That's if you can call it "Friends with Benefits". He doesn't like calling it that but he also can't have a committed relationship for genuine reasons and neither can I really (bad break up). He wanted to be more than friends with benefits but less than a girlfriend (how does that work?).
Anywaaaaay... this take is about what I've learnt so far, what the situation entails and how it's different to relationships, for me personally, so you guys could get some insight of how it works and if it'd work for you.
Disclaimer: This is a personal account of my experiences. Every relationship is different and if you're a guy, it will likely be different for you.
Totally Open
I can tell him anything because there's nothing riding on what I tell him, like a relationship. I won't be comfortable telling a guy I hope to be in a relationship with about a lot of stuff because I'd worry about scaring him off! This guy doesn't know anyone I know and has no reason to tell others anything I tell him. I don't care what he thinks of me because I know he'll still want to sleep with me (shallow I know) and if he did judge and decided to not talk to me again, I wouldn't care. In fact, we had one fall out and we didn't speak to each other for about 5 months and it didn't bother either of us. It's all really relaxed.
Good Sex
Sex is really good, if you've tried out a few people before you meet the person. I've slept with a few guys since I had the break up and this guy performs exactly how I like in bed, whilst others did not. Every time I see him, I know great sex is soon to come! It's much better than dating someone for months, only to realise they're not good in bed.
Lies
They will lie to your face. They will act like they care about your life and hobbies but you'll soon find out they've not remembered any of it and you've got no obligation to remember anything about them either. There's no need for them to remember anything about you. They might say you're really hot even if they think you're average, just so they get sex again. You should take everything they say with a pinch of salt and assume they don't mean it.
Respect
You do still get respect in friend with benefits relationships and you should still expect respect, even in this situation. They should still respect your boundaries in sex. The guy I'm with doesn't like me referring to myself as a 'whore' as a joke. He respects me as the young woman I am and treats me like he would a girlfriend, even holding my hand, just without the commitment and a few other parts. If I tell him I'm talking to or seeing a guy, he totally respects it and backs away. He doesn't get clingy/jealous at all.
A friends with benefits situation can be complicated but it's only as complicated as you make it.
If you're a particularly sensitive person, take rejection badly, expect love/attention constantly and /or are not a very assertive person, I wouldn't recommend a friends with benefits relationship.
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