What does it mean when a man only cums sometimes during intercourse and oral sex?

[Anonymous]

He's 25 years old by the way with no health conditions. He loves sex and initiates sex a lot. From Monday- Sunday we'll have a lot of sex but he'll only cum about 2 or 3 times at best out of all those days. Sometimes we fuck twice a day which he initiates that too. His dick gets hard and he keeps going and going and then he'll go limp sometimes. This also happens when I suck his dick. Sometimes he'll cum within 2-5 minutes when I suck his dick and then other times he doesn't cum at all when I do. He's not a senior citizen so ED (erectile dysfunction) is definitely out.

[PrudentGuy]

Speaking for myself,

One ingredient for an orgasm, especially a strong one, is readiness of the mind.

So to prepare myself (as a guy), I write erotica, comment in sex forum like G@G, but not involve in porn. So my mind is always myself with my girlfriend.

In the beginning when I was a virgin, i masturbated too hard and hence sex was not as expected. The vagina appears a lot more loose than now, when I no more masturbate with my hand.

So I don't know if you boyfriend will fare better if he stops with porn, avoid masturbating too hard and have more romantic time with you.

Give it a try and I wish you better sex sessions.

PS: I'm quite sure it's not your "fault".

[HeyMikie]

There are a number of things that come to mind. First it could be normal for him. We are all unique. Second thing I would look at would be a nutritional deficiency (very common. especially in the U. S.) or some other deficiency such as lack of sleep. Or too much stress. Certain drugs can have this affect, especially opiates and some amphetamines, as well as most antidepressant drugs. Masturbation could also be a cause. If none of these are going on and he isn't concerned about it, I wouldn't worry.

[Asker]

He does watch porn ( which I really hate) but maybe that could be it. But why does he insist on having sex if he's happier with porn?

[HeyMikie]

Porn is not the same as sex. Porn is simply something that stimulates the imagination when masturbating. The mental stimulation can be very intense. One only needs to concentrate on their own needs. The dynamics of sex with a partner are very different. It involves two people and is a give and take action. Real sex is better but porn is more intense mentally. Porn can be very addicting and can be just as hard to quit as any drug. So it is far more likely that he is happier with sex but still likes porn. One other thing to consider is that with porn one can see and imagine doing things that they can't do in real life. You might ask him if there is something that he sees in the porn that he watches that you might be able to do. Of course that doesn't mean you should do things that you don't want to do, but maybe you can ween him off the porn a bit. It never hurts to ask.

[Asker]

I'm very freaky so it's definitely not that, trust me. The problem here is that I don't look anything like the girls he personally selects to masturbate to. For example they have big butts ass is flat or their vaginas are fat showing a cameltoe while mine is small in comparison. There's nothing I can do about that.

[HeyMikie]

I get it. This is not the first time I have heard a story like this. It is strictly a visual thing. Unfortunately we men are visual creatures. It is something that is totally separate from love. No, it doesn't make sense. Would you consider watching the porn with him? He may not be open to it but if he would be that might be something you could work in to your sex life once in a while. Just a thought. Have you ever talked to him about it? Maybe you could reach a happy medium of reduced consumption of porn. It might be worth a try. Good luck!

[BadAnswers]

well Ed sometimes happens to at younger ages but uuhm no clue this is a special story

[outside_Toronto]

could be a lot of different reasons this happens

[COMMODOREII]

Not sure. Interesting.

[sheriffayez]

If he has a lot going into his mind, that might delay the orgasm.

Or maybe he got used to the same old position, i guess oral sex is rare compared to the usual.

[Anonymous]

Don't know how old he is, but if he's in the same age range as you, it's normal. We're getting old and can't go like the kids can.