What do I do with pushy girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I like this girl a lot but she keeps trying to push me to do things I just don't want to do. She's trying to introduce me to anal play with myself and I keep telling her no. She keeps pushing boundaries too. It sucks because I love her. Is this normal? This is the first time a woman has been so pushy with me. She claims she wants me to lead in the relationship yet she keeps pushing me to do things I just do NOT want to do because they affect me emotionally and she just sees it as "fun" sex stuff to be enjoyed. How do I get her to accept I just am not comfortable with the things she's asking me to do and accept?

[CrazyGirl2]

You need to tell her honestly that this affects you emotionally. We tend to be pretty emotionally centered, so if she knows that it’s affecting you that much, she will be more likely to stop. If she keeps doing it, she doesn’t care about you as much as either you of realizes. No woman worth her salt would ever deliberately keep asking for sexual favors that hurt the person they love… that’s a guy thing! We tend to understand more than we should, that no really does mean NO!

[loves2learn]

I would say sit her down and have you both make lists of things you want to try and things you are absolutely not ok with. Like each have a yes column and a no column. Then go through your lists together and cross off all the ones that are on someone’s no list. At the end you have a list of fun things you both want to try.
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Try the exercise again when you make it through list 1. Maybe someone’s perspective will change. Mine has a few times. :)

[Asker]

Thank you for this I appreciate it.

[loves2learn]

You are very welcome. You got this. :)

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys would love to have a girl like yours. If you're not into the same things she is and she won't accept it, you will have to find a new girlfriend.

[Asker]

You'll let a girl peg you?

[Opinion Owner]

I'd be willing to try with the right person, but if you aren't she should respect your wishes. If it's a deal breaker for her you should move on.

[Asker]

I mean do I sound unreasonable? I'm willing to eat her out, suck her toes, fuck her in the ass, I've even let her take anal from another guy. I just don't want to take it in the ass.

[Opinion Owner]

You are not being unreasonable to have limits and partners should respect each other's boundaries. She has to decide if she will be happy respecting your wishes.

[ChiPaPa]

End it. She can't respect your boundaries.

[Asker]

you think when she tells me she loves me she's lying?

[ChiPaPa]

No idea. But, it's disrespectful to keep pushing when you don't want to.

[Anonymous]

I'm not buying a word of this fiction.

[Asker]

Fine by me. You're life must be pretty bland though if you can't find something like this believable

[Opinion Owner]

You need to work on your writing skills dude. You fiction is not believable at all.

[Asker]

I got receipts buddy! Your life must really suck though lmfao. Cya

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck with your career as a fiction writer. LMAO

[Asker]

I'm guessing you're actually a boomer troll with a spare account. That or you live in the backwoods away from civilization.

[Opinion Owner]

What an intelligent and meaningful response.

[Asker]

Ask the influencer on here if it's true what I said because she was talking me through the pain last night while it had me laid up in a hospital bed. You don't need to know all the details but she knows

[Opinion Owner]

So you're sharing your fiction with her as well? Cool

[Anonymous]

personally, I would love my girlfriend to be this sexually active and creative cause those are the things that actually bring fun to the whole sex thing but I also agree that there should be some boundaries and you should be balanced between new things that are actually fun to try and things that are beyond the boundaries
the only thing you can change in this relationship is mostly yourself, don't forget that !!!

[Asker]

I'm literally down for anything but receiving anal. Why is that even a big deal?

[Asker]

Anal is for prison bitches

[Opinion Owner]

receiving, yeah it's weird but giving is different although, you would be surprised if I tell you anal is actually a way to reach orgasm faster when you came before that

[Asker]

How do you not feel emasculated after?

[Asker]

She wants me to use an ass plug

[Opinion Owner]

I never received one so I can't tell I did try to give anal to my girlfriend though

[Opinion Owner]

well you should probably talk about it to her and let her know nothing anal is gonna happen ever

[Asker]

Lol see how the opinion starts to change when objects are out in you? But I see her point about bringing us closer for having experienced the same thing. Like we can relate and women are emotional creatures

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't change my opinion but yeah if you look at it from both perspectives things start to change

[Asker]

I'm willing to do a lot for this girl, not just in the bedroom. I'm willing to alter my life, go to her church every Sunday, allow her some extra side fun, she wants a lot of kids and I'm willing to make that happen, I'm willing to move close to her family, several states away. Do I sound at all unreasonable here?

[Opinion Owner]

not at all but remember that if something happen and you lose control of the relation, you'll be left with a lifestyle filled with what you changed for her I say change some of the things that seem good and avoid things that'll make a completely new person out of you you both should accept each other as you are and try to change in a good way