What do you think about a girl that got pregnant from a guy she just met and didn't know and hadn't seen since?

Like at a music festival or something.
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  • It happens. Men and women enjoy - and to some extent need - sex. It is a natural instinct and when a human male and female meet and "have the right chemistry" their natural instincts may take over.

    Been there, done that. I met this gal at a business event, I did not know her and had never met her before but for whatever reason we hit it off. Things got sort of "flirty" - for lack of a better term - and just escalated.

    So we went back to her place, originally just for a drink - or at least that was the theory - and we ended up having sex. Important note, as it was not planned it was unprotected sex. So I spent the night, we had some more sex in the morning and I left. We never spoke or saw each other ever again. In my mind - and I guess her's - it was just a really good night.

    Flash forward to about 2 1/2 years ago. I get a phone call. It was the same woman. It turns out that I had gotten her pregnant. She decided to have the baby but decided to raise him - a boy - without me, and so did not tell me she was pregnant.

    Then she decided - again about 2 1/2 years ago - that our son needed his father in his life. So she tracked me down - which probably not that easy - and informed me that I was a father. A test confirmed it and so now I have a son in his early teens in addition to the three children - two boys, one girl (10, 9 and 7) - that I have with my girlfriend.

    That said, I don't regret that night one bit. I am not going to lie - it was awkward at first getting to know my son. However, I have to give his mom credit. She raised a good kid. He is well mannered, treats his younger half siblings and my girlfriend like gold and we have developed a warm and - dare I say it - loving relationship. I am wildly proud of him, and while he still lives with his mom - whom I confess I still don't know that well - he has stayed with us at holidays and summer breaks and he means the world to me as much as my three other children.

    My only regret is that it does hurt that I was not part of his life till now. I would have loved to hold him as a baby - yes, when it comes to my children as my girlfriend will tell you, I am the biggest milksop - and see him grow. Still I am blessed to have him in my life and part of my family.

    All I can say is that I guess it was the best one night stand I ever had. Bottom line, though, it is not that a girl had sex and got pregnant. It is rather about how she handles it. In the case of my oldest son's mother, she stepped up to the plate. She followed her instincts and she responsibly handled the consequences.

    Have to say, we don't know each other that well. However, I have a certain respect and admiration for her. We gave into our instincts that night (and the following morning, actually), but she handled it like a thinking adult. Hard not to admire that, even if I wish she had let me a part of our son's life sooner.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Honestly, I think what a dumbass. If you are the type of person that goes to music festivals and has unprotected sex in todays world with birth control, morning after pill and all the alternatives that are easily available to you... then you're not a slut but, your a dumbass. If I was the guy, that got with a girl one time at a music festival then I would want a maternity test, because there is no way I am going to believe that you didn't do that with 6 other guys before or after me.

    Sure you can put some responsibility on the guy, but in the end its your body and your responsibility. If you're going to have unprotected sex with a guy then the guy is going to assume you got your birth control shit figured out...

    I am prepared for the argument that people make about birth control not being 100%. That's true, but my ex wife used it for 15 years and there were no accidents... but we were not hooking up with randoms at a music festival... so we were not being stupid but responsible.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Risky behavior has potential outcomes. This is not and ideal situation unless of course she wanted to get pregnant and be a single mom...

  • A bit irresponsible but what if she wanted to have a stranger's baby. That's a whole other story lol.

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  • I would think that she wasn't very smart.

  • I don’t think about her truthfully given there is God’s life being given. I’m both happy and sad for them too. The child will find in God or in the world, a father…. This is when Sovereignty is precious.

  • Sounds like she got the foreseeable conquences of her actions and probably never thought about it until it was too late.

  • accidents do happen. but i do hope it was from birth control failing rather than anything else.

  • I'd think, "let's hope she doesn't make any more poor decisions. For her child's sake."

  • She is weak minded, has poor logic, and is statistically contributing to the number of children who are abused and grow up to be criminals.

  • She made a very stupid choice.

    I will never understand why people who don't want kids, or worse deadly stds have sex without birth control or condoms.

    So basiclly I think she's an idiot, put her whole live in jeopardy for 20 minutes of fun, geuss she should just be happy she didn't catch hiv or aids.

    Like really a woman can get laid anytime they want with very little effort, no reason to do it without a condom, also fyi, women can carry condoms too...

    • I think you mean they... it was his dick inside her, and he could worn a condom. They are equally responsible for what happened.

    • No not really, she's the one that gets stuck with a kid, especially when it with a guy she dosent know at all from a music festival. Did they even exchange numbers? There may be zero ways for her to even let him know she's pregnant. He can just walk away and not have the kid, I'm not saying he's allowed to, I'm saying he can. He was dumb cause he could have got an std from her, she was dumber cause she could have got an std and DID get pregnant.

    • its still his kid, and his responsibility. She could just walk away from it too if she decided to... it takes two to tango and both are equally responsible as long as both parties were consenting.

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  • That she isn’t the sharpest tool in the shed.

  • you played with fire and got burned.

  • I think she and the guy messed up.

  • It happens all the time. Perhaps she should have been more careful. Or maybe she wanted to get pregnant.

  • I think it turns you on

    • what do you mean?

    • I believe you know my opinion, it doesn't bother me whatsoever.

  • She needs to be careful next time and not make the same mistake.

    • Unless she actually wanted to get pregnant and is ok with the pregnancy then more power to her...

  • shit happens and people are entitled to make stupid decisions when they have fun. but the next day they should be responsible

  • Not a good idea but I wouldn’t shame her for it or anything

  • Good luck lmao

  • Well, I'd feel sorry for her to some extent, but she should have been more careful.

  • Perhaps casual sex is a bad idea.

  • She needs to make better life decisions.

  • Yes, this is sad for sure

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