What is the reason sex still hurts?

So basically I lost my virginity 3 years ago but it still hurts like hell when I have sex with a new guy.
Is this normal in your experience?
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  • I think it may be a combination of lack of wetness, tightness and your bfs size.

  • Does it hurt all the time, the first time with a new partner, or what?

    • Usually first time with a new man This time is the biggest size I have ever had sex with

    • If it's any significant time between or if the new guy is significantly bigger, there may be some pain. Make sure you cum a couple of times before he attempts penetration. Here's a link to a My Take I wrote for anal sex but it applies to vaginal as well.

      Comfortable Anal Sex for Beginners: A Guide to the First Time ↗

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  • this is NOT normal

    Either your man is NOT doing enough foreplay (he should make you super aroused, very wet, and tbh, give you 1-3 Os before he is gonna ride you!), you have a medical issue, or he is too big (but too big is not a thing if he does foreplay right to get you ready coz your vaj can stretch wide and deep if you are ready).

    I would either start using lube when you have sex, or if that and more foreplay is not working, then you need to see your obgyn coz there is an issue with your girl parts.

  • If you`re not wet, it can hurt. Maybe you`re lesbian?

    • Lmao no what does sexuality has to do with pain

    • This answer is pure ignorance at its finest

    • @Darcia this happens actually when you see a question and just answer for the xper

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  • There are several factors there: of you are big or short, of your vaginal canal is wide enough, if you lubricate enough, how "big" your boyfriend is, how rough he is... Those are the things you should check to see what the problem is.

  • Use a lot of lube... it helps

  • It can be painful if you aren't very turned on.

    • I am extremely turned on by him we like each other a lot and everything When it comes to penetration... eh hurts like hell

    • In that case, id go see your gynecologist and have them check things out. Doesn't mean it's anything serious but it can be informative.

    • Exactly wet wet wet pussy never gets dry unless you got early menopause lol.

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  • If I were female, I would always pre-lube. It makes first entry much smoother, which primes the pump.

  • Some lube may help or he may be being too rough. Ask him to take it easier if that is the case. If you still have pain see your doctor to check for any medical issues.

  • you are not getting wet enough

    • I get always very very wet this is why I am concerned. Its like deep inner pain

    • Parner penis Big?

    • Maybe some lube might do the trick.

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  • Only if your dry or ruff sex

  • lube and pussy is to tight and its always gonna hurt if you aren't having sex often

  • A change in size can be difficult to accommodate at first.

  • Depends on how big the new guy is and when the last time u had sex was.

  • You're most likely not relaxed and not turned on enough

  • Are they using condoms?
    You may have an allergy to latex!
    Try a brand that doesn’t contain latex.

  • Dry sex. Lube it up. Slow it down. Get wet.

  • Find a guy who isn't circumcised.

  • No way, I would discuss with a health professional.

  • He doesn't know how to please ladies.

  • What is hurting? Are you dry , is the too rough , is it the position, what hurts?

    • I am very wet It is rough Some positions hurt less some just are ready to kill me lol

    • You have to communicate with the guy and tell him to slow down if he's too rough or when it hurts. Take things slow and figure out what's pleasurable and what's not.

    • yell pause that thing king kong