What do you guys suggest about my daughter doing porn?

She is 22 and I have discovered that she regularly posts explicit photos of herself in many accounts with fake names!!! What should I do? How can I convince her to stop?

What do you guys suggest about my daughter doing porn?
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  • Dear Anonymous,

    I hope this finds you well. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to make her stop, her stopping will be of her own decision. However….. she needs your help. Desperately. She is hurting and looking for validation, and has turned to porn to find it. She is in a dark place and as her dad she needs your unconditional love.

    That does not mean you must support her in this (porn is very destructive, both to the person watching and participating). I don’t know your relationship with her, but this would be a good time to reflect on your relationship.

    QUESTIONS, QUESTIONS, QUESTIONS. In your communication always be asking her questions. Questions about her, questions about how she views her relationship with you. What is she going through. Take interest in her, and her life. If you have been lacking in this area of your life now is a good time to start gradually fixing this. This will take time, there is no quick solution to this. It is through asking her questions will she feel safe and comfortable around you to open and share about what she is doing. This isn't about how her actions make YOU feel. this is about her. I would not tell her that you know, she will tell you when she feels safe. It might take years maybe never that she admits to you what she has done. But this isn’t something that people just jump into doing. This was a long time in the making.

    Most importantly put this problem on God. He knows your pain, He has promised you “I will never leave you nor forsake you”. He wants to help you in this as in all areas of life. Ask him for guidance, strength, and knowledge about how to handle this and He will deliver. Do not be tempted to give your un-asked for opinion to her. When she is ready she will ask. AND WHEN SHE DOES do so in a very simple and straight forward manner. Keep it short. Show her that you love her, no mater what.

    I hope this helps friend, maybe one day our paths will cross. Until then God bless you.

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  • Oh man... I feel for you. Honestly. I have nightmares about that shit... and I don't even have a daughter. I can't imagine how you're feeling to be honest.

    The problem is... I don't think there's anything you can really do to stop her. Not as her father. She knows damn-well that you wouldn't be ok with what she's doing. At best, you can emberass her by telling her that you know what she's doing. And... maybe... knowing that you know and are really upset about it... might... maybe get her to re-think what she's doing... but honestly probably not.

    What it comes down to is: As a father, your opionion about this carries zero weight. She KNOWS you wouldn't approve of this. She would EXPECT you to want her to stop. The fact that you (her father) thinks this is a bad thing for her to be doing... is, unfortunately, irrelevant to her. A girl just isn't going to see "the error of her ways" when it comes to something like this... simply because her dad thinks what she's doing is wrong/bad.

    I wish I had some useful advice for you here. But I don't. At best, you can let her know that you're disappointed in her. But I wouldn't expect that to make any difference when it comes to her choosing to continue doing this. I'm sorry man. I wish I had a better answer.

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  • Is she doing nude pics/videos only or having sex with others doing porn?

    Either way, she is an adult and if she enjoys showing herself off, she might get off on that and like it.

    If it is nudes only without a partner she might like showing off and prob has been doing that for years.

    If making real porn and getting paid for it, she might be doing it for money and can't find a better job.

    You could also say, I know your doing this. Want any help making new content? That could freak her out to not want to do it anymore.

    Could also be like, I enjoy what you make, can't wait for your next release.

    I don't see much of a way you can stop her, love her and find out why she is doing it. Money or fun, money can hopefully help her find another way to make the same amount of money for same amount of work, if for fun... well that goes into kinks and fetishes or other sexual fun that is hard to ask to stop.

    • She does it because she is a modern hoe.

  • There’s little you can do when your child is an adult. They grow up and make their own decisions, whether they’re good or bad. She’s still your daughter. Just love her but let her know you disagree with her choices and why. Getting angry or disowning her like others are suggesting will just push her in the direction she’s already going. To have any kind of positive influence, you need to maintain a good relationship with her.

    • My thoughts exactly 💯!!!

    • @SamE86 it's self d destruction, that's what parents r there to do... guide children... sure she's older, but wow remind her.. hey remember I taught you the things I did...

    • Nah you made that choice freely and if you're still going to do that, then the man has the right to disown his daughter. And if it pushes her further, tough shit. You're not allowed back in the house

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  • So, as a similar aged woman, who has done similar things...

    Why is this such a big deal? Sending nude or sexy pics makes you feel sexy and desired and if she is making money from it, all the better.
    She is an adult, doing something that is fun, is safe (would you rather her be a prostitute or work in a strip club). And there are MILLIONS of girls doing it, if you are suggesting that she won't get a job or a husband because she has shown her bits on the internet, then that in misogyny in its purest form.

    Are you worried about her reputation or yours?

  • Simply explain to her that you won't support those activities and you are well aware of it. She can kiss any hope of getting a yes from any man that comes from that tree she is chasing goodbye. And the reason you and her mom met wasn't cause the internet.

    She can choose keep persuing the actions she's doing and she has till the end of the month.

    Or find a job/career path that leads to something actually interesting. And she can stay.

    I got three nieces, two of which are twins that were exposed to this topic and I made it pretty damn clear what I thought of the porn industry. While I respect it, I made it clear that its lonely path to journey and I will have no part with it. Note for my nieces I'm also a step fatherish role simply cause their dads are "contractors" that work out of country so I've taken responsibility for them but I can relate to this exact topic. And I made it very clear what my stance is on it.

    "Sex/nudity an act that is considered sacred to many and not something to just share unless you lack the dignity to grasp, what dignity is. Lots of people judge the value of a person by what they give for free."

  • Remember there's more money in the incest stuff.

    • Really

    • You’re disgusting 🤮

    • That's Hella weird

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  • She's an adult and seems to be making her decision based on what she wants. The only thing you can and should do is be there for her. Even if you don't outright agree with her, giving her the support and help she needs, even just letting her know you are always there for her, will go a long way.

    If she transitions to mainstream porn, she may definitely need you at some point. It's a brutal business, although it is becoming safer for performers. But even if you don't like what she's doing, pushing her away and trying to force her to stop will only distance you two and strain your relationship. You really want her to be there? Make sure you're there for her, regardless of her doing porn or not.

  • You need to explain to her that the highest value men never want something very serious with a woman who does that kind of thing. This kind of behavior does not lead to being a particularly good mother to a man's kids. If she wants a really good man who will take care of her and commit to her, then this will hurt her in the long run. She will end up settling for a guy who isn't as good as she hoped for, and he will be leagues below whoever she could have got if she didn't follow the other sheep in this behavior. And the guys who don't take her seriously? They will mostly just use her, and many of them will lie to her about wanting something when they just want what she is "advertising" online. It will be much harder than it already is to find a guy who is actually serious.

    She probably thinks she is immune to consequences because she is young, but the years fly by and she will find herself in a tough spot sooner than she realizes.

  • Start by showing her the Quartering's latest video about what OnlyFans girls have started complaining about. The bill always comes due.

  • She's a adult so stay out of her business. There is really nothing you can do about it anyways

  • Look up Fight The New Drug

    That website has tons of articles and empirical research on the harmful effects of porn. The non-profit organization is non-religious and only seeks to inform people.

  • Support her if she wants to do it, she's her own person.

  • It's already to late, damage is done.

  • Just be compassionate and a little stern to her and explain to her that she is making a big mistake , that she is putting herself at risk of catching STD’s and degrading herself , and can get wrapped up with the wrong people and regret everything , telll tell her she deserves better than this shit and that money isn’t everything , when a daughter hears her father being worried and compassionate usually a daughter will take that into consideration and realize it is stupid

    To do , if she still chooses To do it then just tell hey it’s your Life and I am sorry you didn’t want to take my advice but I pray for you and hope you find it in your heart that how stupid this is. But best of luck to you and say I guess I wasn’t a good father to you because in no way shape or form did I ever want my baby to do shit like this , I am sorry you are choosing this path , you could do so much better and then walk away

  • Obviously don't join in. But that doesn't seem like she's doing porn, and more like she's got mental issues going on.

  • Nothing.

    She is lost. She has crossed that line that you can never undo. She's stained her life in such a way that there is no coming back.

    Just disown her and cut her out of your life.

    • What? It's his daughter. If he cuts tied because of this, he is the one that is going to regret it.

    • That's ignoring all the porn stars who've gone on to have successful careers in other fields

    • @Sirenboobzilla "CAREERS" You are basically viewing everything through a lens of money. You get some money, so all is ok. It doesn't always work like that.

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  • She is 22? Isn't she in college or not in college. Cuz man in college 😂 you find anything, i mean anything.

    She is an adult now, she exposed herself already. Anyone now can use a phone camera scan a picture a walla it pops many pictures. You can't do nothing. Let consequences occur. I understand is a daughter. She knows right and wrong. Specially sex attachments as in STD's and so on.

    The fact is totally you fault for not teaching her values.

    The question is how long has she been doing this before? As early ages. That says a lot no attention was given. Seeks attention from others by exposing herself and affection.

  • I doubt you'll get through to her at this point. You only get 18 years to protect their innocence and instill the importance for them to maintain as they out on their own.

    Most get corrupted when they go off to universities though. I think it would hit her harder if her mom expressed her disappointment.

  • If she is earning good income then it might be hard. At least tell her she'll devalue her value to guys as they'll think she is doing paid sex as well.

    Maybe threatening to tell people might do it. Engage the matriarchy too. If she would be embarrassed at it being known then point out she shouldn't do what she is embarrassed at doing.

    Difficult. Best of luck.

  • She of age, so nothing you can really do. You can do a few things
    Remind her to just say no to drugs!
    Invest her money wisely
    And for you
    Don’t ask why
    Don’t tell
    AND
    Don’t watch! That would be very weird

  • Honestly at her age I don't think there's but you can do. You can tell her you know what she's doing and you don't agree with it but you can't force her to stop it. You can guide her and try to understand why is she choosing the "easy" way to do things. Explain to her that this will only work short term she's not going to be young and beautiful forever and she should have a plan for the future if she wants to have a stable life.

  • What you can do is talk to her.

    You can't stop her, she is of legal age

    You never know maybe a talking (without fighting or yelling) her might, just might mind you to get her to stop.

    See many people get a thrill, a rush, excitement from doing such daring acts.

    Kinda like the thrill a skydiver or race car driver gets.

    At least hear her side of the story

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