What do men want in the bedroom?

[Kmarie4]

After a bump in our relationship road it feels like my partner and I have rediscovered ourselves sexually and our sex life is in the best shape ever.

my question is what do guys really want… I’ve bought new outfits for the bedroom, a new toy, we’ve explored talking dirty (only a bit) and engaged in oral (a lot). We’ve had sex all over the house.

we’ve became a lot more open about our sexuality, talking openly and I feel more confident in the bedroom already. I’ve found out that we both LOVE mutually masturbating and watching each other whilst pleasing ourselves. I’ve also found out he likes a dash of naughtiness in there by me. Such things as eye contact whilst I’m on my knees giving him head.

he’s clearly really into the ‘dirtier stuff’ and has told me he loves me to squirt on him.

we do have loving sex too it’s not all porn like!

what else do guys want? I don’t want this to fizzle out and us to go back to how we were after rediscovering all this.

we’ve reconnected due to all this and our entire relationship is benefitting massively.

[Anonymous]

What we want is not the same thing every time and not every guy wants the same things. I can tell you what turns me on.

Starting out with a back massage is great, then give me a front massage.

Give me oral sex and let me cum in your mouth. Give me oral while you are humping my thigh or fingering yourself so you cum when I cum. Give me oral, lube your finger, and give me a prostate massage while you're licking and sucking my dick.

When you've had enough foreplay, tell me "that's enough foreplay. I just need you to fuck me good and hard now."

Sit me on the couch, start some music, and then start doing a slow dance while taking off your clothes. When you pull down your panties, turn around, bend over, and spread your cheeks. Then ask me which hole I wanna fuck.

When we are out for dinner at a nice restaurant, return from the ladies room, discretely hand me your panties, then whisper in my ear how much you need to feel my dick in your pussy. I guarantee we will skip dessert.

Get on top for 69 and finger my ass while you suck my dick.

Get me in doggy position, get behind me and start giving me a hand job with lube, then start giving me a rim job at the same time.

Yeah, all of this will make me very satisfied.

[Kmarie4]

Thank you for the ideas! I know my guy isn’t in to ass play as in me playing with his ass so that’s a no go! But we have already been exploring some of the other suggestions with a very positive affect on us both!

[Andres77]

Going out on a date with no panties. Nothing revealing, just the idea that you’ve not put on panties/knickers. Masturbating her while driving, at the theater, in a dark corner in a restaurant, while she’s on the phone. Toys and veggies are fun. I personally never liked lingerie. Her being naked as much as possible in the house. Watching something kinky and when there’s a sex scene wild fantasies come out (no shame, it’s just a fantasy just because you have a fantasy does not mean that you want to fulfill it), maybe give oral during a spicy scene. The eye contact is a nice touch. Putting a pair of your panties in his briefcase or lunch or in his pocket or stashing them in his car and when you’re on the phone with him tell him to look somewhere for a little surprise. Knowing that you’re thinking about him and it makes you excited will make him excited. Calling him at work and tell him that you’re touching yourself. Masturbation on the phone is hot, he’ll come straight home 😉.

[Kmarie4]

Great suggestions thank you! I’ve never thought about the panties thing! Will give it a go! We have done the masturbation over the phone when I was away with work and it was enjoyable! Just us rediscovering each other has had a massive impact! I appreciate your reply

[Andres77]

I hope you both have an absolute blast. Best of luck.

[Andres77]

Please feel free to come back and give us a report on how much fun you’re having

[Kmarie4]

Thank you 😊

[RoseySaraah]

So so so girl ask him get him naked and you all snuggly laying on him tease him and ask your man!

Clearly he wants dirtier so maybe body writing? Give him a marker and have him write naughty things all over you le thim mark you as his... Oo love that!

Congrats on your rediscovery!

So sounds like he would love finding you naked waiting after work for him! Maybe at night sneaking a lick sucking him or letting him inside you while sleeping!

Every man is so different and sound like you two are discovering! Hoping he won't ask for a 3 some or worse

[Berethor]

Some men like when a woman ride them, nothing shows that woman loves them more. :)

[Kmarie4]

Thank you. We do this. The outfits I have strategically picked help with this. I have chosen ones which cover my tummy and this improve my confidence as that is one of the things that stops me from relaxing!

[Berethor]

Good to hear, and did you tried erotic lactation? you are having milk still no? :)

[Kmarie4]

No we stopped breastfeeding around 3 months as she was struggling to gain adequate weight

[Berethor]

I see, well then erotic lactation is not going to work, owell, keep doing other things. :)

[Kmarie4]

Thank you and thank you for your honest male advice and opinions they are much appreciated! I have had had men private message me saying I have opened myself up to them wanting me to ‘dirty message’ them which was so not the intention!

[Berethor]

Those men are thirsty, ignore them, they should get that you taken already. :)

[Kmarie4]

Exactly I came on here for advice with working on my relationship and I am not going to jeopardise that

[Summeroflove]

Well a new mattress. Mines hurting my back a bit

[jamesgoldman]

A bed, storage and a lamp at least

[Ironic_Method]

Each guy is different, we aren't a hivemind.

[Longshank]

Men want no holds barred intimate fun, they feel aroused at the thought of their loved one wanting another man and like to go into details suck as dick length and body and what they would do to their partner. They want them to give themselves and be naughty, dirty and open to most things like anal, CIM and they want them to love it! There is also time for love making and this is the opposite of above! Room for everything I guess and I’m glad you seem to be working things out x

[Kmarie4]

We are thank you. All for the better. Feels like we’ve both discovered entirely new sides to each other and gone are my own confidence and body issues because of it. Can’t keep our eyes and hands off each other both in a loving and sexual way!

[Longshank]

Yesssssss that’s honestly made me smile loads! Good for you and I sent you a message

[Kmarie4]

I can’t reply xper too low apparently

[Longshank]

Have you thought about a blow job in the cinema out in public? This will blow him away! Also you love wanking together! Put some porn on and slowly wank for at least 30 mins and you cannot touch each other! Then go for it! Explosive

[Longshank]

Try now

[balyai]

I will say everyone is different. So having a good talk about sex with your partner would really help in bed. Can you follow me? I wanna message you

[Kmarie4]

We’ve done a lot of talking and it has certainly helped! Followed.

[DetonatorXF]

Women who really feel pleasure and don't do something fake or something like that

[Kmarie4]

I did read similar in an article! Apparently when asked if guys would be a with a porn actress the majority said no because of the fakeness of it all which surprised me! So most guys love watching porn but most wouldn’t be with the woman if given the opportunity. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[DetonatorXF]

I believe most guys watch pornography as a stimulus, but what really turns them on when watching it is their imagination.

[Kmarie4]

Yes that’s something else I have learned during this. That men are more visual!

[DetonatorXF]

Aren't women visual too? Maybe it's a human thing

[Kmarie4]

Well yes I’d agree to a certain extent. To be honest I think both me and my partner are. I think what I mean is in terms of getting turned on. I can turn myself on pretty easily just thinking but I think my partner needs that stimulus like seeing me in a sexy outfit, pleasing myself or sometimes porn.

[Berethor]

@Kmarie4 porn actress have sex with many men, sure no man want to marry her.

[Kmarie4]

@Berethor no that was my thoughts! Surely that isn’t a woman a man truly wants to be his wife and mother his children? But yet men seem to enjoy watching them? It’s a strange one!

[Berethor]

@Kmarie4 yes men enjoy watching them but almost no man want to marry them.

[Kmarie4]

@Berethor that’s exactly what the studies I read said too. Suppose he gets the best of both worlds with me now haha!

[Berethor]

@Kmarie4 yea he don't have much need for porn if you doing almost all this stuff. :)

[Anonymous]

The answer depends on the guy. We are all different. But in general a woman being enthusiastic and appreciative are super important. But it sounds like you both have it figured out. You two actually sound a lot like me and my wife. We do the mutual masturbation thing a lot too, especially when we are both in the mood but not feeling that enetrgetic. We discovered we both enjoy me fingering her ass during MM. It helps her cum and makes her orgasms stronger. And it turns me on, so it's a win-win. Just keep experimenting and keeping an open mind. That will keep it interesting and evolving.

[Kmarie4]

Thank you we have definitely made a positive start which is having massive improvements In our relationship. I feel like me again, a woman and lover and not just mum and cleaner 🤣

[Opinion Owner]

That's great, I'm happy for you! Cheers