What does it mean when a guy you are already intimate with but doesn’t want to engage say that he wants to « stay friends for now and remove the sex?

[Anonymous]

Never saw that… the guy seems to have some sexual issues from what I experienced until now (can’t finish most of time) and also doesn’t want to form a couple for now. Hum. I never saw a guy avoiding sexual intimacy with a girl so wtf?

[Guy13]

Then, I question whether you are 35 years old…if you have never met a man that had sex and did not finish. Yes, that’s a sign of detachment or one who is determined that their other is going to cuss his name in orgasms…

[Asker]

The problem seems to be that he has a lot of difficulties to keep his mojo (and he is younger!!)… and he seems always worried by his brake

[Guy13]

He looses his hardon?

[Asker]

Yes quite often ! He needs to get hyper stimulated to keep it

[Guy13]

Yikes…sounds like a visit to doctor and Pfizer…. Does he have porn in his life. I have heard of this in porn addicted

[Asker]

Hum interesting. Lately during a dispute I told him to go visit a doctor.. his ego was broken. I apologized later… I know it’s a complex for him. Interesting for the porn: once I left a few days, and the day before I left that we couldn’t finish…when I came back he told me that because he couldn’t finish last time, he did some porn the days before.. and then was ´out’. I was surprised and frustrated of course again… Having some porn the previous day can block your libido for the next days ?

[Guy13]

No idea but the brain 🧠 rewires from porn. At some point the porn has to be more exaggerated for same effect. Like weed to cocaine etc. Read the book Hooked. The neurologist who do the brain research there can be applied, in a similar method, to Porn. How old were you when you started watching porn. Did you watch porn earlier or at 15 like most porn preferers….

[Asker]

Wow very interesting thanks, I’ll check that. He is very attractive, all the girls like him but if they knew… so I guess that’s why he wants to remove the sex from our ´relationship’? I find this quite strange like he wants to keep only friendship « for now »….

[Guy13]

You are welcomed. I hope it works out as you wish for.

[Asker]

Thank you :) we’ll see

[gkumar8991]

It hurts down there when we become aroused but are unable to finish, sometimes the pain lasts up to 3 days after. Maybe he doesn't want to live with that pain.

[Asker]

The pain due to what?

[gkumar8991]

Blue balls, medically called epididymal hypertension.

[Asker]

Interesting thanks

[Exterminatore]

It means you’ve been dumped.

[Zolly99999]

Maybe he is not into you..