What if he thinks my kinks are psycho? 👀?

[Hannah_Ann_Linge]

Yes, so I admitted my freaky, little kinks to a guy. They involved schoolgirl, kidnap, and medical role play. Electric stimulation, tied up, BDSM, sex in front of a mirror, whipped cream, sex in the kitchen, remote control vibrator in public, and many other things. Of course, if he didn’t want to do all of them I completely understand, but is this abnormal if a girl is the one wanting to do all of this? He told me he’s surprised because he had never met a girl so kinky. How would you feel if a (shy before you get to know her) girl opened up and said all of those things? I also said I think about him when I use my vibrator. Would you think she’s a hoe (even if she’s a virgin)?

[Anonymous]

So you admitted your kinks to your guy... that’s great!

It’s not abnormal that you are “so kinky”... what’s “normal” anyways? everyone has different turnons/kinks.

Of course, it’s better if you find someone that you’re compatible with... I would be very accepting and happy to find out that my new woman was into all that—because it would be so exciting...

You telling him that you think about him when you use your vibrator is so sexy, and the roleplays & remote control vibrbator are very naughty (in a good way)...

What did he like/respond positively to?

[Hannah_Ann_Linge]

He responded very positively about it. Never made me feel weird, but he didn’t say if he wanted to try all of it

[Hannah_Ann_Linge]

I seriously feel like I’m kinkier than him

[Hannah_Ann_Linge]

I’m into BDSM, and I know guys get kind of nervous about hurting the girl. I’d want it to be very rough

[Opinion Owner]

Ok cool... anything that he liked in particular?

[Opinion Owner]

Which part of BDSM do you like?

Bondage/Discipline
Domination/submission
Sadism/Masochism

Maybe you’d like to respond to this question...

18+ ADULTS ONLY: For those who like BDSM—what aspects (parts) of it do you like? ↗

18+ ADULTS ONLY: For those who like BDSM—what aspects (parts) of it do you like? ↗

[Opinion Owner]

*Sorry for the double post of that link

[Arivor]

Oh, yeah! I'm just gonna have so much fun with you! First let's set our personal boundaries out for both of us to agree and consent to. If I tell you I'm not into something or even if you feel that I'm looking a bit uncomfortable in what we do... back the fuck off! Just as I will with you!

Since this is really going into depths that you and I have never quite explored... let just start by getting to know each other a bit.

Electric stimulation, now that is something I'm very familiar with... seriously, I really have no idea how many tens units and devices I have gone through... Hell, They can sure give me some feelings that I would not be even be willing to experience in "real" terms. However, this isn't about me... it's all about you! So, tell me (other than everywhere) the places you like to have exalted into very heavens!

[AustinMan]

I'd prioritize the list and have her do the same and just start down the lists, alternating, after I spanked her hot and hard for being such a "slut!"

[Red_Arrow]

A few of those things would not be acceptable to me. But most I would actually like. I think you two can find ways to allow you to enjoy most of your kinks. Don’t worry about it unless he actually tells you he is unhappy about them.

[RACSKC0B]

You know what you want, what you like, and you told your dude. Thank you for not expecting him to be psychic.
Doesn't that make more sense to tell someone who you've not had sex with before, or only a few times what you like rather them making them guess?
The sooner they know the sooner they can either start doing what you like, or get freaked out and move on. Either way no one is wasting anyone's time pretending.

[GalwaysLittleBird]

I would ask her to slowly introduce me to those kinks. I might end up liking them, and if not, at least I know I'm pleasing her.

I don't think she's a hoe. We start getting kinks at very young age when we are virgins, so it's only natural. I might think that the reason you have so many kinks could be because you haven't had sex, so you are releasing yourself in more ways than the rest of the people, which is neither wrong or bad.

I could be wrong. I have weird kinks (I just posted a question about one myself) and I've been having sex for many years.

[PurSeduction]

Find someone/people who shares/share most of your kinks.

[TonyV]

Fantasies dont make a girl or anyone a hoe, those all sound pretty normal to me, I don't know about the remote controlled vibrator in public but everything else sounds fun.

[Hobbert]

glad I'm not the only weirdo that likes having a mirror there.

[SjE78]

if he gets turned off cos of your kinks then he is clearly not the guy you want or need...

and vice versa...

[foxrider77]

I’d ask why double pen or strap on for guy wasn’t in the list.

[TadCurious]

Hannah the only one of your kinks that freaked me out was the one about sticking each other with needles. Otherwise you have a delightfully creative sexual imagination.