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What I Wish Guys Knew About Sex

What I wish guys knew about sex

I know that everyone is different and no-one comes with an operational manual for sex, but if we did this is what mine would look like.

Put your tongue away and close your mouth more

Seriously why does every guy on earth think that thrashing a tongue into your mouth without even lips touching satisfying? Who told them that? Tongue should be used to tease and should be built up to in my opinion.

Don’t bite my nipples, it doesn’t feel good

Sucking is okay but if you use teeth I’ll use teeth.

What I Wish Guys Knew About Sex

Foreplay generally seems to be guys trying to rub the clit but when it’s dry it’s not comfortable at all

The use of spit or our natural juices is only a short term solution. Get the lube and smother it, I won’t get mad I’d enjoy it.

It hurts when you hit my cervix

I’m sure it makes you feel like a big man but it make me want to vomit so don’t do it on purpose please.

Yes I care about your orgasms

I don’t want it to go for hours and you not get off because you’re practicing self-control. I’d rather I get off then you get off, the idea that longer is better doesn’t work for me. If I get bored then it’s not good sex.

If you make no noise I don’t know if you like it

I make noise so you know so please return the favour. Be close to me, don’t try to be impressive with pole diving I’d rather you stay close so I can feel your warmth and strength.

What I Wish Guys Knew About Sex

Don’t assume if I sleep with you I want more from you

In fact I only sleep with you if I am using you for sex. If I wanted a relationship I would be inviting you out to places rather than just the bedroom. If I invite you to my place to hang, it’s just sex. If I invite you to the movies its relationship.

Yes we enjoy it, we get enjoyment from your enjoyment

From the feel of a man, the smell, the noise and even if I don’t get off if its passionate sex I will be completely satisfied. Confidence is sex for both genders.

Stay away from alcohol, smoking, drugs etc if you want to have a great fuck buddy

All these things affect your health and your junk, believe me losing wood is bad for us both.


Again I know everyone is different but these are my pet peeves in the bedroom.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I don't mind a guy not making noise or being limited vocally.
    Men are usually not as vocal during sex, and that's okay with me.
    A rolling the eyes back, or facial expression of pure satisfaction is enough for me to know I've done a great job.

    Also, If a guy drinks a little alcohol if most cases it improves his performance.
    If a man is getting sloppy drunk then of course he will be flaccid.
    I don't mind someone that drinks or smokes a little.
    I want the guy to feel chill in my presence. If that's what he likes , that's good with me.

    Everything else I relate to.
    I would just like to add I dislike when a guy goes straight for the nipple.
    I want him to rub , caress and suck my breasts not just go for the nipple.
    That turns me on too.

    • Oh and by the way I don't mind long sex. I want to be hurting until the next day.

    • :) That's called a "bang over". :)

Most Helpful Guy

  • As seen in comments, 1/3 of the half actively disagree with you.

    I think the most useful sexual skills to learn are:
    - how to read your partner's reaction
    - how to be open about what you like and your enjoyment of it
    - having some ability to delay orgasm (guys) or knowing what you need to get an orgasm (women)

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  • I respect your opinions but for the benefit of guys reading this it is only one woman's opinion. My preference is the complete opposite.

    I like my nipples bitten, yup you can slap my cervix, sure you can take over an hour (if it's good), no you don't need lube, yes I can go from a standing start.

    • I was looking for a opinion like this... from my experience all women are different, so some might want me to get rough, while others would take it slow, it always depends on the woman ofcourse

    • This right here!

  • I'm the girl and my boyfriend makes lots of noise and I don't, I just can't, it feels great but I'm very quiet how can improve this part, we have amazing sex and I know he hates that is so quiet

    • Try to compromise and say if you make less noise I'll make more noise.

    • I love him making noise so I get what girls are saying about guts making no noise, noise is great I know I'm driving him crazy from the way he reacts.. I just can't get it out, I try make little moans here and there but it's so out of my comfort zone, I'm just not a noisy fucker lol 😩😉👿

  • Sex just for pleasure and health :) Giod myTake thanks :)

    • hi. are you from turkey

  • Surprisingly enough I have no issue with this. I do how ever need to point out a few things that should be understood by all genders one being that communication, and understanding is key. Both men and women have the problem of communication most of all when it comes to sex. So often do both men and women alike just fall short due to general hearsay, lack of knowledge, and lack of communication. Because the reality is we don't talk to each other about it enough. Men understand something take in knowledge that women provide, take notes, and ask questions. Study in depth female anatomy in all forms from books and videos, to porn and in depth anatomical exploration I promise you It's worth it. Also men don't be afraid to ask questions to the lady's there feed back and opinion is important for sexual progress; plus think of it like this the more you know the less effort and insecurity you will have. Now women I promise you, you don't know men as well as you think yes generally the things you do we like why because we are easy to please; why well literally being able to actually see what you're doing instead of reaching in to a whole is easier because there is a clearer visual of stimulation. Now some women may think that's a crock excuse, but lets put it like this you have a vagina so you know what more or less makes you feel good why because you have had more time to explore the "depths" of yourself as men we don't got that kind of time why because we don't have vaginas. Now yes we do like what you do to us and generally it works, but that doesn't mean men love it; men make due and are generally okay with what you do, but there is so much more to learn, so study up, ask your men, and do some anatomical exploration as well I promise we have secrets to. That being said both genders have a huge issue which still comes back to communication, why well both men and women are to afraid and insecure to ask and question each other and so in the end both suffer; well maybe not suffer, but are much less in tune with the other. Those questions being where, how, and when how hard or soft. The answers obviously being here, there, at this time, this is how hard, this is how soft, and if you touch this in the right way you'll pull a rabbit out of a hat. In other words both genders struggle talk to each other more, study up, choose knowledge over insecurity, and patents over frustration. Things get better just got to be willing to put in the time and effort.

    • Either way that's my two cents yes there are more questions and yes there are many more answers, but i think i gave a good general census on the issues. Also both lady's and gentlemen there are tricks and things both the female and male body's can do that many of you don't even know exist wrap your minds around that. Why am i the way i am and have no insecurity's, well i'm a freak of nature and for some reason info is my best friend and i know way to much. Who knows maybe i lost my virginity to young, maybe I was brought up in a way that brings me to question and seek understanding rather than to ridicule and dissuade, maybe I've just been lucky in life, maybe its none of thees things or all of them. Like i said who knows the only thing i know is that at the end of the day on this i am very right and even if i'm not then hey at least i'm willing to except it and learn on which i wish more people in general would do. Well hope this helped someone later.

  • Great post but it is subjective.
    I have been surprised on many occasions by women sticking their tongue in my mouth and being asked to bite their nipples or pinch them.

  • i agree with every single point. good job;)

    • its funny. i get that this doesn't apply to everyone but the point is they are helpful things to consider. and posts are left right center asserting women think the men think this, no one seems to care that nothing anyone writes applies to everyone--unless its about sex. then suddenly everyones against stereotyping ;p

    • Haha so true honey.

  • There is really so much truth in this lol thank you for educating the men on here

  • This is so true!
    1. depends on the situation but overall very true.
    2. Sometimes it can be nice if he touches my nipples with his teeth but doesn't bite. Like hold them. Biting hurts.
    3. Hurts like hell. Don't do that. It's like rubbing a guy's tip dry.
    4. No experience
    5. YES
    6. YES
    7. Luckily my boyfriend doesn't always assume sex
    8. Yes. It's a real turn off for me if he doesn't enjoy it.
    9. Little obvious.

  • The clit thing is so true. And guys, be gentle, please! I don't want rough fingers scraping at my clit like sand paper.

    However, gently nibbling the nipples is ok, though sucking and tongue flicking is hot as fuck... and looking at me while doing it. *dies*

    • I always find it hard to look in the eyes of a girl when I'm sucking and tongue flicking her nipples... but yes when going down on her I look her straight in the eyes

    • I can see where you're coming from about the looking up while licking. A few glances though 😍

  • Yeah, that's your opinion and your experience. One should learn with his/her partner (s) and discover what works for them and what doesn't.

  • Yup... those that do any of these > a complete turn off!

  • Thank you for pointing out that when kissing tongue-action is something that should be built up to! I fucking hate when people I make out with immediately try sticking their tongue in my mouth. It totally puts me off.

  • I genuinely like this post!

  • I guess this is your opinion, i respect that, it's great your putting it out there and making it vocal, the way you say it though makes it sound like these are guidelines, i'd say just be a little cautious about how you word it, if this is just to get it off your chest, i don't mean to shoot that down. other than that, good take.

  • We are like the same person!

  • "I make noise so you know so please return the favour"

    i dont make any noise during sex. maybe the odd little grunt here and there but im not going to go all American pie just so the girl knows im enjoying it :p

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LvdUekq7K8&feature=youtu.be&t=49s

    • skip forward to 49 seconds lol.

  • If I sleep with you don't assume I want more- I Don't Take Guys Out On dates... so usually if I sleep with you the first night, it's because I could careless what you think of me and whether you think I'm a h** because I'm not trying to impress you. So guys if she's holding out it's because she likes you 😉 lol

    • I wouldn't want a girl who is uncomfortable having sex with guys she respects...

    • You wouldn't know that though. ..

  • Complaining that someone else's opinions are wrong shows you a lot about the person whose complaining. Especially when it's about sex. y'all should be extremely happy that someone opened up and gave some clueless people worthy advice.

    • It's only advice about how to have sex with her. I'm not considering having sex with her, so what exactly is the value again?

  • Nice myTake, I like it :D

  • Geez. Thanks for putting it out there. I feel... Enlightened.

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