What do you feel about your husband having secret sites where he looks at porn? ?

Question

Found out my husband has an onlyfans account and logs into other poem sites.

Effably · Accepted Answer

Poem sites! That dirty...

"... Oh panteth he lies and breatheth on her face
She feedeth om the steam as on prey
An calls it moisture, air of grace
Wishing her cheeks were gardens full of flowers..."

Scandalous really.
Jokes aside, if he feels the need to actively hide it, that says that it is bad. Not to say he has to inform you. Otherwise I find poem watching (!) to be acceptable and fine. OF is a greyzone. Hiding it from a spouse is clearly in the red.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Is sex with him okay? Then if so, I'm not concerned about the porn (or poem 😉 ) or OF sites.

I'd be concerned about two things.

First, don't pay for OF. Free sites offer plenty. Just don't pay.

Second, he's hiding it from you. That's bad.

Fix those two and, as long as your sex life is good, don't worry about the watching. Or the poems.

AllAloneInTheWorld · Accepted Answer

As long as he was honest with me about it, I wouldn't care

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would dump his pathetic ass in a heartbeat.

Adam1978 · Answer

There is a problem if he actually pay for that content. You should ask yourself what do you do in your sex life, if he needs and have time to consume these types of contents.

MementoMori777 · Answer

You should confront him about it, you can't expect change if he thinks he's in the clear and you just let it happen.

Avicenna · Answer

Not cool. Have you talked to him about it?

Dargil · Answer

My informal rule is nothing interactive. GAG is the only interactive site I use and no flirting, just q and a.

megabamse · Answer

Let's put it like this. What is better, looking at porn to masturbate where he never physically meet anyone or anything like it. Or that he physically meet someone and have sex? It's just masturbating, it's perfectly natural. Even woman does it.

Wise4myage · Answer

What's he hiding?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You aren't keeping his attention.

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

Not a big deal as long as he's not physically cheating. Almost everyone looks at porn

brandon1122 · Answer

It will be a problem for you if he doesn't stop. I've come around people who say they are fine, their partner watching porn. After a while, it gets worse.

NYlatefun · Answer

Honestly I think the problem is bigger than that. I’d focus on the reason he does that. It could be a communication problem between the two of you or unfulfilled sexual desires. But it could also be an addiction. Hard to tell. I’d def talk to him.