What is the difference between having sex and making love?

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SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

My first short answer would be "nothing" -- making love was always the polite term for intercourse. But, I'd agree with the folks who've already posted that, in geney, most folks apply way more intimacy and connection when making love as opposed to having sex. The other nuance would be that sex has so many more parts to it than making love as, again, making love was the term for intercourse and never really included such things as anal or oral, etc. The added nuance the terms has taken on has to do with how you have the sex. If you have a wild, fierce, sweaty, pounding sex that might be "having sex" and the next night you have slow, erotic, languishing sex with lots of caressing, kissing, touching, and slow penetration, etc., that might be "making love".

JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

When you love someone it's more of a multi-faceted experience. You're not just touching skin, you're touching HER skin, you're making HER feel good, and vice versa. You care more about WHAT you're doing, because of WHO you're doing it with. With sex it can be largely divorced from emotion, where they're just something of a toy to do things with- it really doesn't matter who it is, as long as they're physically attractive- kinda like glorified masturbation.

This isn't to say that sex, especially if you have it with a ton of people, can't affect your love making...

Realistically, girls who are smashed by a lot of guys (10+) aren't really able to find the experience as significant.

theothersider · Accepted Answer

Eh it is two sides of the same coin. when I was a younger girl I often thought of it as all the kissing and lovey dovey stuff you did face to face as mine and my husbands attitudes toward sex have changed matured what we do as making love... would probably scare the hell right out of my younger self. so to me now all sex is making love. from the rather mundane to the type were you feel like you need to have a talk with Jesus after ward to ensure you are not going to hell.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Simple.
Having sex without emotional attachment or attraction is like eating fast food!

Making love is like eating a meal your partner or someone you’re attracted to made with love and eat it and feel good about it and you want more..

AmandaYVR · Answer

The feelings involved. There's no emotional investment in "just sex." It's purely hedonistic pleasure.

Cupcakegirl93 · Answer

It tends to be more passionate, sensual, soft - well in my experience :)

MCheetah · Answer

Intimacy/romance.

hahahmm · Answer

Women sometimes say 'making love' to remind a guy that she believes she's has higher value to him than the other 4 billion women he could be having sex with. This is the only real difference.

And some guys let women control them in which case 100% of what he does is what he believes she finds to be of equal or more value to him than it is to him. Traditional men don't view it that way tho. More like, sometimes it's all about her. Sometimes it's all about him and sometimes it's both. All within the context of her having given some overall consent, of course.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Sex is just like masturbating: you're getting off, you feel good, relieved, relaxed. Making love jmdoes that, but also just lifts your soul up. It's more of a connection and more fulfilling

rachel776 · Answer

about 2 glasses of moscato

dustybiker · Answer

People rarely make love to a prostitute.

Dennisnky · Answer

symantics

mandyfire98 · Answer

Making love is a more intimate type of sex. Making love is a lot more emotional and there's normally more bonding involved. Also the sex is normally more intimate and passionate.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Usually sex means it's just physical and nothing emotional. Making love implies there's a deeper connection and feelings.

bubblegunnn · Answer

Having sex: lust Making love: love

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Making love has an emotional attachment behind it. Just having sex doesn’t

mrmonogamous · Answer

My wife and I have three levels:

Sex
Making love
Fucking

The way I defined the differences is as follows: sex is something we do for physical relief and satisfaction. Making love is something we do out of affection and a deep and intimate connection. Fucking is just raw passion. I don’t think you can fuck someone unless you are already in love with them. It’s just another level beyond making love that you can do with a committed partner.

slatyb · Answer

Foreplay?

jshm2 · Answer

How much dick and lube used.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Depends on your attitude after its done. Having sex: Ah that felt good. Back to life. Making love: Smiling, laughing, holding, continued kissing, more sex, passion... Its a huge difference.

leighbee · Answer

Sex is just having sex like one night stands, friends with benefits etc. Making love is an art form something that binds two people that love each other. It is something spiritual that can't really be described

Agape93 · Answer

Sex is the action, love is the motivation

ConspiracyTheorist · Answer

Sex is just about having fun and love is when you throw emotion into it and look deep into her eyes while doing it and getting this feeling deep in my gut like I could stay in the moment forever, like it feels like we are becoming one eyes locked on each other's and tongues swirling around one another's and they both end with her gushing like a geyser 😉