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I've recently been having sex with a new partner and it's been great. But sometimes it takes him quite a long time to cum. I don't mind, it feels very good for me. But I'm worried I'm doing something wrong. He says I do everything right and that it feels very good. But when I give him head, it takes so long. It also sometimes takes awhile in my vagina. And when I've given blowjobs in the past, the guys have cum pretty quickly. This guy says I'm great at giving head and he's very vocal when I'm doing it, telling me how good it feels and everything. I didn't ask him about this, because I really don't mind. But he brought it up and said that when blowjobs or sex feels too good, it's harder for him to cum? He says he feels like he can cum in the first couple of minutes but then doesn't. Like a couple days ago, I was giving him a really great blowjob and he was rock hard and moaning and talking dirty to me. I did it for probably 20 or 30 minutes. I did it fast, slow, different techniques to see what he liked best. He didn't cum. He then bent me over in doggy and I was pretty wet because I was extremely turned on. He moaned and talked about how wet I was and how good I felt but he still didn't cum. We did a few more positions and he finally came when I was riding him while he was pounding me from the bottom. It was a very good experience for me but I'm worried I might be doing something wrong even tho he says I'm doing everything good. And also a lot of the time, it doesn't take him too long to finish in my vagina. But I always have a bit of trouble getting him there with oral. Is it me even tho he says it isn't? I've never heard of it feeling "too good" for a guy to cum? Like he says he feels like he can cum in the first couple minutes but then he doesn't. I'm not saying I don't believe him, but is that an actual thing for it to feel too good or am I just not doing something right?

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  • You're probably not doing anything wrong, it just takes some guys longer than others. And some guys take a pretty long time. I don't know if it's the case for most other guys, but I last quite a bit longer with blowjobs. And it's not because it doesn't feel as good, it's because I'm relaxed, laying back, and enjoying the feeling. And blowjobs usually aren't as fast paced as sex, so there's that, too.

    • It happens during sex sometimes too tho. Nit just blowjobs. He said that sometimes it feels "too good" and it makes it more difficult to cum? What does that mean?

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    • I've never heard of something feeling too good to cum. It can make it more difficult to move and make him spasm or slow down though. But I don't last nearly as long as he does, so he probably feels things a bit differently than me.

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  • How old is the guy? Do you think he is jerking off too much? Some guys let nerves and anxiety get in the way which can delay an orgasm as can alcohol or drugs. Just get him close with a handjob and then try for sex. It sounds like you are doing nothing wrong? How often are you two having sex?

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  • It’s normal for a guy to take time to cum, it’s just the way he is. He’s actually a real man. He should satisfy you first then cum after. If you don’t like that about him feel free to go to men who cum fast without you being satisfied

    • I'm not saying it's a problem... I was just wondering what he meant when he said that sometimes it feels "too good" to cum. I had just never heard of that before

    • Yes he’s still enjoying himself he doesn’t want to come out of your Pussy, my boyfriend does that every time we have sex. Girl your Pussy is good

    • right? I always tell the girl to let me know when she wants me to cum because there is nothing worse than not getting off

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  • work the head personallly i like giving 20 minute blowjobs

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  • Does he have a particularly thick foreskin? Maybe he's just lasts long and in my view that's a good thing... Unless you get lockjaw. That would be bad!

  • This is a great matching during the sex. May be add new partners into your life to improve it. But I think everythings seems good.

    • Why would we want to add more partners? Does it sound like I'm not doing the job good enough?

    • No. it is a fantasy. And new additional partner can also be a man.

    • Also what did he mean when he said that sometimes it just "feels to good" to cum so it makes it more difficult? I'm not doubting him, I have just never heard of that before.

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  • If something feels better than normal or really good we'll probably try to stop ourselves from cummin to make it last longer.

    • Yeah he said he feels like he could cum in the first couple of minutes. Does holding back in the first couple of minutes make it harder to cum later tho? Because there are times when I could blow him for 30 minutes or more and he still won't cum. He will cum during sex after I try to blow him, but sometimes that still takes a few positions to get him there, even after I suck it for awhile. Is it me?

    • Not at all, the way that make a guy cum depends on the guy.

    • If a guy tries to hold it back in the first few minutes does that make it harder to cum later?

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  • Every guy is different. Sometimes it will take a longer to cum if he’s recently had sex, masturbated, if he’s less aroused then normal, or just distracted.

    It also makes sense that he would cum faster inside your vagina than in your mouth. Vaginas just… feel better. I mean, really, biologically speaking, that’s where we are designed to cum.