What is sexual compatibility?

I was reading some of the answers to the question about if someone would date a virgin and wait for marriage.

A lot of people are saying that if they wait until marriage, you won't know it you're sexually compatible but what does that mean?
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  • What is sexual compatibility? A justification to have sex before marriage.

    I don't believe in "sexual compatibility" because it contradicts the very nature of sex itself. It's a reversal of priorities. Sex is supposed to be the deepest and most intimate expression of love, as most people would probably argue. This is true. The problem though is that "sexual compatibility" reduces it to a test of survival, or at the very least adds that component into the mix, which ought not to be the case. The simple reason for this is that as time goes on, children will come along (which is the objective end of sex). They will hopefully see advances in their careers, which will likely involve longer hours, additional responsibilities, and possibly more travel. They might want to further their education. Any one of a number of things can happen that can put a strain on their sex life.

    More importantly though, it tries to fit the other person into a mold that they won't fit into. Sex becomes more a matter of self-gratification than anything else. It limits the ability and willingness of the man and the woman to love each other completely.

    This is why I argue against this whole flawed idea of "sexual compatibility".

Most Helpful Guy

  • For me it’s not just about the sex. I mean there is a ton of other things involved then just sex. Like you both should be attracted to each other both by looks and sexually, you both should feel comfortable having sex together, you should both feel confident in having sex with each other, the emotions for each other should be present and you should both feel ready to have sex together. One person shouldn’t feel they are doing it just to please the other person or that they have to because if they don’t they other person will leave them. And if one person is more experienced then the other then afterwards they should not make they other person feel bad about it by saying things like (well you could do this better by doing this or when doing this it would have been more enjoyable if you did this) also if they are not comfortable doing something don’t force them to do it

Most Helpful Girl

  • a few things contribute to sexual compatibility.
    -pheromones or whatever. You know how with some people, it feels like there's an almost magnetic attraction between you two and even if they don't seem like your 'type', you're drawn to them and find them attractive? Yeah. That kind of chemistry, in a sexual sense.
    -libidos matching up. If you're going to be wanting to have sex on the daily, being paired up with someone who's cool with sex once a month isn't going to end too well.
    -views on sex matching up. If you're super vanilla, you probably won't mesh too well with someone who's got a bunch of kinks. Or even if you're comfortable with sex, you'd have a hard time getting intimate, much less enjoying it if you're with someone who treats sex as a very formal matter.
    -every vagina/dick is shaped differently when it comes not only to things like circumference/length/curvature, etc.. Some dicks just feel better from a purely physical perspective, and vice versa.

    • Thank you. Someone that actually answered the question.

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  • Uh... pretty simple-- "do I like fucking her and does she like getting fucked by me."

    • Maybe this is something virgins can't understand

    • I dunno about that. It's a matter of just a little experiencing things, sure, I suppose, but it's not like people who haven't had sex yet don't still know what they want.

    • How could they know if they haven't done anything

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  • Well, if you test drive a car to see if you like it, you should test drive your lever. Pretty big committment

    • That's not what I asked

    • Yes... if you are sexually compatible... you need to try before you buy to know. No secret to it.

    • That is still not what I asked. The question is, what is sexual compatibility

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  • It's hard to say, it's mainly 2 people fucking each other. And liking it. most people fuck, but if you find someone to wait until marriage and then you go to fuck and you dont like each other, then you have a problem