The thing you are not realizing is that for many men, visual stimulation is far more sexy and erotic than touch. Everything a stripper does encourages you to look at her. The best strippers have the ability to get every guy in the room to have the experience as though each were completely alone.
When in a strip club, you are totally free of judgement. The guys in the $1000 suits are treated just the same as the guys in t-shirts and jeans.
No man entering a strip club is going home with any girl inside. In that way, we are not in competition with each other. Guys can let their guard down, relax and enjoy.
What you also are not seeing is the phenomena of strip clubs during the middle of the day. You have lonely men seeking lunch and a game of cards with a pretty girl. For most old guys in strip clubs this is the only female attention that they get. It's not about even seeing the girls perform. It's about being accepted as you are when you enter the door.
As far as the sexual stimulation is concerned, sitting there at a heightened state of arousal is a pleasure in itself. You are placing far too much focus on orgasm.
A lap dance is enjoyable precisely because she does all the work. Moreover, every move she makes is predicated on the man's pleasure. She spends no time with any focus on herself. Nor does she expect or even desire any effort be made by him to care for her at all. In this sense, a lap dance is a purely selfish pleasure. The exact opposite of pursuing a woman in man's daily life.
The fact that strip clubs are everywhere and they earn money might suggest they have something men want.
so, why not just watch porn at home then?
Porn doesn't laugh at your jokes or look you in the eye and smile. Strippers are only on stage performing for a portion of their time. The rest of the time the are mingling on the floor. They come up to each table to attempt to sell a lap dance, when they've asked everyone that is available, then they sit down at the table and have a conversation with you. Imagine that, a scantily clad woman approached me, asked for money, and even if I don't give her any she still sits down to talk with me. Again, this is the absolute opposite of real life.
I guarentee you the guy in the $1000 suit is treated much better because they know they'll more off of him. lmao!
I am 46. I have never been to a strip club. They wanted to take me there for my bachelor party but I said no. I haven't gone for many of the reasons you list.
1) you have to pay a cover charge
2) you pay too much for beer.
3) you can't touch any women
4) having an erection for a long period of time gets painful.
5) I was married so I could touch all I wanted at home.
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as far as looking you have to remember that a big difference between men and women is that men are very visual. Most of us straight guys can sit and look at a naked woman all day and never lose interest. It is just the way we are wired. Even if it is just tits we are looking at, they are nice to look at and we never get tired of it. so that is the appeal of the strip clubs. But all the negatives WAY outweigh the really nice positive. Plus in the USA, if they serve booze then the woman cannot be bottomless... and that is the best part...
it's simply eye candy. I think men have a photographic memory... while it might seem like a waste of money to most of us, I think to a lot of men it doesn't, because they take these memory photos with them in their brains and fantasize about them whenever they want, even perhaps when their with their gf... I don't know~ I'm just analyzing the situation. :D! and I would think most don't wet themselves because those who go to strip clubs are usually avid strip club goers, and they are used to seeing that, so they learn to control themselves and are not easily aroused since they see it so often... perhaps to a newbie that would be a problem, not knowing how to control their reaction to naked boobs in their face if they've never experienced that before...
ANYWAY~ being "addicted" to strip clubs is just an awful trait to have~ ewk~!
im not addicted to strip clubs but i do like going regularly. i am however addicted to pornography and that may be an awful trait from the outside but i like it
Of course you like it! if not you wouldn't watch porn... ANYWAY~ I don't care what others do, as long as it does not affect me. Do i find it gross? Yes, to a certain point, and then to another point it's certainly not my business! I would advice to slowly back away from it to a normal stand point to where it's not considered an addiction, IF it interferes with your every day life in any way. The end.
Men are visual creatures.
Watch bubble butt by major lazer. If the girls dance like that in that video, I can see the point lolo. Guys like a tease I guess.
I know, but that dies answer any of my questions.. why not just watch a porno in the privacy of your own home. I'll pass on the video. I've seen enough booty shaking videos to last a lifetime.
They like the tease, they like to look that's basically it. Some get hard and some don't. I doubt many cream their pants.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I have gone and enjoy going from time to time. Last time I was asked to go with a group of lesbian who wanted to go with a guy and act the fool.
It is really no big deal you do have some guys who give their money to woman and try to be big man on campus but like any fool, they are parted from their money. I am one of the guys you will stop by for a steak on steak night have a beer, play a few games of pool with the girls and leave. Just like a regular bar with one exception there are women who must pay to be there. So some leave at night owing the bar money. I don't get dances but I will buy a girl a drink. 90% of the girls are broken toys and I have dated a few. They are nothing a woman needs to worry about unless they are dumping all their house money on the cherry picker.
Oh I see, it's ok to go to a strip club, but it's wrong for people to have tattoos! Hypocrite!
Dani78, It seems like you would like me to take you to the strip club with me. I have lived on Avenue Altlantica in Rio de Janerio and have a CPF card. I live right on the beach of Copa Cabanna in Rio and dined at the nicest restaurants on the Rua, A strip bar fails in comparison on the going on's on the beach. My ex was Brazilian and when she came to the USA she had to go to the strip bars in Vegas and in our local city, she could not belive how stupid it was. What do you think when you see a young Black man walking with his pants down? When I see the draug man coming I know his education is limited and there is just something wrong with his thinking. Well the same is true of a person with ink. It is not wrong for the person with his pants hanging down or the person who has ink or a tattoo to walk around it is just easier to know that the mind is not in tuned with the real world or there is something missing. It is wrong for a person to get ink and it is not my words but God
@dani78
they like to look. there's value in just looking.
there certainly is
why not look at home? it's weird.
Tried that, but the strippers would not come to my home.
I certainly wasn't excited by it sexually, but It was fun and relaxing. I probably won't ever go again though.
relaxing how?
I've never really seen the point of them. They get you hot and bothered and there's no outlet for it.
I have been to two my whole life. The first time was when I was 21 and my friends took me there. I left with a horrible headache and an unrequited boner. The second time I was in my 30s and married. It was a bachelor party. Drinks were expensive, it was loud, and kind of pathetic. My wife was not very pleased when she found out.
even i, that i'm into paid sex, consider it a waste of money basically...
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so, never gone before then?
tsk...
haha, ok
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