What do you do when you are about to cum? Stop? Go harder/faster/deeper?

When you tell your lady you are about to cum when she is on top, what do you want her to do with that information?

Ladies - feel free to weigh in if you have something to share.
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  • I like to let them know verbally by saying something along the lines of "I can't take any more of you" and I will slow down and take control of the situation (more so than usual, I suppose).
    I get a little tunnel visioned, I honestly just want to hold them down and control the strokes as I like them until I'm done.

    If they are on top of me, I want them to give up control, lean over and let me thrust instead.

    • I like it when my man does exactly this too

  • I tell her so she can decide if she wants me to cum inside. If not then she can get off and i can finish in towel or wherever. But if she wants to blow it inside of her then i grab her hips and shove myself as deep as i can and blow my load every last drop. Mmmmm

    • Mmhmm. I like it when my husband does the second one. Lol

    • It's awesome right!! 😄

    • It is awesome!

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  • it all depends on what activity you’re talking about. for blowjobs - i’d want her to continue doing what she’s doing - faster and deeper if possible, but if she can’t cope with the speed, please just don’t stop! i’ve had experiences where i was about to ejaculate and i lost it because she stopped what she was doing. playing with my balls and pulling down on them when i’m about to cum (and when i’m cumming) feels heavenly. i tend to use ball stretchers when i masturbate with sex toys and so, having the girl pull down on them also give the same sensations and pleasure. i feel that in my opinion, sloppy head and deepthroat feels best as an orgasm approaches - try to use less teeth and ramp it up with the tongue and hand action. when i tell her that i’m cumming, having her stroke me off into her mouth as she continues sucking feels the absolute best - nothing ever compares to that.


    during sex - i tend to go faster, harder and try to hit it as deep as i can. i love the feeling of her walls grip around me as i approach my orgasm. i love it when she strokes my body with one hand, while using her other hand to play with my balls. i hate stopping when i’m close to orgasm as it feels nowhere as good as thrusting it in and out at maximum speed!

  • I usually just tell her to stop or go really slow because I want to ride the orgasm out and kind of edge if possible. If I'm on top or doing her doggy then I have the control and I'll slow it down and usually I tell her I'm coming so she can come with me, or if I've been controlling her orgasms for the session I'll give her permission to come just before I do.

    Another thing I'll do is tell her to squeeze her pussy tight around my cock right when I'm about to come as that adds to my pleasure as well. But if she's on top, mostly I just have her slow it down a bit.

  • Turn the wand to the highest vibration to put myself over the edge.

    • Lol. .

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    • Lol you know it 😉

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  • If I’m about to cum it depends on how long I’m trying to have her to last. If she already reaching her limit then I go fast and try and finish at the same time. If she still got enough in the tank I go slower but grab her hips and go deep strokes while I want her to go faster. It just depends on whether we trying to fuck till we pass out or just for a little bit.

  • Rise up a bit so I can jack hammer her deep, hard and fast. Then sit down and mash her ass down, press her pussy against me, and swallow me as deep as possible when I cum. After my first few ejaculations, she can rock her hips slowly forward and back with her labia pressed against me. Let me feel my cock stirring deep inside her.

  • I LVOE having an EQUAL woman, and I love when she is on top, or a lot of other positions, but it's difficult to control, when she is on top, and even "Grandma thoughts" can't stop the orgasm, mostly, because she is THAT AMAZING!!

  • I usually don't have a decision. I say I am close to cumming and she rides hard and fast. She doesn't slow down or stop after I cum. She keeps on getting it and then I get paralyzed from the sensation after cumming. Got me looking like Robocop.

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  • I just keep doing what I'm doing until I'm done doing it. No change in tempo though. That messes with the climax.

  • Generally, when I tell him I’m about to cum I mean what you’re doing is working, I’m really close, and keep doing it exactly the same way. Same for when I’m on top. When I’m close, I keep at it the same way. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it lol

    When he’s close, he does go a little faster or if I’m on top guide my hips or ask me to go faster.

  • I mean if a man says he’s cumming, he can delay about a few seconds then nothing is stopping that force of nature 🤣🤣.


    Now lasting longer? That took years of experience, edging, practice and practice. I can last up to an hour or more, but I didn’t just had that overnight. Now everyone has to go through different things to get there, some have a natural ability while others have to learn that skill.

  • if she's on top and i'm close i will guide her and tell her don't stop

  • Good question first of all! My man like it on the slower side until he's about to cum then I go faster and blow his mind

    • haha that's the best!

  • Little harder yet deeper thrusts until it is done then longer slower thrusts until it is that moment where i just get back to the pounding her so we can keep going as it is even more stimulating to her when she is already right there and we go another round by now she is clawing and Cumming hard and just super stimulated.

  • Cum, since that's what she's doing at the moment. Why? Is there any other favorable outcome to sexual intercourse we blokes aren't currently aware of?
    Besides, it's pointless for me to inform her verbally of something she is already intimately aware of.

    • One time in our youth hubs told me he was cumming and I stopped and I stopped. He was all “why did you stop?” 🤣 Whoops.

    • If this was an unfavorable outcome for you😳, than sorry🥺!

    • No worries! Everyone is different.

  • I keep going, thrusting upwards She will usually keep riding until she’s done or she’ll transition to kneeling over my face and let me finish her

  • I ain't had sex in 4 years so I'm just here for curiosity and read the comments.

  • Most guys’ve like you to ride harder faster when they say that

    • Sorry about before

    • @newfreshstart it’s ok. Talk some other time?

    • Would you be up Just for a friendly chat now?

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  • I like her to let me grab her hips and thrust into her harder and deeper. She likes it too.

    • I like that too

  • Normally, I'd go in deeper to make sure the sperm stayed deep inside her but, from what I can remember, the last few times I fucked, I actually came close to pulling it out as I came!! I think it's to do with her labia rubbing against the head of my dick (my clit).
    Usually, I DON'T tell her I'm gonna cum! Not that it's ever happened but, it assures me that I'm gonna cum IN her instead of ON her! In a way, knowing she's gonna LET me cum in her makes me cum harder!
    Now, if she WAS on top (that's happened a few times) and I told her I was about to explode, I'd hope that she'd get excited about it and fuck me even harder or faster to make me cum harder.

  • We have been married so long we do not have to verbalize what we want.

    • Apparently 20 years isn’t long enough. 🤣 But we’ve been trying new things.

    • I can tell by facial expressions and how fast she moves. Also breathing and when she smiles.

    • Yup. Hubs says he loves watching me smile like that.

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