What does it mean when my boyfriend asks me about my past sexual encounters?

He calls me we have a decent conversations but then he starts cracking sex jokes, when we hangout we always talk about different things barely sex related he asked me about a sex encounter from my past today but i didn't know how to respond, he was like don't be embarrassed you can tell me but i wasn't sure about telling him or not this sex encounter was like 3 years ago i ended up telling him and he seemed fine but i don't know i feel like i shouldn't have told him and just stick to our sex jokes
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  • He senses your past and on some level he knows he cannot accept it. In this culture, a man is labelled as being 'insecure' for having a preference. This culture has brain washed most people into thinking that hookup culture is normal and healthy... but almost every single person that takes part in it feels ashamed of their past, and wants to keep it a secret. The mistake this guy is making is in having weak boundaries so this energy leaks out through 'jokes' and stupid questions. This simply will not work out.

    • We been together for 1 year and 7 months we talk about almost everything so you think he is judging me based on my past

    • Maybe something is playing on his mind. If he's been doing this for a long time then it's probably bothering him.

    • No this is his first time actually asking me something like this we have talk about my childhood and other stuff but not my sexual encounters until today

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Perhaps he wants you to tell about past flings and sex life because sex talk turns him on. If he continues to ask pointed questions about past lovers, just ignore the questions. Redirect him with the dirty talk script. If he continues to pry because he is insecure, it’s time to dump him, because he’ll always be jealous of your past and distrust you.

    • So i shouldn't be so worried about it i just feel like its something i shouldn't be talking about but he was like its something you shouldn't be embarrassed about it was a long time ago so bringing it up to me it feels weird

    • Nothing to worry about as of now but like i said if he wants collect the scraps of the past and put it all together himself then it's a problem. I never enjoy indulging in someone's past it drains you emotionally and mentally and not just you it makes other person uncomfortable. So, i understand what you be feeling

Most Helpful Girl

  • He wants to know if he has something to worry about. Diseases and stuff. I doubt if 99/100 are truthful if they have a STD or HIV or AIDs

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  • Just be honest with them and tell him hey this is how many people I've been with if he means that much to you and the rest you really don't need to know I mean it's in the past there's things I've tried and I didn't try maybe after getting to know you more in the relationship I'll open up about certain things I've tried but it doesn't mean that I'm going to do them again.

    • Most the time when a guy asked the girlfriend or a girl he's getting to know what she's tried or done experience why sexually in her past it's only because we're curious what you've done and what you're into we're trying to fill you out I mean that's for me I love talking to a girl even right at first after talking to them for maybe 10 15 20 30 minutes on the phone or on video chat or in person and then finding out what they're into it doesn't mean I'm trying to get in bed with them doesn't mean that I'm trying to speed up the process I'm just kind of curious because I would hate to be getting to know somebody and five or six months goes by and you guys are vibing off of each other and you really like each other and then all the sudden you find out that she's not at all open-minded sexually and she doesn't like giving head and she doesn't like a guy going down on her she doesn't like to kiss a certain way those are all things that would just kind of slump you down like fuck why are we even trying to go there eventually if we're not even compatible in certain areas

  • He might be a cuck.

  • Wants sex only

  • He could be trying to find out more about your past.

  • Most of the time it's their insecurities comingout. Other's they are kinky mother fuckers and they get off on it

  • He wants to know about your past, he feels insecure about that for sure

  • Could mean any number of things. He could be curious about what you like and don't like, what kind of men you're attracted to or he simply enjoys hearing about how you've had pleasure in the past. Some men enjoy a little jeallousy as it provides food for their competative nature.

  • He likely wants to know your history

    1. STD's
    2. Kids
    3. Legal trouble
    4. Current boyfriends (are you cheating)

    That sort of thing

  • Your sexlife is your business. You no responsibility to tell anyone what happened in the past. What happened in Vegas; stayed in Vegas!

  • Some guys ( and girls too) certainly ask for such questions. Perhaps they feel insecurity or compare with others if they can satisfy their partners.

  • I don't think there are anything wrong in it, seems like he has a fetish for it, I advise you to be as descriptive as you can be 😂

    • He told me to not be embarrassed or have anxiety i think he does i think he was getting turned on not sure cause it was through the phone

    • he is certainly enjoying and getting turned on to it, trust me any detail you might give him no matter how naughty you think it is would turn him on

    • Two hours later he texts me and he was like "i love u" I don't know i think he was getting turned on

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  • He wants to be sure you don't have any STD's. He is just being safe.

  • he is comparing to your past sex partners, finding out if you like a certain sex act, and really wants to know if he is better at sex than those guys

  • Probably wants to know how many people you have had sex with and what you have done

  • Basically he is asking if u had sex with more than one person