What does it mean when my gay friend said he’d let me be a top?

I know this term is popular in the gay community but I don’t know exactly what it means, although I do have some ideas.

Context: I was wanting to send this woman some explicit pics/vid of me but the video wasn’t sending.

It was a top of conversation with my gay friend who I had shift with.

As the convo progressed, I was like “do/would you want to see it and let me know what you think?”

He was like “fuck yeah, I’ll have a look.”

I showed him my stuff and he thought the pic and vid were also good.
Gave me some tips.

Afterwards, it was mentioned that he’d let me be “a top.”

*Didn’t even want to Google this, as I thought it would be fun to see if anyone here knows*
What does it mean when my gay friend said he’d let me be a top?
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Superb Opinion

  • Pretty sure it means he’ll let you dip your dinky in his butt hole.

    • Yeah, I suspected as much.

    • That’s why I sometimes tell you not to drop the soap, so you don’t become an inbot (involuntary bottom). If he drops it, he might be flirting or something.

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  • Top is the guy on top thats doing the fucking. He's basically saying he wants your penis in his ass

    • Well, this is kind of nice to know lmao

Most Helpful Guys

  • It’s a compliment... u must have turned him on, he’d let u fuck him

  • Bruh... Why would you show your shit to a gay dude? 🤦

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  • I have no idea
    I don't have any gay friends, sorry 🤷

  • I believe the lingo is that the top is the guy who gives and the bottom is the guy who receives.

  • In Gay sex it’s the guy doing the penetrating and in control.

    in other sex it’s the person in control, giving out the orders so to speak.

  • He thought you are so sexy he’d love you to f*ck (Don’t know how else to say it) him in the butt.

    • Haha yeah.

  • Means he'd let you fuck him. In gay sex the top is the person doing the penetrating, bottom is the recipient. Some describe themselves as switches, which means they do both.

  • That you need to get the hell away form the weirdo

  • As a bisexual person, I'll just say he was saying "dude you look fine as hell." That's all.

  • if I understood this correctly, you showed your private parts to your gay friend and he liked it and said he'd let you be a "top"?

  • Keep fucking up.

  • It's not a gay thing. Top refers to the person in charge, but unlike dominant a top can also be submissive to their bottom. I know, it's confusing af.

    • I’ve never really heard this term within heterosexual sex.

    • It's very much a thing.

    • Are you sure? I think it’s just more assumed that the man will be the top because he has the cock and woman would be the bottom. Obviously sexuality can be a complex thing, but I think biologically “top” refers to the one doing the penetrating and a woman has a vagina so she cannot do this. That’s why I think these terms are more predominant in the gay community.

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  • That’s not a good idea my friend to have gay friends and you know how the military feels about that

  • Fuck him

  • Fuck... bruh...

  • He'd let you fuck him.

  • Within the context of “the homosexuality community,” top” has the “dominant = penetrator” meaning.

    Within the context of “BDSM Dom/sub” relationships,” “top” has the “dominant = active one/controller” meaning.

    Definitions/sources:

    “Someone who is the dominant in the relationship or during sex. Usually giving rather than receiving.

    Most often you will see this term used in non-heterosexual relationships, because straight couples often have that the guy is dominant and the girl is submissive. The same doesn’t excist in same sex couples.

    Top is sometimes used by the BDSM-community too.”

    https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=top&page=3

    “Dominance and Submission

    Dominance and submission (or D/s) is essentially a powerplay dynamic between two people where one person is the dominant (taking the active role—a Dom or Domme or Top) and the other person is the submissive (taking the passive role—called subs or bottoms). A switch is someone who plays either role. D/s partners may engage in psychological, emotional, and/or physical dominance…”

    https://www.sexpert.com/kink-101-a-beginners-guide-to-creating-your-own-bdsm-fantasy/#Dominance_and_Submission

    “the one who I N S E R T S inside their partner (mostly homosexual couples)”

    https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=top

    “A person who is in control in a BDSM relationship.”

    https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=top&page=2

    See also - for “bottom”…

    “1) Someone who prefers to take a more submissive role in sexual situations. This definition pertains to the B/D/S/M (Bondage and Domination, Domimation and Submission, Sado-Masochism) scene.

    2) A homosexual male who either a) enjoys receiving anal penetration or b) is activeluy involved in being anally penetrated.”

    https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bottom