What do I do if my friends with benefits filmed me and him going at it, without my permission?

What do I do if my friends with benefits filmed me and him going at it, without my permission?
He didn’t ask me for my permission. He just put the IPhone to record on a counter and begun “F—ING” me.

I didn’t say anything about it, cause I don’t want him to be upset with me. :(
And why did he do this?

Im asking you all cause he might tell me lies. Sweet little lies.
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Also. When u first started my relationship with him. I told him not to ever do this.
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Also to add his face is on it.
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  • He’s probably saving it for later on so he can jerk off to it but I don’t think he’s gonna show it to anyone else because his ass is in there too

    • Yeah his face is totally in it

  • You don't want him upset with you? Why does that matter? This is a guy that doesn't respect you enough to even date you...

    • Wow, thanks for the MHO!

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  • I know people who have been sued over this kind of thing when it shows up on the “Facebook (s)” of the world. Maybe it will show up MuskVille-twitter.
    look it up online…

    • What’s the webpage

    • Do your own leg work. That’s it for me.

  • I would have a serious talk about it with him. Don't wait on it. I would ask him what his intentions are and say you feel uncomfortable and disrespected that he would film without asking you first.

    This is something that I would personally break up with/stop seeing if they show no remorse and continue to do something like that.

  • Yikes that sucks.
    seems like he’s untrustworthy.
    id be pissed off as well... if things go bad with this and he shares it you could sue him and win

  • Since you saw him set up the phone to record, why did you continue?

    • I said up there that I don’t him to be upset with me

    • YOu should never do something that you do not want to do. Don't let guys intimidate you like that. If he is upset with you standing up for yourself, you should forget him.

    • @emyywolf Don't be a doormat. You did nothing wrong and don't need to apologize. He is the one that disrespected you. Stand up for yourself.

  • All I can say is this I had broke up with my girlfriend finally got her out of my house and about two-and-a-half 3 weeks later I was at the store and I ran into one of my ex-girlfriends friends sister her sister and her used to come over to my house all the time to talk to me with my ex we started talking and she asked me if I could take a look at her car and fix it maybe for her I said okay she told me where she lived and the time to be there and I was there I looked at the car told her what the problem is is she went down and got the parts I would fix it for her she said okay snow we got in my truck went to the parts store and she started asking me all these questions because my ex used to tell her and her sister about the sex that we had that night or the night before and she just wanted to know if some things are true or not.

    I started laughing and I said I'm not going to tell you we got the parts went back to her house I fixed your car went in and washed up
    She told me she had electrical problem in her room can I fix it maybe listen to give me look at it when did to her room and she had these tripods with lights on it around her bed and she had two cameras on tripods and she goes it's not what you think when we walked in there I started laughing anyway she said that it wasn't set up better plug was messed up I tested her plug it was she's right receptacle was bad I had went out to my truck and got my omh meter I walked back into her bedroom and she had changed her clothes and I really pair of short shorts and a halter top she started asking me about certain positions and certain things about the sex that I used to have with my ex
    I started laughing I said was there's like she's already told you so I just really did not feel like talking about my ex
    Anyway I fix her wall socket
    Went over and sat down on the bed we were sitting there talking and make sure I know she pushes me back on my back it starts making out with me well one thing led to another to another we ended up having sex it was a hot summer day and it was Marathon sex we were both soaking wet she said she would have become my friends with benefit I started laughing and I said okay I said you sound like your sister is she goes I heard because you're not going to be doing her are you and I said no she was my ex's best friend anyway I dig it about three weeks later I get a phone call from one of my friends and she said you're not going to believe this but when did you start making porn and I said what
    He said I'm on a porn site and I'm watching you having sex with some girl I said it's not me she said it's you
    I asked her to send me the video she did and it was me that girl at film this having sex and as far as I knew she sent it in to a porn site I went over to her house she wasn't there I left her a note I tried calling her no answer I finished writing a note that put it on their door and I was walking away she pulled up she gets out of her car it's just thank you again so much it runs so much better is she goes what's wrong she could see it on my face I said so that they they fix your car and we had sex I said you filmed us it's you as well how did you know she was even talking to my sister cuz she's the only person I told I said what because I'm so sorry yes I told her I said what did you tell her that I made a movie without you knowing it I said well which one you sent it into the porn site and she said what I said you have a friend of mine sent it to me off of a porn site she said no way cheers I'll show you what it is she walked into her house started going through something DVDs and she was started cussing she goes to her first grabs her phone calls her sister and ask if she took that movie her sister said yes and she sent it to my ex-girlfriend my ex-girlfriend sold it to a porn site which was against the law because it did not have my signature are the girls signature on it

    • By the time that I had it taken off the porn sites it cost me so much money but that porn site they sold it to other porn sites they had changed the names of the original name that the first porn site gave it so many times there was no way in the world I could afford to get all of those places to stop playing it so to this day it's still on porn sites which is bullshi So what I'm trying to say I was going to take his one day for your boyfriend to get pissed off sell it it's out there forever

  • In most western countries, it's a crime to film someone in a sexual act or in a state of (full or partial) nudity if they're somewhere they can reasonably expect privacy. Having sex behind closed doors passes the "reasonably expect privacy" test. That's just recording the video. If he does anything to share it, more crimes...

    There's no way to be sure that he's deleted every copy of the video. Send him a text, email, whatever making your wishes clear. Keep copies of the exchange. If things don't go the way you want, contact attorney general's office. That's what they're there for.

  • that shit is unethical.
    if you get the permission, then it is hella sexy when you're both trying to go for an oscar , doing your best work and enjoying it later solely at the discretion of each other. built on trust and respect.; however , i dont see that being a good idea for a friends with benefits,
    tell that nigga privllges got revoked, and he may have to be prospect or re tryout just to be a homie again.. complete flag on the play. and if he reads this, he a bitch

  • You didn't say anything because you didn't want to upset him, and now you're asking what to do? Get real. You've already made that decision by not saying anything. The video is his to do what he wants. Don't be surprised if it ends up all over the internet and your friends can all tell you how they masturbated to it.

    Next time this happens, don't worry about offending him. Take his phone and delete the video as soon as you can.

  • You need to find out if he posted it anywhere or shared it. If he has, you have to decide it you want to bring charges against him.

  • Regardless of whether or not the two of you are in a relationship he broke your trust. I wouldn’t continue hooking up with him any longer.

  • well first of all, you should say something... for example that you expect to be asked for permission. just recoding is not ok.

  • Throw him off the edge.

    • WHUT?

    • The edge of the world.

    • There’s no edge there’s a wall that even your sorry ass can’t climb

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  • That's what happens to her as a slut, now they will rotate the videos with their friends.

    I do the same with my friends.

    • So I shouldn’t be a slut. I should be forced to be in a relationship with one of you cheating pigs to cheat on me…

  • You have a right to demand he delete it. And make sure he deletes it in front of you. That’s bad for him to do that without your permission.

  • Well you can sue him for sure.

  • well 1. you shouldn't be with this person. you're too old for a friend with benefits, he's obviously a bad person and this reflects poorly on your moral choices also.

    it's time for you to go find a real relationship

    and second... there is nothing you can do. it's his private property and even in places where so called "revenge porn" laws are enacted they have mostly been struck down by the court. because you can't tell others what to do with their property

    your only option is to... own it? might aswell since you can't stop it

  • Delete that video from his phone then break up with him.

  • You can go to the police for that

  • Try to delete it before its to late

    • No it’s on his phone

    • Tell him to let you watch him delete it

    • You would do that?

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  • He wronged you... my ex girlfriend bad this habit of taking pics and snapchat videos

    • And then he sent me the video, trying to be all sweet about it. I honestly don’t know what to think of this. I told him not to put it up online.

    • I don't know how you can trust him not to, she posted me on her snap, eating her out, vids of us fuck..

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