But some women who’ve loved me accept my fetish and me both
Dm if want
If you want
It sounds like a preference…. Maybe you are objectifying but you like what you like
What's the fetish
We like what we like
It should be fine as long as you are not fattening them up.
Depends on what the fetish is
That's not gross. Some women are into fat guys big guys there's nothing wrong w that
It's not weird at all
It just depends on what the guy looks like physically overall that could be gross some fat guys can be ugly as hell others decent looking it all depends
It depends on the type of fetish. I wouldn’t go around announcing it to guys on the first date but, maybe once you’re comfortable discussing it with him, you can tell him. But now I’m curious how terrible this fetish is. Can you share what it is? Because I don’t think it’s as bad as you think.
That’s a common one. A lot of guys have this one as well. I had one girl tell me, after I had lost 50 pounds how she liked bigger guys and I was surprised because she was very attractive but I understand it.
I suppose you stop being judgmental about people like yourself?
Don't worry, I won't be offended if you treat me like a squishy object. I just don't even think that way anyway, it's ridiculous. If you actually think it through what it would mean is that no one is ever allowed to enjoy a thing that they like, if you are going to frame it as fetishism. Race is what comes to my mind and so what? Are only people who aren't bothered about which race they date allowed to date? Is everything else fetishism? If you have an exclusive preference does that make you a bad person, should you be alone forever to ensure you aren't exploiting someone by enjoying what they are? No, this is all absurd.
I never said it makes anyone a bad person if they like a certain thing. I’m trying to wrap my head around all this still, that’s all. Don’t come for me, I’m still young, pretty inexperienced, and still trying to work all this out 😅
Well, however you want to phrase it. You don't have anything to feel gross, bad, guilty or whatever about because you haven't done anything wrong.
Yes I experience exact same feelings regarding my fetish, i use it and get off sometimes and then I even feel. guilty for days, the only thing that helped me it was accepting it as part of me. Do you mind if I ask what your fetish is?