What do you guys think of this? Is it okay?

Question

So my boyfriend and I have sex with a condom (always) and I know the point of the condom is to catch the cum/sperm so there’s not much point in asking if he may cum inside. I personally like the feeling of him saying he’s cumming inside me but still every time he cums he says “I’m cumming” and instantly releases. Ok he says it but there’s not much time for reaction. I guess my question is, is it okay for him to just announce it and assume I’m okay with it and proceed with doing it inside the condom (while its in me)? Or should he ask even though we are using protection? I know I am perfectly capable of telling him if anything but I just wanna see what y’all think ig.

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

Main purpose of wearing a condom is to stop pregnancy and protect against std's. Assumption is if I was wearing a condom I'm not going to have to pull out to cum. Same goes for any other birth control.

If the woman said I want you to pull out when your cumming they I would respect them whishes.

As far as him proclaiming he's about to cum it's more about getting caught up on the moment. I do it too mainly because I want my girlfriend to tell me how much she wants me to fill her... usually a moan or a grunt is enough to know she is ready for it and helps push me over the edge.

Mystery1900 · Accepted Answer

If we are having sex I tend to assume the woman is happy for me to ejaculate inside, whether or not I’m wearing condom. If she asks me not to then I respect that pull out before ejaculating. I may say I’m cumming, more to share the moment, I wouldn’t be expecting her to ask me to pull out at that moment. Once I start to cum it’s physically impossible to stop the ejaculation, so if he says he’s cumming then he probably is. I suppose if you didn’t want him to cum in his condom while inside you perhaps talk to him about it beforehand.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To be honest, it’s never occurred to me that a guy would ask if he could cum inside with a condom. I always just assumed that was the point of wearing one. I’m ok with it. Now if we’re not using a condom, then yes, he definitely would need to ask before letting loose inside me.

Venting101 · Accepted Answer

Why would he need to ask if he has a condom on, its not like you have told him not to? If you don't want him cuming even when wearing one, you need to say something.

Boromir · Answer

He’s wearing a condom, he’s covered. Asking you for permission to come almost feels like a dom/sub relationship…

summiter · Answer

Good for you in using a condom every time! I think all he is saying that is to let you know that he is approaching or having an orgasm. I think it is ok to say that. How is your sex life with him otherwise?

JPresidente · Answer

I don’t think it’s a problem if he’s wearing a condom. Men and women like to announce when they’re cumming during sex. It makes it hot and you know from your partner that he/she came.

Gilgalad · Answer

It's up to you. Whatever pace is comfortable for you. I will say that if you are always using a condom then you are pretty safe when your boyfriend ejaculates.