What is the first couple times having sex supost to be like?

So far he has done his fingers on me 2 times and we had sex 2 times. I did bleed a little bit every time, I think that's normal. The part I worry about was it hurt, not like 2 bad with his fingers but like I almost cried when we had sex for real. Ok, I know I'm supost to get wet down there but like how much is normal, it seemed like really a lot. Can it be to much? Last one for now. How long should it take to have sex? Like the part when he put its in? He put it in and out like 3 times then like finished. It hurt a lot so I don't know but like it was like really fast. Before anybody asks or something I am on bc and he had a condom. Wait one more thing, is it normal for down there to kinda smell rubbery like condom smell after?
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  • You was virgin, so it's normal that you bleed and that it hurt, he was tearing your hymen, and you are still not used to having a man's 21st finger inside you. So you don't have a problem with handling his fingers inside you, but you still have a problem with handling his member inside you even though it was your second time, and you not virgin, though you can say that you are still relatively inexperienced. How big is his member? if he has a big member then it's likely one of the reasons that actual sex hurts for you. How long should it take to have sex? you mean how long the foreplay should take? when a woman is wet then she is physically really, but maybe you have some mental blocks? he finish after only 3 strokes, well that's no much, looks like he also have a problem, a problem of finishing too fact, usually it's not a good thing, though in your case it might be for the better, as you barely handle even that, but it might also be way it's harder for you to get used to having sex, because you barely have sex, it's like having a training that last for few seconds, how are you going to get "fit" if you have so little "training". Using two contraceptive methods seems paranoid but okay, and you should take into a count that each contraceptive methods has a side effects, so you basically have twice as much side effects, and it might be also one of the reason for your sexual problems.

    • I mean "physically ready".

    • I dont like him putting his finder inside me it's weird. I guess he's normal size I don't know. Thanks

    • Glad to help, which one of his fingers you didn't like, his 21st finger? what you said right now hint for a mental block and/or a problematic mindset about PIV. You think that it weird when he put his penis in your vagina? it's not weird, it's normal, biologically speaking your vagina is literally made for this, so the only thing that is weird is that you still can't handle his penis, and if finish after moving only 3 times is also somewhat weird, as it shows that he have a low stamina and/or self-control. To put something into perspective, it's not like anal and/or BDSM is involved, and you believe that he had a normal size, it's normal vaginal sex that that hurt a lot for you and make you almost cry, though funny enough the poor sex that you have with him don't stop you from having children, as it take 3 moves for him to finish, and you are able to handle him for that long, so you was not using a a contraceptive methods from nothing, even though your actual sex with him don't last even for a minute from what I understand. Do you like him? if so then you should like his penis too, and see sex as the ultimate intimate act, not as something weird, despite the difficulties that you having right now. Being about to handle his penis is the real test, his fingers are just a warm up, and if he finish after just 3 moves, maybe you should ask him to stop moving before the third move, "taking a break" might help you both, help him to last longer, and help you to handle the pain, and he should stay inside when he stop moving, so you stay connected for longer, and maybe it would help you both to get used to PIV. As for the smell of rubbery, if you are on pills then you can always try to do it without a condom, and for some girls sex is less painful without condoms.

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  • Vaginal bleeding after sex, also known as postcoital bleeding, is not an entirely uncommon situation among menstruating women. And it's even more common in postmenopausal women. While the bleeding can sometimes be distressing, the cause is relatively benign in most cases. Painful intercourse can have causes that aren't due to underlying disease. Examples include inadequate lubrication, rough sex, trauma or negative feelings about a partner. What was your case? The average time for each couple (that is, averaged across all the times they had sex) ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes. That's an 80-fold difference. So it's clear there's no one “normal” amount of time to have sex. I hope I answered your question. Any queries please feel free to ask.

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  • If it hurts, especially that much, then I cannot imagine that you are properly wet.
    Are you turned on when you're with him?

    And there is no "should" when it comes to sex. It takes as long as it takes.
    Although if you're not even satisfied, that is a problem. Sex is not about the guy's pleasure, but the pleasure for both of you.

    • I am turned on and want to do it. I feels like I'm really wet. Um like there was kinda a wet spot on the sheets after. Im happy he likes it si much. I dont think I had an orgasm. It kinda sounds like girls dont right away. But I don't know. Thanks so much

    • Try to prepare more before you have sex, given finger for longer, make sure you're "warmed up" - I know I can feel a difference even if I'm wet or not. You should be able to practice his durance. If you're unsure about whether you had an orgasm or not, you haven't. Just enjoy yourself, be safe, have fun and explore. Focus on what feels good, the pleasure.

    • Kewl thanks I will tell him he needs to do his fingers more and see if that helps. Lol that's funny. It must feel so good.

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