What is the allure of a strip club?

I mean, you can't have a wank in the moment. you can't touch the women. you just gawk at the women the whole time, joined by other men gawking. and when you get a lap dance, do you just get hard? or do you end up creaming your pants? if you do cream them, do you go to the bathroom and clean yourself off before leaving the club, or wait until you get home? just curious.
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  • The thing you are not realizing is that for many men, visual stimulation is far more sexy and erotic than touch. Everything a stripper does encourages you to look at her. The best strippers have the ability to get every guy in the room to have the experience as though each were completely alone.

    When in a strip club, you are totally free of judgement. The guys in the $1000 suits are treated just the same as the guys in t-shirts and jeans.

    No man entering a strip club is going home with any girl inside. In that way, we are not in competition with each other. Guys can let their guard down, relax and enjoy.

    What you also are not seeing is the phenomena of strip clubs during the middle of the day. You have lonely men seeking lunch and a game of cards with a pretty girl. For most old guys in strip clubs this is the only female attention that they get. It's not about even seeing the girls perform. It's about being accepted as you are when you enter the door.

    As far as the sexual stimulation is concerned, sitting there at a heightened state of arousal is a pleasure in itself. You are placing far too much focus on orgasm.

    A lap dance is enjoyable precisely because she does all the work. Moreover, every move she makes is predicated on the man's pleasure. She spends no time with any focus on herself. Nor does she expect or even desire any effort be made by him to care for her at all. In this sense, a lap dance is a purely selfish pleasure. The exact opposite of pursuing a woman in man's daily life.

    The fact that strip clubs are everywhere and they earn money might suggest they have something men want.

    • so, why not just watch porn at home then?

    • Porn doesn't laugh at your jokes or look you in the eye and smile. Strippers are only on stage performing for a portion of their time. The rest of the time the are mingling on the floor. They come up to each table to attempt to sell a lap dance, when they've asked everyone that is available, then they sit down at the table and have a conversation with you. Imagine that, a scantily clad woman approached me, asked for money, and even if I don't give her any she still sits down to talk with me. Again, this is the absolute opposite of real life.

    • I guarentee you the guy in the $1000 suit is treated much better because they know they'll more off of him. lmao!

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  • I am 46. I have never been to a strip club. They wanted to take me there for my bachelor party but I said no. I haven't gone for many of the reasons you list.
    1) you have to pay a cover charge
    2) you pay too much for beer.
    3) you can't touch any women
    4) having an erection for a long period of time gets painful.
    5) I was married so I could touch all I wanted at home.
    ...
    as far as looking you have to remember that a big difference between men and women is that men are very visual. Most of us straight guys can sit and look at a naked woman all day and never lose interest. It is just the way we are wired. Even if it is just tits we are looking at, they are nice to look at and we never get tired of it. so that is the appeal of the strip clubs. But all the negatives WAY outweigh the really nice positive. Plus in the USA, if they serve booze then the woman cannot be bottomless... and that is the best part...

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  • it's simply eye candy. I think men have a photographic memory... while it might seem like a waste of money to most of us, I think to a lot of men it doesn't, because they take these memory photos with them in their brains and fantasize about them whenever they want, even perhaps when their with their gf... I don't know~ I'm just analyzing the situation. :D! and I would think most don't wet themselves because those who go to strip clubs are usually avid strip club goers, and they are used to seeing that, so they learn to control themselves and are not easily aroused since they see it so often... perhaps to a newbie that would be a problem, not knowing how to control their reaction to naked boobs in their face if they've never experienced that before...

    ANYWAY~ being "addicted" to strip clubs is just an awful trait to have~ ewk~!

    • im not addicted to strip clubs but i do like going regularly. i am however addicted to pornography and that may be an awful trait from the outside but i like it

    • Of course you like it! if not you wouldn't watch porn... ANYWAY~ I don't care what others do, as long as it does not affect me. Do i find it gross? Yes, to a certain point, and then to another point it's certainly not my business! I would advice to slowly back away from it to a normal stand point to where it's not considered an addiction, IF it interferes with your every day life in any way. The end.

  • Men are visual creatures.
    Watch bubble butt by major lazer. If the girls dance like that in that video, I can see the point lolo. Guys like a tease I guess.

    • I know, but that dies answer any of my questions.. why not just watch a porno in the privacy of your own home. I'll pass on the video. I've seen enough booty shaking videos to last a lifetime.

    • They like the tease, they like to look that's basically it. Some get hard and some don't. I doubt many cream their pants.

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  • I have gone and enjoy going from time to time. Last time I was asked to go with a group of lesbian who wanted to go with a guy and act the fool.

    It is really no big deal you do have some guys who give their money to woman and try to be big man on campus but like any fool, they are parted from their money. I am one of the guys you will stop by for a steak on steak night have a beer, play a few games of pool with the girls and leave. Just like a regular bar with one exception there are women who must pay to be there. So some leave at night owing the bar money. I don't get dances but I will buy a girl a drink. 90% of the girls are broken toys and I have dated a few. They are nothing a woman needs to worry about unless they are dumping all their house money on the cherry picker.

    • Oh I see, it's ok to go to a strip club, but it's wrong for people to have tattoos! Hypocrite!

    • Dani78, It seems like you would like me to take you to the strip club with me. I have lived on Avenue Altlantica in Rio de Janerio and have a CPF card. I live right on the beach of Copa Cabanna in Rio and dined at the nicest restaurants on the Rua, A strip bar fails in comparison on the going on's on the beach. My ex was Brazilian and when she came to the USA she had to go to the strip bars in Vegas and in our local city, she could not belive how stupid it was. What do you think when you see a young Black man walking with his pants down? When I see the draug man coming I know his education is limited and there is just something wrong with his thinking. Well the same is true of a person with ink. It is not wrong for the person with his pants hanging down or the person who has ink or a tattoo to walk around it is just easier to know that the mind is not in tuned with the real world or there is something missing. It is wrong for a person to get ink and it is not my words but God

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  • they like to look. there's value in just looking.

    • there certainly is

    • why not look at home? it's weird.

    • Tried that, but the strippers would not come to my home.

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  • I certainly wasn't excited by it sexually, but It was fun and relaxing. I probably won't ever go again though.

    • relaxing how?

  • I've never really seen the point of them. They get you hot and bothered and there's no outlet for it.

    I have been to two my whole life. The first time was when I was 21 and my friends took me there. I left with a horrible headache and an unrequited boner. The second time I was in my 30s and married. It was a bachelor party. Drinks were expensive, it was loud, and kind of pathetic. My wife was not very pleased when she found out.

  • even i, that i'm into paid sex, consider it a waste of money basically...

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    • so, never gone before then?

    • tsk...

    • haha, ok

  • I never got the point of it... sure you get to see half/fully naked women but like you said we can't do anything but throw money at them. I have better things to do with my time lol

    • ::HIGH FIVE:: (:

    • I give you a high five and you push me down. what is this! ;(

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  • i have cum in my pants watching strippers in the past but i usually make it home before wanking over the girls. main thing for me is the thrill of the girls knowing i will be wanking over them

    • they don't care. they're there for the money. nothing more. do you clean yourself off before you leave the club?

    • i know they dont care but i still like them knowing and no not usually.

  • Same appeal as going to a bar. Much cheaper to drink at home, easier to pass out/throw up/drink more/etc.

    Sociality of a lower degree. That's all.

    • who socializes at a strip club? and in what way... ? guy 1: so, uh hey buddy, did you see the tit's on barbie, ooooo weeee! guy 2: meh, I prefer sparkles. great dancer. such poise and finesse. I give her last spin around the pole and 8.5 guy 1: no way, may. 6.0 at best. guy 3: so, how 'bout them yankees? o. O

    • Groups of guys meet each other and get up to crazy shit. Just like bars.

    • doubt it.

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  • I've never been one to really find them all that appealing, but if your into women or men ( whatever your into ) doing a dance, taking off all their clothes for cash while you drink alcohol then that is the place for you.

  • I've never been, but isn't the allure the same as with porn in general?

    I mean, sex isn't only about stimulation and satisfaction. It's also about desire. Which porn caters to. And people chase.

  • Been to one once with my friends from high school (male and female friends keep in mind) lol. Stripper off duty flirted with me at the bar area. Kept showing me her boobs. I was drunk didn't care and grabbed them so at least I got something out of it. One of my friends asked me why I didn't get her number. Honestly glad I didn't. If a woman wants to do that that's fine. I don't know if id like my girlfriend do that.

    • I can understand that.. also, I'd worry about the fact she was ok with a random guy she just met grabbing her breast.

    • that was rude of you by the way

    • Lol I know. She was the one who kept playing with them and talking about them while showing me haha so I don't think she cared

  • Atmosphere.

  • It could also just be like a bar where you can chat with your buds that happens to have almost naked ladies serving you beer and a pole where they dance at.

    • that's weird.. I mean if there were a bunch of naked guy walking in that bar would you want to be there? and that doesn't explain the allure

    • If I were attracted to males then yes I'd probably go... It's not alluring after you've frequented them, which is why I said what I originally said.

    • Well hooters is almost the same thing, minus the nakedness and poles lol.

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  • paying naked women to dance for you is like alcohol for the non alcoholics. relaxs you and takes your mind off stuff...

  • only went once years back, found to be honest it was pussy overload.. i would wait, creaming is not dignified

    • lol.. no, it's not, but neither is working at or going to a strip club.

    • totally agree!! as i said i went once, and personally i would not return.

  • I have no idea why someone would like to go to one.

  • I can't understand it either, I think it would just be frustrating. If I'm going to waste money on that type of thing I'll just go to a brothel. I don't see the point in strip clubs.

  • A women's body is a beautiful thing. Plus these girls are fun to hang around. Don't go to them anymore, but I use to take some home and have fun...

  • It's just the idea I guess, the idea of having women close, so many varieties and able to see and touch them naked, it's quite the treat I tell ya

    • you're not allowed to touch them.

    • We're not allowed? Lol It's just the idea, if 4 boys are going out sometimes instead of sitting in a bar just drinking we could be sitting in a strip Coub drinking and also have a interesting environment

  • Only ever enjoyed going to strip clubs with a girlfriend. Sexually charged situation + alcohol = some pretty hot sex in the parking lot afterward.