What does it mean if a guy starts off really sexual with you (sending pics, sexting, sex) but has stopped doing that now?

[cnj421]

And he still talks to you every day, shares updates, asks how the day is, sends photos of life and sees you (with and without sex). But not gonna lie…I want both and miss all the sexy stuff. 😝 And yes, I plan ask him. Just curious other guys opinions before I do.

[Sunnybeach123]

Did you send him anything naughty, too? If not, maybe he felt his feelings were not reciprocated? (And if so, I don't know).

[cnj421]

Oh of course! I always reciprocated! And sometimes initiated too. 😊 I was worried he now has too many photos and videos that he doesn’t want anymore 😜😅

[Sunnybeach123]

Then I'm not sure. Some guys prefer other ways of connecting on that level. Have you guys tried sexting? That can fun/very naughty 🙂

[cnj421]

We used to all the time 😂 like I said. It started so sexual. But the more we spend time together and get to know each other, the less it’s happening. We still flirt in person. But I just want to talk dirty and get a nice sexy photo from time to time still. I’m scared to send one cause the last time I did he didn’t really reciprocate.

[Sunnybeach123]

I totally agree with you, I think that's hot too. I'm not sure why he doesn't return connect as much like before. I try to think of new fantasies that might be a turn on but of course everyone has their own unique fantasies that really turn them on.

[cnj421]

Hmm yea. Maybe I can try to get creative. 😂 i have some pics I’d love to send but I’m feeling less confident about it now that it’s died down so much. One part of me is like is he losing interest (but then we talk every day and see each other still). And the other part of me is like does he actually like me for more than sex now and pulled back from that to “do it right” if you will. I’ve never been in this situation before. And trying to figure out the best way to get around it. I’m heading out of town and would love my sexy man to sext me while I’m gone!

[Sunnybeach123]

Yes, I hope you can sext while he's gone. Maybe send him one more pic say something naughty/dirty too. I hope it's not dying down. Do you see each other often in real life (ie, not just online) a lot?

[cnj421]

So I sent a little something today. Something mild. and did get a response but it didn’t really develop. I’m supposed to see him tomorrow. At this point. We see each other once a week. It’s been kind of an interesting start since he had to leave town for awhile and now I am. So it’s really kept things at a slower pace on top of him recently getting out of something. So hopefully it isn’t dying down and just a phase…. maybe him starting to actually like me and want me for more than just sex 😅

[Sunnybeach123]

That's great! I hope things go well and you both have the chance to form a closer connection. Good job, by the way. Good luck tomorrow! 🙂

[cnj421]

Thank you! Nervous excited for sure and trying to do right by this one! 😊

[Greatmathematician]

men escape form emotional situations, if u have deep emotions to each other, he thinks that he is not ready for that

[cnj421]

I think this may be the most spot on answer so far! Thank you. I think you’re right. Is there anything I can do in the meantime while he works out his readiness? I don’t want to scare him off or make things worse. 😅

[Greatmathematician]

In my opinion, you don't need to send a message again :)

[Greatmathematician]

by the way I would like to say something private, please could you come to DM

[Wise4myage]

He probably lost interests.

[cnj421]

Then why do we still hang out, flirt, kiss, hold hands and talk every day?

[Wise4myage]

Good question, I’d ask him.

[cnj421]

I plan to.

[Christoff92]

He wants you. But you rejected him.

[cnj421]

I don’t think I have ever rejected him. I’ve always reciprocated and been down. Unless there is some other way I could have inadvertently rejected him without knowing it. Lol 😂

[MasterKS]

you might not responded well enough.

[cnj421]

I mean I thought sending back plenty of pics, vids and sexting back was PLENTY well enough 😂

[MasterKS]

@cnj421 thought? not send it?

[cnj421]

I hadn’t sent anything for awhile actually. And before, I was only sending it when he initiated really. So who know. I sent a little something today. Something mild. So we’ll see how he responds to that. We have a date tomorrow too. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Why did you allow him to do that in the first place?

That is an instant red flag.

[cnj421]

Why? It was fully consented and discussed before it even happened. That’s not a red flag. That’s two adults enjoying each other.

[cnj421]

He didn’t just start out sending me dick pics. We went on a few dates and talked about all these things ahead of time. He has always been so respectful and communicative.