What is my sexuality?

I am a girl and I like female genitals and the thought of dating a boy, male genitals and the thought of kissing a girl are gross to me. I have only ever had real crushes on guys besides a few girl celebrity crushes (most of them were lesbians or bi) and one non-binary one. I tend to mostly have crushes on homosexual guys and girls. what is my sexuality?

Updates:
3 mo
I am 100% in the closet and never coming out bc my whole family is Christian and I also want to be, but I really need to know so that I can let it go. This means I have no easy option of therapy. I have also tried googling for ages and can't find anything.
3 mo
Fixed wording: I am a girl and I like female genitals and the thought of dating a boy. Male genitals and the thought of kissing a girl are gross to me. I have mostly have crushes on guys but have had a few crushes on girls. Most of my celebrity crushes are homosexual I have never been in a relationship. I am 100% never coming out bc my whole family and I Christian, but I really need to know so that I can let it go. This means no therapy. I have tried google too, no results. What is my sexuality?
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  • So understand the update more!

    Honestly you might just need to meet your match find your spark and that person who excites you and loves you and showed care sweetly romantically.

    Till I met my hubby so thought I was asexual Christian... Yeah nothing really got me that loving butterfly feeling until we met and dated! Then got married... My friends want the baby carriage lmao

    Please don't feel you need a label or wodly label. Your amazing how you are and who you are!

    This internet media and movies and TV is meant to confuse you try to make you someone they want and take away who you are inside and will be.

    Don't worry about a silly label that is constantly being changed flagged and reworked to confuse you!

    Your special just who you are and don't force a desire that is not there! Just cause media says you need it when you don't!

    All highschool college no desire or want for a date until I met someone and actually had chemistry!

    You will find them some day I know your family is praying hard for you!

  • I guess you may discover through time since you don’t have enough experience with sex and sexuality. There will never be enough label or categories for it. You will never know until you find one.

    Being interested in both guys and girls and homosexual guys and girls I think it’s closest to pansexual.

    Anyway, just be yourself. I think tomboy lesbian girls may match what you like :)

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well by that the ideal person for you would be a trans m to f but overall you are with the stereotype that oenises are gross and the typical boy affectionate one but not female one so I would say it’s just typical, one way is to deal with it and comlete the two halfs wich are both unconplete and become a true bisexual person or just be a switch

  • Go to a Christian sex therapist Don’t label yourself. You can work it out with the sex therapist. They will not do you wrong.

    • I don't want to tell my family and I am not old enough to go myself, thank you though.

    • How old are you?

    • 14, ik too young to decide, but I need to know.

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  • Sexuality is a spectrum. I’m sure that you could research all sorts of sexualities on google and find a label that fits you best if you want a label.

  • Why do you need to put a label on it?

    • It's the only way that I can really stop thinking about it.

    • Doesn't labelling it make it seem even worse?

  • Somekind of bisexual asexual, it's really odd, good luck finding a guy who be okay with you not liking male genitals and a girl who don't want to kiss, better become a nun. :)

  • It seems like you may be gay or possibly bisexual

  • You seem be a regular girl with a very potent libido ( pervert )

  • I think your straight and still figuring out what you like when it comes to dating.

  • You sound like a lot of gals on here. You want a male husband but want a girlfriend on the side. You have come to the perfect place for encouragement.

  • With all due respect you're just a kid, so your sexuality is still latent. When you fall in love you will know. For now just concentrate on your studies and having the kind of carefree fun that only kids enjoy.

  • Gay.

    • lol obviously to some extent

    • Gove it a minuet... lol you'll know for sure. Takes time to learn and be OK with it.

  • Your sexuality is you. Don’t search for a label, it’s ok to be unique.


    Not everyone conforms to label norms. I love girls and girl genitals but want my penis cut off. I don’t fit into labels either.

  • It’s possible you haven’t experienced puberty and getting mixed emotions about things, it might take years to figure it out, you might be bisexual, I remember not liking girls and felt a close bond with boys instead but once puberty hit I was so into girls

  • I think u are so ypung

    And if u meet a nice guy, you will be attracted to guys :)

  • You are attracted to female genitals, but can't see yourself dating a girl? And male genitals gross you out? Assuming that's correct (sorry, but the way you worded this is confusing, to me) you're only sexually attracted to women, but you can appreciate a good looking guy.

    Perhaps you're a lesbian who's wishing she was straight because you don't like how women act so you wouldn't want to be in a committed relationship with one. Perhaps you also like the thought of a man protecting and providing for you.

    Sounds like you're a lesbian.