What do you think of this monologue?

[Smashingdoozy]

I'm 11 years old and a man who has been invited over to dinner puts his hand on the small of my back and tells me I'm so smart and pretty unlike his wife.

I'm 12 years old downtown with my parents and I get cat called for the first time.

I'm 13 years old and a 16 year old boy that drives me to school likes to put his hand between my thighs on the ride there.

I'm 14 years old and my boyfriend sets a date for us that we have to have sex by.

I'm 14 years old and I hold off that boyfriend on that date by using my hands and I cry to myself because 2 years ago these hands were used for playing with dolls.

I'm 14 years old and my friend tells me she has been assaulted by him.

I'm 15 and I develop an eating disorder my body looks its most sick and I get more attention from boys and men than I ever have before.

I'm 15 years old and the teacher tells me I am the most beautiful girl he has ever met, he tells me he gets tired of his wife. He tells me he dreams about sex with me and that we're in love.

I'm 16 years old and the teacher gets publicly angry at me for dying my hair purple because I am not beautiful anymore.

I'm 17 and that teacher tells me I've lost too much weight, that I have no boobs and no butt and I am not attractive to him anymore.

I'm 17 and the so called nice boy I dated for 2 months proceeds to stalk me for 10 more and smash my car windows.

I'm 20 years old in acting class in college. The teacher tells me everyone is tired of hearing monologues about women being victims.

I'm 20 years old about to get on a train when a large man approaches me, he is high. He is yelling at me "show me your pussy, I want to see your pussy" a group of men near by look over and say nothing. The high man gets closer and laughs at me being scared "I'll push you off the platform". I look with BEGGING eyes to the 7 men standing by they don't do anything.

I guess they were also tired of seeing women play the victim.

[RavVid]

If this is what has happened to you than I am sorry it has been so particularly when you were younger.

The teacher in particular was a pedophile and I would have wished you had someone that you could have had someone to complain to. He needed to be removed from his role if not jailed.

One of the problems is that men have been disabled. At an earlier time those 7 men would have intervened and the high guy would have been put in his place. As a young boy I saw 4 guys collar a misbehaving youth and throw him out of a train carriage at the next station.

Now those guys would be in a lot more trouble than the youth would have been in for breaking a window and fairly naturally guys have mostly stopped intervening. I found that out on a crowded carriage recently. A guy started punching the women beside him in the face. The whole carriage pretended it wasn't happening. I couldn't stop my self and stood up. The only person who supported me was a girl. At least we forced the puncher to get off.

Men have been called toxic a little too often to do this stuff anymore sadly.

[TonyMetal___86]

I can understand what you're trying to say but there are also a lot of men who suffers where no one mention them, somtimes it's just because they chose to become good men and they aren't welcomed with the street boys!

Personally i have never acted like this with women, it's not like hey a woman is a weak and i can take advantage of her so she does my needs...

I treat women normally, the way i treat men and everyone else, if she's a good girl than i'm better and if she's bad than i'm worst...

Now about being tired of hearing that women are victims, well yes i'm really tired of it because a lot of women are playing the victim's role to hurt others and it's abouy these women who are against the real victims because there some real victims who aren't being took seriously anymore because of such fake clowns who makes false claims, so it's a woman vs woman issue!

I feel sorry because you had to deal with a lot of these issues but when other women reads this, they are all going to say the same, while in real life i see a lot of men who suffers but actually no one cares about them, a lot of women are victims but a lot of men are victims too so when i want to help, i'll help the real victim wehter he's a guy or a girl...

[marrk]

Please stick to the topic. She asked what you think of the monologue. She did not ask if men are also victims. If you want to be represented, then write your own piece. Good job being a decent human being. You know what would be better? Continue to stop street harassment, don’t say you’re tired of hearing from victims until there truly are no victims left, don’t put words in women’s mouths “…when other womens read this, they are all going to say the same…” because we are NOT all the same. To be honest, you come off as one of those guys that says he is a “nice guy” then once he doesn’t get his way, acts out. I hope I’m wrong

[TonyMetal___86]

@marrk you were somewhat rude with me, i don't take orders from anyone, especially from women, i write the way i feel like i want to write, why don't you stick to your own comment and leave my comment alone, it seems that men who are hurt bothered you, yes i must shout if i hear a woman hurt but if a man is hurt i must stay shut right or write my own take... Idc about you think, if you don't believe that i'm a nice guy than you're free to do so and if you believe that i'm a nice guy than thank you... I'm not superman to be able to stop the entire harrassment that's happening in the whole world, i know how i am and if something happens in front of me i will try to help, wether the person is a man or a woman... I also haven't quite understood what you mean by "get his way" 🤔 A lot of women play the victim role and that's what makes things harder, i don't read minds to know who's the real victim and who's not, just because she's a woman doesn't make her instantly a victim!

[marrk]

You don’t take orders from anyone, especially from women? Wow. So if your boss was a woman, you would not follow her instructions. Nice. “Men who are hurt bothered you.” I’m not really sure what you mean. It’s hard to understand what you’re saying. If you mean that it bothers me that men have been hurt, then yes, I’m bothered and even angered at times when men-when people-have been hurt. Aren’t you also upset when fellows humans are hurt? I wasn’t telling you to stay quiet about men being hurt. I was saying to stick to the OP’s topic and if you want to bring up a new topic, then write your own mytake or ask your own question. I’m saying stay focused. I never said you were Superman geez. I already suggested how you, yes you personally, can help. One of them could be by rereading what I write. Who are these women playing the victim role? No one is talking about that except you. You want to bring up a completely separate topic. If you read the comments, you’ll see OP admitted these experiences happened to her. Have empathy and compassion please. It’s comments like these that make victims NOT come forward-including the men you’re so concerned about.

[TonyMetal___86]

@marrk yes that's right, i never work in places where women can be a boss... Also what i meant about men being hurt, i said that it seems that you only care about women who are hurt and not men, but now you made it clear that you care about both and that's good... Ofc i do care about any human being who's hurt and that's what i was trying to say all the time cause victims can be men and women... The asker talked to me in private and we had a long chat and she explained to me everything, so don't worry about that! About women playing the victim's role, it happens a lot and i saw them and know a lot of women who are like that, we just have to know who's telling the truth and who's just lying, that's all... I think that i'm clear now and that you have understood well what i was trying to say...

[Apple1996]

Sad and relatable. Lots of girls are oversexualized when they are young and no one is there to protect/help them.

[Apple1996]

Why is everyone else here talking about parenting? I didn't get that from this post at all. I'm assuming this is about you and Im very sorry for the things you've had to experience. It's not okay that men feel entitled to do and say these creepy things. It is harmful to women especially in those developing years where we are so vulnerable

[Smashingdoozy]

Not about me, but I have experienced very similar things

[TonyMetal___86]

@apple1996 i'm glad that in my whole life i've never treated a girl like that and as a man never acted like this with a woman... I actually treat women a normal treatment, just like men, if they are good than i'm better and if they are bad than i'm worst! It's not like if she's a woman i say hey she's weak and i can do whatever i want to her, even if there was no laws, i have my own laws, i treat people the way i want to be treated! I have a high value for women who are devoted housewives, unlike others who disrespect them, to me a housewife is a lot more important than a working wife!

[LazerBean]

If this is to point out poor parenting or big city culture, then it's fine

[Smashingdoozy]

You're insane if you can't see another issue in there.

[LazerBean]

You're insane if you think all that is normal events in the life of a girl.

[Smashingdoozy]

It shouldn't be normal, but it's the unfortunate reality for a lot of women.

[NathanDavis]

awful parenting...

and yes, an awful mother as well, a woman who failed to the one she shouldn't have failed to

[Smashingdoozy]

How are you so blind

[NathanDavis]

we see what we want to see... don't we? are you going to argue that it is only or mostly men at fault in here?

[Smashingdoozy]

It's mostly if not all men doing the horrible behaviours no?

[NathanDavis]

see... people who think these issues are about gender and point fingers at either men or women as a whole, these people are part of the problem this is a parenting issue, not a gender pointing fingers party

[crmoore]

99% of men won't do these things, but 70% of 1% of the population (rapists, assaulters, burglars, etc) can be men and she uses that to suggest men are the problem, as if 0.70% of people are in any way a reflection of roughly 50% earth's population. To break it down into actual numbers, she's saying that roughly 400,000,000,000 (4 billion) people are represented by 6,000,000,000 (6 million) It's not only sad, discriminatory and sexist, but also logically and mathematically preposterous.

[Smashingdoozy]

7 men stood by and watched a woman get harassed. Men stand by and watch their friends harass women. THAT is the problem.

[crmoore]

1. You're moving the goal post.

2. Just because you point to a possibly fictional scenario doesn't mean that's an accurate representation of men. And even if it's not fictional, that STILL doesn't represent men as a whole.

Since, according to you, mentioning that that scenario (may have) happened means that there's a problem with men, then if I share this link about a man who was harassing women and then being confronted by a guy for it, does that now mean there's not a problem with men?

www.reddit.com/.../

Or perhaps pointing to situations doesn't represent demographics within those situations?

There's also something to be said about recent movements asserting that women don't need men's help and they're just a strong as men are. But that's besides that point.

[Smashingdoozy]

@crmoore the goal post wasn't moved. Its literally in the post. Bfr. It happens all the time. I've seen it with my own eyes, experienced it myself, as have many other women I know. It's well documented. I'm not saying all men are like this. But too many are. The world would be a lot easier for everyone if we stuck up for each other. If we see something going down we should say something.

[normalice]

It's probably fine. Unfortunately, "socially aware" monologues seem to be falling out of fashion and/of becoming a bit cliche. But I guess you're not trying to be the next shakespear, just using it to show off your acting ability.

To that, I would day be careful. Acting is entirely about controlling your emotions. So when it comes to emotionally charged monologues like this, the expectation will be that the emotions you display will be heightened well above what they would be if you were giving a less charged monologue.

In so many words, you raise the bar for yourself by choosing a monologue that makes it easy to be emotional.

[RealMarek]

We used to put men in stocks or have them “ride the rail” for behavior like the guy at the train station. We also used to have large families that would send their young men to teach the boyfriend, teacher, etc. a lesson. But today public corporal punishment is deemed “cruel and unusual,” and defending family the old fashioned way will land you in jail. But I hear we’re way more sophisticated, scientific, and righteous now than we were back then. All the experts say so.

[FrostDragone88]

It's sad that girls go through with this.

[loveslongnails]

I saw that on Tik-Tok. That's a lot of shit to go through and come out ok.

[DiegoO]

🤔I think you should set it for 4 years in-between.

Example: 7, 11, 15, 19, 23, 27...

Also, you gotta ad a context for every stage. Beside other things⤵️

Context+environment+characters+main character development+ progression+conflict+resolution

Rule: show, don't tell.

Don't ad things like, "I was sad". Something like "I felt like my world was falling apart".

Show emotions, don't tell emotions. Show environment, don't tell the environment.

Be the medium to the story you are describing. Do not be the teller of it.

[Friendlybro79]

As for monologues in acting school I'm not exactly trained here but I can offer my opinion based on if I were in an audience listening.

Good story telling will help a monologue for sure and I think your teacher saying he's tired of this topic is because it's been used many times.

If you're going to play the victim create a better story where you triumph otherwise it's exhausting to hear just the trauma.

For fun why don't you give a monologue when you had to do something heroic that you didn't think you could do. It can start out from a normal situation that goes haywire and you rise to the occasion but not told with a cocky attitude. Tell it from a place of disbelief and fear that you feel a bigger force guided you through.

Hope this is helpful. Now I feel like writing one lol

[Date_a_Snob]

sadly I could right write a monologue just as long as your about my life growing up

[Date_a_Snob]

like when I was 17 and a much older guy tried to put his hand up my skirt

[TonyMetal___86]

These stories are hard to believe, are they real? I mean it happens but you're saying as if it's happening a lot and as if it's the norm, how a man stick his hand up your skirt no matter how old he is, isen't he affraid, what will others do or say, what about your father, brothers and cousins or male friends or even the law, even of there was none of these, how can his mind allow him to does such things, i'm a man and if the woman isen't my wife, i'll barely hug her... A man only have the right to touch his wife or at least if she's his girlfriend but to do such things randomly is really weird and disgusting!

[Smashingdoozy]

@TonyMetal___86 very real. It happens a lot. They are not hard to believe. I could tell you dozens of stories of my own.

[TonyMetal___86]

It seems that you lived your life around males doozee girl and not around real men, when you say dozens of stories and you're only 25, it means you're suffering from such accidents nearly on a daily basis, what kind of guys are these who are around you? Doesn't they have sisters or mothers or wives? I can understand a guy in the street cat fishing a girl, i mean it's not a big deal but to touch her or harrass her, this means that he have crossed the red lines, if he wants to touch you or make other things, he can simply get to know you like a decent man, date you and if things works well between both of you than you will both get married and does everything together, it ain't hard at all! Such guys are disrespectful and impolite, or shall i say more like animals who just wanna bang and leave! Does they accept someone to harrass them verbally or sexually? I feel sorry for such women had to deal with such things... Personally sometimes i do nothing if i saw a guy and a girl are shouting at each other because it'a their problem and they must solve their issues in their house and not in public and if i saw a couple who started laying hand on each other i try to interfere and hold things up so they stop fighting and act as civilized people but if i saw a guy touching a random girl out of nowhere on her private parts and the girl was affraid and started crying, i'll beat the cockroach and make him a lesson for others, how about i got and touch his sister and mother, does he likes it? Especially if can't do a thing about it? All my life, i learned to respect everyone and try to make others happy because i have a rule in my life that says "treat the way you want to be treated" to me, god i seeing everything...

[TonyMetal___86]

@smashingdoozy you know it's your right to love your live in a peacefull way, being happy and not affraid of being raped or killed, you're a woman who deserves to have a respectful happy comfortable life just any man or woman... To go out without anyone harassing you or disrespecting you, when you treat others good, than you deserve to be treated good and there will always be some good people who won't let you be alone and must save you if you're in a dangerous situation, your life is precious so is your body and if someone cannot respect these 2 and behave than their place is not in public around people, you have the right to live your life just like anyone else, do your things, finish and come back home as usual without any accident, that's how it should be and anything other than that is wrong and people who violates these norms of life should be arrested or stopped!

[Smashingdoozy]

@TonyMetal___86 doesn't mean it's every day. If you want to know my story feel free to DM me and I'll tell you everything

[TonyMetal___86]

Okay 👍🏻

[MountAverage]

Important. These stories need to be told and we men need to hear them.

[gorydetails]

It definitely sounds like a woman who didn’t have a loving father.

[Smashingdoozy]

What about the men.

[gorydetails]

What about them? Are there shitty men? Absolutely. Are there shitty women? Of course. But a woman who wrote that as the only view of men clearly didn’t have a dad.

[Smashingdoozy]

Who said it's her only view of men? This is just the reality. Men need a wake up call and need to change their behaviour. It's not enough to just not be that kind of person to harass women. SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING.

[gorydetails]

I said it.

[peterrezeeek]

boring

[JohnK123]

That’s actually illegal for a 16 year old to drive a 13 year old :) so they should know better and the parents gotta do better yk. 14 year olds shouldn’t date anyways. Focus on academics. And nowadays most of the eating disorders are from tik tok etc so just shut that off and it’ll be so much better

[Smashingdoozy]

It's more illegal to sexually assault someone. Stop. Victim. Blaming.

[JohnK123]

How am I victim blaming? All I said was that young kids shouldn’t be dating and that tik tok is the proven cause of many disorders, either directed to this or not, it’s just a fact

[balyai]

If I was around you I'm sure they all would be dead by now.

[msc545]

Next, write one about a guy's combat experiences in another unnecessary war.

[Smashingdoozy]

Irrelevant to the conversation.

[msc545]

Not irrelevant at all. You just need it to be irrelevant.

[Smashingdoozy]

The conversation is about how men treat girls and women, and how other men stand by and don't do anything.

[Kingofkings1992]

We got it. You’re a feminist libtard who hates men.

[Smashingdoozy]

Have every reason to hate shitty men who harass women or shitty men who stand by and watch men harass women

[marrk]

Anonymous 🤣so brave

[Kingofkings1992]

@marrk there ya go

[Anonymous]

I hope that you are not referencing yourself

[Anonymous]

I don't see a 14 year old saying something like 'the contrast between these same hands having to fend off rape while only 2 years ago they had played with dolls is tragic.' I mean, it's possible but it seems very unlikely. This kind of seems like a bunch of lies, or lies along with truths, or someone making a compilation of truths from a variety of people then trying to pass it off as the experiences of one person (in an attempt to make it seem more common than it is). All of which seemingly for the goal of pushing along the agenda that either 1. men are bad and rapists, or 2. America engages in "rape culture."

None of this is to say that in the case these are legit that the girl's feelings are invalid. But I just can't say that I'm convinced these truly are the experiences of a single person.

[Smashingdoozy]

This is the very real experience of one person. And the reality of women all over.