What do you think of people who pay prostitutes for sex?

I know one in particular who is extremely pathetic and pussyish. No wonder he has to pay. But not all people are like that. What do you think? :)
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Lol. I am not talking about the prostitute. I mean the man or woman paying for sex as if they can't get it for free... haha
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  • Well, my biggest problem with men (and in well over 90% of the cases it's men) who have sex with a prostitute is that they are throwing money at an industry that is notorious for how poorly it treats women. How do they KNOW for certain that she's not being forced into this life? How do they KNOW for certain she isn't acting out because she was abused (and a very disproportionate number of pros were sexually abused as children)? Do they know her profession is much more dangerous than a liquor store clerk working the graveyard shift? There is so much that they absolutely don't know about this person, and probably can never know. And yet they just go and throw money at this industry.

    Yet on the other hand, I do feel very sorry for the lonely. You say, "it is not hard to get laid for free" and for the most part you are correct. But for some it is next to impossible to get laid. Growing up around disabled people, I've met many of them. They're disfigured, or they have slurred or slow speech, or poor mental faculties, or a combination of these things which makes them sadly undesirable to virtually everyone. I've a friend, my age, with FAS who hasn't even so much kissed a woman. In some cases, the men are so unattractive that the only people from whom they can get it for free are themselves unattractive, and generally speaking, ugly people don't desire other ugly people any more than you or I, RationalLioness (though frankly, a LOT of pros I've seen are themselves pretty unattractive). I feel very bad for these people, yet even in their case I am very reluctant to support their paying for sex because it's such a crappy industry to many women (please note I said many, I did not say all)

    I think I might support sexual surrogacy, or legalized prostitution under HIGHLY regulated conditions. Prostitutes under those circumstances seem to do better, though I could be wrong.

    Tell me about this "extremely pathetic and pussyish" acquaintance of yours. Is he a friend? Did he ever ask your advice? What did you tell him? What would you tell him face to face?

  • I don't care what people do with their money. I am for the "pursuit of happiness". People gotta learn how to love, not how to hate. If you see someone making it easy to get sex, why get mad?

    A rich fool with no morals vs an unfit non contributing nice guy? The line between these two men is very thin.

    by the way any woman can be a prostitute any any given time, any given setting. I was parked on a parking lot waiting for the food that I cartered and a prostitute approached me. She was an ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TEACHER! And needed money to buy her son medicine...

    I didn't accept her services but the other guy parked next to me did.

    • ... What are you even talking about?

    • My take on your question. Your calling something extremely pathethic and pussyish? What kind of ground are you standing on? Are you mad by the decisions he made? Why? Did it make you feel worthless and invaluable?

    • Are you stupid? Based off of the cowards who are unable to approach and the losers who cheat, i would think it would be obvious.

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  • I feel like men who do use hookers lack morals due to treating someone as mere sexual object, failing to respect their worth as human being. Also I would feel he is taking advantage of these women as many have been forced into prostitution by traffickers or pimps, or by drug addiction or desperate poverty.

    Also women who use a male prostitute must be failing in life because any woman can go to the club and get laid.

  • it is pathetic. find someone to love you or wait for them to come to you. you should never pay someone to please yourself. jack off if you want pleasing. be in a relationship if you want more than that with someone. don't hire a prostitute to do the dirty.

  • I understand men solicit sex from prostitutes for a lot of reasons, not just because they're pigs, but for reasons like being shy, physically disabled, whatever... I don't judge them for that. People will be people.

  • I feel sorry for them, also kind of disgusted.
    Not gonna give a politically correct answer...

    • I shouldn't have asked this question. It was very immature. Some loser called me ugly and blocked me after I said that many women would not be with him if he kept using prostitutes. So I made this question to ensure he would see it. Haven't heard from him in awhile. I don't feel bad about it, but this was a childish judgmental question on my part.

    • I think it's a good question haha I liked it tbh :p

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  • I tend to think very low of them. I'm not convinced that the majority of prostitutes willingly chose that occupation.

  • If a guy is cheating on his women then it's wrong if he's single then no harm no foul.. I'm 24 years old I've never slept with any women that's takes any payment for services. But it's hard as fuck to find a girlfriend I've been on dating sites and tried a bunch of things nothing works worn who are on there don't reply or even give men a chance or they are just on it just becuse.. Witch I think is pretty dumb. So if the guy wants to buy sex let him when I was in s relationship with someone for 3 years we only had sex a hand full of times and I'll say I went 6/7 months at a time with nothing and the thirst is real when ur a man especially when ur hitting ur highlight years.

  • i feel so sorry for them.

  • Who gives a shit if he pays for it? Maybe he pays for it because she's a professional and fucks better? Like, do you assume he's not getting his money's worth? I bet he is.

    • I have a friend who goes and what he gets is NOT worth what he's paid. The fool i mentioned is a coward and complained about it. It comes off as pathetic to me when plenty of guys are unable to get women and choose to pay... the same people who want a relationship and fail to realize that many women dont want a dude eho has slept with one

    • Maybe I just don't understand where the hate on for the working girls comes in? Like, whats wrong with prostitutes? They have sex. So what? They make money. People gotta get paid. I just genuinely don't understand the problem w/ them. Can you explain?

    • There is no hate for the working girls. What are you talking about? If they choose to be there, thats them. If theyre forced, its wrong. I thought i made it clear that i was talking about the payer, not the payee.

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  • I'm of dual thoughts on this.
    I have a problem with prostitution only because so often the women (and men) are being exploited
    In cases where a woman chooses the life of prostitution and operates on her own then I really don't have a problem with it. it's her choice

    as for the John's who patron prostitutes. It's their decision.

  • All fine. As long as its legal and the prostitute is doing it out of her own free will, no problem.

    • Yea like business. And if they act up tell them to get the fuck out of the drive through ;)

  • Although I wouldn't do it myself I don't get the reason for hating a guy who does that? I mean if he's just unable to get laid elsewhere, what is he supposed to do then?

    • Not be a loser. Its literally not hard to get it for free. I dont hate the guy, but he is worthless in my opinion.

    • That's easy for you to say since you're a woman. I haven't had sex yet and you're basically saying I'm a worthless human being? Gee thanks. All of that shit about equality and how women shouldn't be shamed for their sexuality but guys? No guys can be shsmed for theirs at leisure... great...

  • In most of the US, it is legal to give someone money, it is legal to have sex with someone without giving money, But it is illegal to have sex with someone and give money, unless someone is taking pictures or video, in which case it is legal to have sex with someone and give money.

    And in some states, it is legal to have sex with a 17 year old if you don't give money, but it is illegal to take pictures or videos whether or not you give money and whether or not you have sex.

    Does any of that make sense? It doesn't to me either.

    And why are there some women who are so concerned about the government not "controlling their bodies" that they insist that there be laws against women who are doing with their bodies as they wish? Does that sound hypocritical to you?

    Adults should be allowed to do what they mutually agree to with each other. You are either in favor or against it. If you believe adults cannot do certain things, then the logic is that someone gets to decide what those things are. In the past, this has been laws against sodomy, fornication, and interracial marriage. There is certainly a much stronger human rights case to be made for legalizing prostitution than legalizing gay marriage.

    • I dont care abour prostitution as long as no wo/men are enslaved. I disagree with your last sentence as well. Im specifically speaking aboug the wo/men who have PAID for sex... not the workers.

    • There is no difference between the payers and payees. Either it is morally wrong to sleep with someone one is not married to or not. And if it is not morally wrong, then whether money is involved is incidental. Besides, all women are prostitutes. Take any random husband, have him give his wife diamond earrings unexpectedly. He will get sex for that.

    • There is a huge difference to me. One pays and the other accepts. One is unable to get sex for free it seems. Very simple.

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  • I understand it. There was a time not too long ago that I wanted it.

  • I think there's a need for it, if there's a market then it's going to happen and it has earned its place

    • There is. Itd help some women weed out undesirables, thats for sure.

    • But why is that guy pussyish lol? Curious because he pays for it?

    • I have not seen a man yet who was incapable of getting laid for free. Many guys visit brothels the to the fact that they are intimidated by us which translates as cowardice to me. They dont need to change of course.. no one should change due to the opinion of an unimportant stranger.

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  • As a disabled man I will tell you it's wrong that the government tells people like me we can't pay for it, unfortunately for some people getting a girl is extremely difficult, and it should be their choice if they hire someone to help them get a release, if anything the government and people who judge prostitution make it an even more dangerous industry, legalize it and make it a safe controlled industry so these women can conduct their business safely, because at the end of the day it's just another service, and if some lonely horny dude wants some company who cares? I decided against doing it because I don't need the possibility of getting in trouble with the law, want to keep my record clean :P But I don't judge those who do.

    • Disabled men get a pass. Old men too who are lonely. Young able guys? Not so much. If you know what to do, yoy can get laid. I think its the defeatist mentality of a lot of guys in this situation that makes them think so.

    • Yes many guys do put themselves down and not try hard enough, but if it's hard for me being a confident decent looking guy I can imagine how difficult it is for severely disabled men, but able bodied men just need to try harder and believe in themselves.

    • What's your disability, ImaSloth? Are you familiar with sexual surrogacy?

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  • that guy = scum.

    • That's an awfully harsh judgement. There are people out there who no one will ever let into their hearts enough to look past disfigurement or physical traits that people deem too ugly to have sex with them. Those people are scum to you already and that's why they need someone friendly who is willing to reduce this experience they will never normally get to have to a transaction.

  • Some double standards on here. First off, if two adults CONSENT to an adult act, what does it matter what the terms were? By saying prostitution should be legal, no one is advocating for the exploitation of children, or legalizing human trafficking. Prostitution is legal in Europe, and it's not a big deal over there. Sex workers are tested regularly, and hygiene and safe sex are mandatory. Getting back to your question, I don't think it's pussyish, it's to each their own. Plus your stating your judgmental opinion on someone, personally attacking their character because they can't get laid for free, or they choose prostitution out of convenience, or for whatever other reason. It's the equivalent to me saying that fags are pathetic and pussyish, and that they turn to dick because they can't get pussy. No offense, but this is probably the dumbest question you've asked on this site, and usually your comments and questions have much more thought into them.

  • I think they're smart. If you're not one of the top 20% of what women consider desirable, getting laid is nearly impossible and freakishly expensive. Soliciting a prostitute is faster and cheaper.

    If a man must have game to get laid, you must admit that women are running a game. Most men don't want to play any stupid fucking games, and that's where a simple agreement comes into play. I pay you X amount, you provide Y service, and then you leave. Easy peasy.

    But making fun of men who "can't get laid," coming from a rather attractive looking WOMAN is the act of a major bully. You're in the position of privilege and power here, he is not. And you're kicking him for believing the shit his mom and his school have drilled into his head since birth. Dude probably doesn't have a father in his life to tell him any better.

    What you're engaging in is called "relational aggression." It's ugly enough for you to disparage a man for, of all things, not having "game." But to get on the internet and get as many other people to hate on him is possible... ugly.

    • He was an asshole. So i dont really mind. To be fair, my comment could be construed as rude... but i didn't think so.

  • Eh.. I saw that documentary some British guy did about a brothel in Nevada and it showed some of the patrons were old guys whose wives died like years ago and they were just super lonely. I had a hard time just looking down on them and mostly just felt sorry for them because they were honestly just looking for affection above all else.

    Of course most of those guys were there to bust a nut and I just think "ew icky" when I see them.

    • Yeah. I know about the lonely ones. :)

    • I am in precisely that position, and yet I don't wish to toss my money at an industry that treats many of its employees like shit. My friend went to a brother, the Cherry Patch, in Nevada when he was at a bachelor party (and what a lovely way to end your single status, eh?). He noted that several of the Johns were disabled people. As very sorry as I feel for these men, I STILL don't want to see money thrown at that industry.

  • I wish they'd just pay me instead. I'm broke!

    • Lol!

  • I find them hot actually. I think much less of the Woman tough. You are ignorant actually of Men.

    • Thats hilarious considering the ignorance you just displayed as if all men are a cohesive group.

    • @Asker There is no ignorance, Men who use Hookers turn me on, regardless of their looks. It's just hot. Now, the Woman in my eyes is a Whore. I would think much less of the Woman who sells herself than the Man who uses them because Women are disadvantaged when it gets to sex compared to Men. You give no reason as to how Men who are young can get laid, but keep saying it's very easy for them to get laid which makes me think that you are bitter.

    • What's hot about that? (If you can explain that, I'm just puzzled that you would consider it as such.)

  • It's the epitome of sex generalizations: the men are just using the women for sex, while the women are using sex to get something they want, in this case, money. The existence of prostitution exhibits the fundamental lack of respect for one another in society.

    • Agree and disagree. I know a few men who go there for a deeper connection or just to be held. Some women do it to provide that service. Eh.

  • It's pathetic. I understand people who wanna make money out of it, but I don't understand people who wanna pay for sex...

    • I agree though there are some situations that would make not think so.

    • What do you mean?

    • Like an old man that wants to be touched yet he finds no one who will do it to him

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  • I don't think anything of them. Money is a commodity to buy services and goods, why not use it for sex. You don't go out hunting when you want meat, you go to the butcher store and pay money for meat. You don't go out picking apples when you want apples, you go to the grocery store and pay money for apples. When you want sex, it should be acceptable to go to the sex store, or whoever provides the service, and pay money for sex. You shouldn't have to go out to a bar to "hunt" for sex or get a girlfriend or something.

    Plus, with reference to one of your comments on an opinion, you said "It's not hard to get laid for free". I'd say try being an unattractive man and see for yourself if it's easy or not, but it doesn't seem plausible.

    • It is plausible because it does happen. It's that man's mindset coupled with other variables that may be the problem. But 80 percent of men are not afflicted... lol. And why not hunt at bars unless if you're not a hunter? That would be an issue, sure, but men are more likely to have success asking then waiting to be asked. Oh well.

    • When I said it's not plausible, I meant the possibility of you trying to be a man for a day. And, "why this? Why not that?" is a question, not an argument. Why hunt when you can have it much easily with less effort.

    • Less effort and shows a failure of being unable to obtain it for free which can be deemed as unattractive by many women. An easy way out when the road to get it free may not be as treacherous as he might believe. Which is hunting is the best course of option if the guy knew what he was doing. And it's why many women would not date a guy who has slept with one. Going to a whore is a short term option--a layover--for a lot of guys. But it's one that a lot of women will not accept or even want to be around when he tries to find a relationship. So if this guy had little chance in the dating pool before, he may have much less currently... depending on many things. I don't care though. I think it's gross and would't be around any guy who did it, handsome military or no. It's not hard to get sex for free in America.

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