What if my wife stops having sex with me? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I've been married for 2 years and our relationship has been wonderful. I married the woman of my dreams. We never fight or argue at all. We have successful careers and great social life. I have an extremely high sex drive and she use to have one as well. We use to have sex 10 times a week at least... now we only have it once every 2-3 weeks. It's like she's lost passion. This has been going on for 3 months now. When I tried to talk to her about it she acts as though nothing is wrong and everything is normal. I want to seek professional help, but sex is the only problem we have now. What do I do? Is this normal?

Please advise

[kylee2437]

Yeah I would try and tell her why sex is important to you, aside from just getting your nut ( I know that’s why men love it) but try to make it more than that. If she doesn’t listen to your feelings on why sex is important to you, this marriage is doomed

[Asker]

How do I make it more than that? That's the whole point of having a marriage. (And yes, building a life with someone is important.) But Sex makes me feel close to the person. It's the only reason to stay in a monogamous relationship. (Besides the whole "I really care about this person" speech.)

[kylee2437]

Say that it makes you feel closer to her and it is a form of bonding for you as well. You just need to really think of reasons that are more deep seeded than saying “I want my nut” . Women are very emotional oriented and are more likely to drawn to emotional reasoning. If you tell her that it makes you feel overall more loved and closer, she’s going to go out of her way everytime if she truly does love you.

[Asker]

Well said. Very well said.

[kylee2437]

Of course! That also means making sex a romantic experience for her too. Don’t be afraid to be that rose pedal and candle guy

[Asker]

Oh I know, trust me... I've tried that plenty of times.

[kylee2437]

Or even other ways too. Nice weekend get away some where, location changing sex etc. not attacking you personally but I do feel like many men do tend to give less romance once they are in something for so long too, so just making her feel extra loved and wanted

[dustybiker]

Find someone to talk to. Maybe you can convince your wife to go too. Marriage without sex to me is just friendship. You can’t make someone have sex. If you aren’t happy there is a lot you need to talk about.

[MrNameless]

Don't stop going on dates with her. Keep the romance alive and help her around the house if you haven't already. You can also try new things, go in vacation, etc. And don't lose yourself physically.

[BLP11520]

Being cut off has ruined many relationships... Love to tell my story but this is to public for me.

[Anonymous]

When I sleep with married guys I hear the same exact story every time. Started out great, now no sex.