What does this mean?

[tracyann41]

I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years now, for a while now (more so lately) I've noticed he don't seem AT all interested in me sexually, for example I was getting out of the bath drying off while he was in the bathroom with me completely naked, not once did he look at me I even (purposely) leaned over him to grab something and I got no reaction of a wet naked body on him? I'm not bad looking petite, 5 ft 115 soak and wet? I no he watches a lot of porn and jerks off literally every chance he gets (frustrating, hurtful) what does all this mean? Maybe he's not attracted to me anymore? Likes porn and jerking it more? Someone else? I don't get it, It's making me feel insecure and not loved... I wish he would show more interest in me, I'd talk to him about it but he's not at all a communicator, advise?

[Anonymous]

I was this way when I had a girlfriend. I was attracted to women but was scared when it came to having sex. Lady would be naked and I would do nothing. More like sexual performance anxiety. Yes I would masturbate because it was easier. I was more into taking them out to dinner, buying gifts, kissing, hugging. At least if there's no sex some other intimate stuff.

Here are are some reasons people choose to masturbate while in a relationship:

No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
A person is bored
A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
A person is stressed
Because they like it
They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
It's fun
They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

[Guy13]

Porn can rewire our mind and skew what is good, beautiful, and sexual. Our real lives never exaggerate to the level that porn and movies do. Perhaps, going to a counselor as couple would be helpful? Breaking that habit is quite difficult in today's uber sexuality world. Good luck with everything.

[ProVox]

Does he know you're interested in him sexually? You could be thinking the same thing about each other. Subtle hints don't always work after so many years together. Does he straight up blow you off if you flirt or come on to him?

[Dkc123]

Take a break!

[In_Trance]

There's something else for sure. Not porn; between you and him that's not going well

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Do you both have sex? If yes, how frequent?

[Beerluvr]

He is bored. Needs some excitement. It happens with guys I think more so.

[supersweetcowboy143]

Maybe he's having a hard time with his sex drive and don't want to show it