That is a tough one that I have recently had to deal with myself. A couple things to remember about p***. The first thing is that it desensitizes you to the real thing. The second thing is that it can be addictive. After the cautionary points there's the importance of emphasizing how much better than the real thing is. It's a personal decision as to how you address all of these points and many others. I don't think anger is helpful especially if you believe that he is more likely to watch it at some point then not. The fact that you're thinking about it way ahead of time means you will have plenty of time to work out the scenario and the conversation and what you want to leave him with in terms of life skills and behaviors. Good luck.
Thank you!
I'll have to say that you shouldn't react like that if that happens. Because that would scare your son or daughter and then eventually lose trust on you on some other stuff, I would talk about how watching porn may affect at the time on being with someone if is done excessively and all of that. Give advice be a parent not a punisher.
Thank you for the advice. I really will take that into consideration
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Is it wrong that I think you should try and embarrass him; by taking off your clothes and masterbating in front of him while asking him "Is this what you like?" And then having your husband come in and you give your husband a blowjob while you ask your son "Do you like it when daddy comes on mommy's face?" I think that might sufficiently traumatize him into never watching porn again. I don't know, I think my mind be a bit too devious for this situation.
Yeah wow.. dont know where that came from
There is a darkness in side of me. I'm kind of like Dexter only more sexual than homicidal. Though I usually try and keep it in check. However, I thought this would be a good forum to see if my thoughts went to far; and apparently they did, so good to know that I need to keep these thought reigned in. Thanks.
Apparently the GaG algorithm approves of my approach to shaming my hypothetical son into not watching porn. Shrug.
I wouldn’t get mad, curiosity hits kids. Depending on their age I would tell them they’re too young to be watching such things and set parental blocks on devices so they can’t access such things or if they are at least 16 I would tell them they aren’t to be watching it on a device that isn’t theirs or in the presence of others.
Do you think talking to him about never watching it again would work? If i were to explain the physiological and psychological effects it has?
I would be more simple in telling them you don’t want them to watch it because of it being potentially harmful and letting them ask questions would be better than a lecture about it. it’s more interactive that way and would be more likely to stick.
Im sure he won't feel comfortable asking questions about porn to his mother. And i dont want to be nonchalant about somthing that is serious. I think the best idea is to let my husband talk to him. My husband has watched it twice in his entire life (when he was younger) and knew it was wrong and felt a spiritual condemnation for it.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!My mother caught me watching porn and masturbating more than once. She saw it as normal for a male when he hit puberty. That is the way you need to see it, boys sex drives skyrocket when they hit puberty. Girls have an increased sex drive as well, and they also masturbate, but boys tend to react to the increased sex drive more. Likely due to the differences between testosterone and estrogen as they have seen in many studies.
So you shouldn’t be angry about your son watching porn or masturbating. It’s a natural reaction and drive in boys when they hit puberty. They can’t control that drive, so getting angry at him and punishing him for something that is natural will cause psychological trauma.
Honestly, if you don’t want your son watching porn, but you also don’t want to belittle him for natural desires, you could always buy a sex toy. There are plenty on the market now, they aren’t actually that taboo, there is nothing wrong with them. It would permit your son to act on the natural urges while also not using porn. The truth is you need to be honest and talk with your son about it. Don’t get embarrassed or belittle him. Talking about it helps get the point across that you don’t like porn, but also end up not having the effect of making a boy feel wrong for their natural desires. But to have that kind of honesty you need to start young, boys will need to be conditioned to be open with you. Most boys are conditioned to believe their emotions don’t matter, and they hold everything in. By conditioning a boy to be more open with emotions with loved ones and being honest and talking to him like an adult even when he is little, you’ll be able to talk about such topics with little embarrassment.
My mother didn’t react badly when she caught me, she didn’t really care about porn one way or the other. I lost my virginity when I was 13, and my mother knew about it, she actually bought my first box of condoms. But because of that, I didn’t have to be like most boys, I never had guess work regarding sex (specifically safe sex) or embarrassment when buying condoms. So I never got any STI’s, never got any girls pregnant accidentally, and I’m far more confident then most men. So embracing sexuality as something natural rather than a taboo can have many beneficial effects.
My mom caught me when I was younger. She made me turn the computer off and had a talk with me. She said I shouldn't be watching that stuff, not because it's wrong, but because women don't really look like that, and watching porn too much will create an unreal expectation.
I always remembered that conversation with my mom. It wasn't long after we had a birds and the bees talk. I knew a lot of it already of course but she was always clear with me that sex was a good thing, but that it was also a risk, and that includes porn.
Did you continue to watch it
Yeah I was just a lot sneakier.
You do nothing. You make sure that he knows the meaning of consent and how to practice safe sex and the consequences of unsafe sex. What exactly do you imagine porn can do to a person?
It causes desensitization. Can potentially cause relationship problems in the future. It can cause sexual dysfunction, such as ED or prolonged sex due to stimulation deprievment. Its addictive. As well as viewing women objectively as sexual objects instead of viewing women with upmost respect and diginity.
If it does these harms to every men, then you don't have to worry as there will be no kids born in the future. Not all people are too sensitive to these stuff
This is all claimed by the anti-porn people but none of this has been proven through serious study. We've had porn since people learned to draw in the dirt with a stick and somehow life has continued. Plenty of people who look at a lot of porn are in healthy relationships. Plenty of people who never look at porn are in horrible relationships.
depending on his age at the time. you can either catch watching porn. which you might not like him doing. or you can catch him with girls. which will most likely end up as him being a teenage parent. since protection is one of the last things you think about in your teenage years with raging hormones. possibly catch him with other boys even.
Mom: WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING
Son: Nothing important son shutting tv off
Mom: Sorry about yelling, I was just shocked when I saw you watching porn
Son: No worries
Mom: Turn it back on and I will explain it all to you mom sitting down
Son: No thanks mom I really should be doing my homework
Mom: Now remember if you need to watch it again let me know
Son: No need to worry I had enough to last a life time.
Son: Damn I got to find a much safer place
Lol absolutely not. Mom: what are you watching? Son: oh nothing turns off compute Mom: im going to have your father talk to you when he gets back from work about this. I dont want to see it ever again.
Son: then knock next time
I will say "oh, son, sorry you whas having an intimate moment" and live, later when he finish i will ask him who whas that girl, how did he finde her, if he know some more.
Later talk to him normaly like man to man how is sex and how all this thing whit porn work like, when you are horny as hell ok, but try to finde a girl much more then to look for porn and just bethwin me and you son... if you want me to not tell you're mom bether tell me all about all the girl you finde.
Like:
Name
Age
How nay movie she made
What she do on thous
How hot is for him
(boys talk...)
Let boy watch.
Tell him to stop jerk in it and get a girlfriend. Semi- Public embarrassment. Or have his father talk to him.
Porn isn't the issue tho
You think it would be wise to tell him to go find a real girl to have sex with instead? What is wrong with people
If your son watching porn like that he's probably going to grow up and be a incel. He needs to socialize with female. He ain't got to fck them. But he has to much free time on his hand
The question was how to handle it if i ever find it. How should to first conversation about pron go or consist of
The type of woman that can go as far as changing genders to her son and force him to become gay. You're only against porn because it enables men to enjoy nude women without wasting their money on them. There's plenty of girls that enjoy porn. I even enjoyed with regularly with a girlfriend I had. But of course when girls enjoy it then it's fair play.
Or they could be reapectful and only be sexual with a girl they love and not objectify women or spend money on hookers lol
oh yeah. the objectify card. Women LOVE to be objectified. You do that on your own. You too. You are a sex object that has nothing to offer besides sex. What you call "love" in your stupid female brain means "give me". That's why you ask for "love" and commitment. Give me money, give me happiness, give me attention, give me your dick, give me a house, give me free drinks and meals give me give me give me give me and give me again. Every time a man stops giving you start with your tempter tantrums screeching that he doesn't love you anymore. All this drama just so he can get a chance to ejaculate into your vagina. So yeah, hookers and porn are the best things in life. You hate it. Because it means less resources for you.
Lol actually I am the one who gives. Im the one who pays, buys, takes care of. So your view on me is very much the opposite of what I am. I give to my partner and love to. So i expect them to respect my needs as well.. which is the need to express sexuality together as a act of love towards eachother.
Accept that every guy does it at some point. What about your husband?
My husband agrees thats its wrong. Of course boys are curious but they still need to know the consequences
Did he ever watch porn?
He watched it twice with a friend when he was 14. And said that he thought it was disgusting and wrong and didn't feel right wathcing it
What would you want your parent (s) to do if they caught you watching porn?
Tell me its wrong. Because thats the truth. Id rather be humiliated and embarrassed then to think its okay. I dont think its somthing that God would want in my life and whatever needs to happen to make sure that im living a godly life is what I accept.
I think you have your answer
Let him watch.
And why do you think i should
Do you watch porn? If yes you've no right to stop your child from watching porn
No and neither does my husband
The father should handle this.
I might give him some of my collections 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
It depends on his age, some others have given very good opinions on this issue.
Obviously I will install parental control in my system till he is at least 14 so that he may not even watch it accidentally.
I think it will be better to make him capable of understanding what he wants and take his own decision.
You can introduce your child to the world of reading from a very young age. Books are really helpful in shaping an individual.
You can also give him religious education.
If you can lay down a strong foundation, then he will be able to assess what is right for him.
Even if he or she prefers to watch porn, it may not do much harm to them
understand his need and advise him to get a gal
if u don't do that he'll not understand his child too
Watching porn and masturbating is not bad infact it's good as it develops the mind of an early teenager about sexual stuff and masturbating is needed in puberty but overdoing that can cause trouble. So you need to be friendly if you find your son doing that and let him do that with peace at that time even if he sees you and get afraid you need to calmly tell him to finish that without tension and leave the room , after that you can tell him that he need to reduce masturbation as it can cause many health issues and also overdoing it affects the quality of sperm. But you need to be her friend otherwise he will misunderstand ur calmness with the fact that you are interested in his penis (porn logic that children catch easily) so you have to be clear about these thoughts to him if you don't want any incest fun with him
Masterbation is normal. But porn creates a mind set that women are sexual objects and every single guy i know that watches porn see women that way and doesn't really view them with dignity and respect. They domt attack women but they dont really mention anything other than physical sexual features
No men watches women with respect and dignity until he knows her whether they watch porn or not , respect and dignity can only come when we interact with people or until people know about us (this is the case with famous people ) and as you said women are seen as sex objects but same goes for men. And children only need to be taught that it's masturbation part of life so they can do that in limit and they are going to get sex when they will be of the right age and this creates a mental peace in them that won't let them grow mad about sex
Do nothing
And why not?
He’ll probably still end up watching it anyway. He’s gonna tell his friends how embarrassing it was for you to talk about that stuff to him
Hmm. Well maybe my husband could be the one who talks to him. He is very agaisnt it as well.
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