What is the allure of a strip club?

Question

I mean, you can't have a wank in the moment. you can't touch the women. you just gawk at the women the whole time, joined by other men gawking. and when you get a lap dance, do you just get hard? or do you end up creaming your pants? if you do cream them, do you go to the bathroom and clean yourself off before leaving the club, or wait until you get home?

just curious.

gray_sailor · Accepted Answer

The thing you are not realizing is that for many men, visual stimulation is far more sexy and erotic than touch. Everything a stripper does encourages you to look at her. The best strippers have the ability to get every guy in the room to have the experience as though each were completely alone.

When in a strip club, you are totally free of judgement. The guys in the $1000 suits are treated just the same as the guys in t-shirts and jeans.

No man entering a strip club is going home with any girl inside. In that way, we are not in competition with each other. Guys can let their guard down, relax and enjoy.

What you also are not seeing is the phenomena of strip clubs during the middle of the day. You have lonely men seeking lunch and a game of cards with a pretty girl. For most old guys in strip clubs this is the only female attention that they get. It's not about even seeing the girls perform. It's about being accepted as you are when you enter the door.

As far as the sexual stimulation is concerned, sitting there at a heightened state of arousal is a pleasure in itself. You are placing far too much focus on orgasm.

A lap dance is enjoyable precisely because she does all the work. Moreover, every move she makes is predicated on the man's pleasure. She spends no time with any focus on herself. Nor does she expect or even desire any effort be made by him to care for her at all. In this sense, a lap dance is a purely selfish pleasure. The exact opposite of pursuing a woman in man's daily life.

The fact that strip clubs are everywhere and they earn money might suggest they have something men want.

godfatherfan · Accepted Answer

I am 46. I have never been to a strip club. They wanted to take me there for my bachelor party but I said no. I haven't gone for many of the reasons you list.
1) you have to pay a cover charge
2) you pay too much for beer.
3) you can't touch any women
4) having an erection for a long period of time gets painful.
5) I was married so I could touch all I wanted at home.
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as far as looking you have to remember that a big difference between men and women is that men are very visual. Most of us straight guys can sit and look at a naked woman all day and never lose interest. It is just the way we are wired. Even if it is just tits we are looking at, they are nice to look at and we never get tired of it. so that is the appeal of the strip clubs. But all the negatives WAY outweigh the really nice positive. Plus in the USA, if they serve booze then the woman cannot be bottomless... and that is the best part...

skullly · Accepted Answer

it's simply eye candy. I think men have a photographic memory... while it might seem like a waste of money to most of us, I think to a lot of men it doesn't, because they take these memory photos with them in their brains and fantasize about them whenever they want, even perhaps when their with their gf... I don't know~ I'm just analyzing the situation. :D! and I would think most don't wet themselves because those who go to strip clubs are usually avid strip club goers, and they are used to seeing that, so they learn to control themselves and are not easily aroused since they see it so often... perhaps to a newbie that would be a problem, not knowing how to control their reaction to naked boobs in their face if they've never experienced that before...

ANYWAY~ being "addicted" to strip clubs is just an awful trait to have~ ewk~!

Bards · Accepted Answer

Men are visual creatures. Watch bubble butt by major lazer. If the girls dance like that in that video, I can see the point lolo. Guys like a tease I guess.

parkway · Answer

I have gone and enjoy going from time to time. Last time I was asked to go with a group of lesbian who wanted to go with a guy and act the fool.

It is really no big deal you do have some guys who give their money to woman and try to be big man on campus but like any fool, they are parted from their money. I am one of the guys you will stop by for a steak on steak night have a beer, play a few games of pool with the girls and leave. Just like a regular bar with one exception there are women who must pay to be there. So some leave at night owing the bar money. I don't get dances but I will buy a girl a drink. 90% of the girls are broken toys and I have dated a few. They are nothing a woman needs to worry about unless they are dumping all their house money on the cherry picker.

harakiri · Answer

they like to look. there's value in just looking.

LikeARiver · Answer

I certainly wasn't excited by it sexually, but It was fun and relaxing. I probably won't ever go again though.

Bluemax · Answer

I've never really seen the point of them. They get you hot and bothered and there's no outlet for it.

I have been to two my whole life. The first time was when I was 21 and my friends took me there. I left with a horrible headache and an unrequited boner. The second time I was in my 30s and married. It was a bachelor party. Drinks were expensive, it was loud, and kind of pathetic. My wife was not very pleased when she found out.

Klaatu51 · Answer

even i, that i'm into paid sex, consider it a waste of money basically...

zorro8888 · Answer

I never got the point of it... sure you get to see half/fully naked women but like you said we can't do anything but throw money at them. I have better things to do with my time lol

wankiam · Answer

i have cum in my pants watching strippers in the past but i usually make it home before wanking over the girls. main thing for me is the thrill of the girls knowing i will be wanking over them

JackKerouac77 · Answer

Same appeal as going to a bar. Much cheaper to drink at home, easier to pass out/throw up/drink more/etc. Sociality of a lower degree. That's all.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I've never been one to really find them all that appealing, but if your into women or men ( whatever your into ) doing a dance, taking off all their clothes for cash while you drink alcohol then that is the place for you.

muspelhem_5 · Answer

I've never been, but isn't the allure the same as with porn in general? I mean, sex isn't only about stimulation and satisfaction. It's also about desire. Which porn caters to. And people chase.

akadatank44 · Answer

Been to one once with my friends from high school (male and female friends keep in mind) lol. Stripper off duty flirted with me at the bar area. Kept showing me her boobs. I was drunk didn't care and grabbed them so at least I got something out of it. One of my friends asked me why I didn't get her number. Honestly glad I didn't. If a woman wants to do that that's fine. I don't know if id like my girlfriend do that.

Despondency · Answer

Atmosphere.

Ihav2fart · Answer

It could also just be like a bar where you can chat with your buds that happens to have almost naked ladies serving you beer and a pole where they dance at.

convo_king89 · Answer

paying naked women to dance for you is like alcohol for the non alcoholics. relaxs you and takes your mind off stuff...

coolbreeze2 · Answer

only went once years back, found to be honest it was pussy overload.. i would wait, creaming is not dignified

ihatethiswebsite · Answer

I have no idea why someone would like to go to one.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't understand it either, I think it would just be frustrating. If I'm going to waste money on that type of thing I'll just go to a brothel. I don't see the point in strip clubs.