What is real sex like (as opposed to porn)?

Do you have sex under the covers, or on top of them? Lights on or off? Do you change positions? I'm curious, because I've never had sex, and my understanding of sex has mainly come from p*rn , erotic art, and instructional books. Are homemade sex tapes actually what it's like, or are they playing to the camera and imitating p*rn?
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  • Real sex is bumping heads, getting tangled in your underwear, moves that end up making you laugh. Real sex is about fun, intimacy and comfort. Real sex is jiggly butts and stomachs, hair in his mouth when swooping in for a soul kiss when she is on top. Real sex is real noise, vagina farts during doggie style and squishy slappy noises. Beds squeak and so do humans.

    There is not a whole lot elegant or artistic to the sweaty, groping act of having sex. Sometimes it is perfect, but more often than not both parties are trying to find their underwear from where it was thrown when it is all done.

    • This made me smile. I've had a hard time wrapping my head around the concept of real sex, because I've seen way too much p*rn in my life. I have had difficulty reconciling the idea of sex being something loving and intimate.

    • This is a great description. This should be MH.

    • Stop it girl! This story is making me horny lol ;)

  • Watch the notebook lol. It also depends on if you're in love. Or any love flick with sex scenes id say is pretty accurate. Also depends on the partner. I've had awkward sex and I've had amazing sex. No more awkward sex for me. Ever.

  • Generally nothing like what you see in mainstream p*rn.

    • What about the truly amateur homemade videos, where they set a camera up in the room?

    • Is that authentic, or are they doing anything different just because there's a camera?

    • Assuming you have been lucky enough to have real sex yourself and viewed a truly amateur homemand video, you would know that the totally amateur stuff is accurate and real.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Buddy, our ancestors have been doing it just fine for millions of years without any prior knowledge. Just do what comes naturally to you. (And also what girls on this site tell you to do)

    • I understand that... The reason I asked was because p*rn has given me a very negative view of sex. I have a hard time seeing how it can be intimate and loving.

    • That is the proper way to feel about the stuff. Also remember not to let it define your standards. That would make your standards absurdly unrealistic.

  • p*rn is nothing like real sex other than the fact that there are genitals connecting. And even that sometimes is exaggerated for the camera.

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  • More crying during the anal.

    So hotter, basically.

  • That's the beauty of it--you get to decide what it's like. As for myself and my partner, we do it any way we can think of, and change positions a lot.

  • On top with the lights on. We change positions a lot

  • Most times nothing like you see in p*rn .

  • Mainstream p*rn is the answer you seeeek