What do you think?

[Ariagames]

So im in a relationship for 20 years with one guy we have 3 beatifull girls together but i found i like the kinky side of life more so i went to him and told him how i felt at first he agreed and after a few days he told me im full of demons but since I've been ooen with him he sees me diffrently so last year i cheated for the first time so i guess I've changed a lot and he niticed so im in trouble all the time now even if i dont do anything but i brought it on myself BUT i realised this has always been like this i can't go to the shops , i can't have friends , i can't chat on my phone , i can't have a bank account , i can't work or i get trouble ges verry manipulative and im verry easilly convinced and im a bit scared of him i have told him that im not happy but he doesn't care to listen to what i have to say he's like a lion whos toying with a bul what fo you guys think

[Alexandrubaschet08]

You pay the price for you're mistake, try to work more hard to win his trust back. Even if the see in you a lot of defects and he finde out you cheat on him, look at him olso from this poin, his is still whit you.
If he didn't care he whas about to brake up/divorce. In his place i will do the same, you brake his heart and trust.
You can lose very easy the trust and win it even more hard back.
One sugestion it will be to ask for a brake up (i don't recomand) and the other stay in you're place, accept the situation and try to make a lot of happy surprise and good work for him to feel love apreciate in order to give you more freedome, if you will be so sad around him he for shur will never give you more freesome, he need to belive and see that you are happy whit him in order to be confidance you will not live.
A bird who want to live his owner will never fly free out from it cage, but one who will alwase be by his owner side will have the entire sky.

[Ariagames]

I have told him that i dont want to be with him anymore i was honest from the start just kept quiet latley he doesn't seem to care how i feel or what i say

[Alexandrubaschet08]

then divorce

[Alexandrubaschet08]

but what about the kids? they will be the one who will sufer the moust

[Ariagames]

Thats what im thinking the whole time what about my kids

[Alexandrubaschet08]

and what you're partener think about that situation? about divorcind and afther the situation of kids?

[Ariagames]

He doesn't take me seriously at all as if my choice doesn't count

[Alexandrubaschet08]

Then start the initiativ of the divorce, you both will get a time to get along again and in that time he will see it serios. Then you can decid if you want 100% to divorce or to start again you're relationship.

[AmeerX]

You could have just cuckold wife and husband. He surely would have agreed if he kept a close eye on you. Though why did you destroy your family life if you have children? What was lacking?

[Ariagames]

Im in a verry toxic relationship and i did go to my boyfriend first and told him how i felt and he became a diffrent person so i just stopped telling him how i felt and looked for something diffrent somewhere else

[Ariagames]

Cuckold

[AmeerX]

How is it toxic?

[Ariagames]

"Cuckold" Looked it up "tried that "

[AmeerX]

Main point is you have been with him 20 years. Why not give him one more chance? What you told us now. You could say to him and I am sire he would melt. And do you have economic problems in your life? Like he has lost job or something?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

It’s seems obvious that you’re a religious person. One problem with most religions is it subjugates women. Women are seen as equals but are not treated as such. The rest of us can see that he is controlling and made you into a virtual slave. Sadly it seems that he is also an abusive partner and I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve suffered more than a few bruises and/or broken bones. You may love him but do you want your girls to grow up thinking that this is a normal human relationship?

[laurieluvsit]

Call a Women's Shelter in your country.

They exist specifically for women like you and are there to help you with advice, or more.

They are waiting by the phone for your call... I'm not kidding!

Don't think about it - JUST DO IT! ... OK?

Here is one...

Nonceba Womens Shelter

[EmmaMary]

Are you seriously saying that you have spent the last twenty years with this Controlling, Manipulative, Abusing lowlife specimen of a man?
I guess it's a bit late now to say, for Christ's sake wake up and smell the coffee. smh

[Ariagames]

Yes he's verry minipulative toward me

[EmmaMary]

Then Why oh Why oh Why...

[Ariagames]

We have kids together and he's all I've know from 15 years old

[EmmaMary]

It's never too late in trying to make a better, more fulfilling life.

[Ariagames]

Thank you , im thinking about that a lot latley

[EmmaMary]

In that case I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. In the meantime please do take care and stay safe. x

[Ariagames]

Thank you you too

[Asadi]

I think you should move on with the right guy

[CubaPirate]

Listen to @emmamary