What Is This with Guys and Pics?

[SweetFyter]

OK, thing is, we live in the middle of nowhere, me and my three brothers and "next door" (like three miles down the road) live my four cousins (all boys). We all homeschool and that's all cool and we all get along and blah blah BUT... there are some things I can't discuss with brothers and boy cousins (my two girl cousins are in another state). So I get online when I can but my parents aren't stupid about online stuff so I have to be very careful. So, anyway, I don't get to meet too many new guys, to say the least.

So here's my question... I have met several guys over the last about two years (online) and some have been pretty nice. The stupid ones I block right away. But, even the nice guys, like after a while, no matter what we've been able to talk about and agree on, they always seem to get to talking about how I look and they want to see pics so I'll send a pic and they're all "Oh, you're so cute." Well, whatever! I don't expect them to say I'm ugly, but I think I'm just average. ANYWAY, thing is they always seem to end up asking for pics of me naked, or topless, or just in bra and panties. WHAT IS THAT? Is that ALL guys can think about? I'm young but I'm not stupid. And I know what boys do in the shower so go do that and stop asking us for naked pics! It's sad 'cause some of the guys were SO nice and then... well, that's my issue, I guess. Thanks. This is my first question. Sorry if I ran on.

[Waldoe]

Good question... 1st God created Man... you know this story, Man was lonely and spending a lot of time in the shower... so God created Woman...
MEN are all sexual beings, women, not so much... we did NOT choose to be this way, frankly it's a "pain in the ASS" I wish I could spend an hour with a pretty girl without the idea of SEX poping into my head...
Beleive me... I hate being viewed as a creep, or horn-dog or whatever... It is NOT a concious decision... my Hormones determine my moods... I control my actions... but thats all I can do... the rest is biology... the KEY is I CONTRO:L MY ACTIONS

[Anonymous]

It's not all guys can think about, but appearance is, always has, and always will be what lures a guy over. Personality and depth is what makes us stay. If you're not comfy with it, just say no and be firm with it, but don't assume that it means he can't possess any deeper qualities. Men and women are built differently.

[SweetFyter]

Well, I get it that appearance matters to guys - I totally get that part. But, why naked? Why not just a pic? And it's usually sudden, like it's not like we're talking about sexual stuff at all. It's like "what's your fave color, what kind of food do you like, do you have any pets, can I see you naked? It just makes no sense. But, you're right - men and women are built differently!

[Opinion Owner]

If it's sudden, it just means that they lack any kind of social grace. Nobody with any sense would open with a request like that in the middle of an inoffensive conversation about pets or something. It sounds like they're just younger guys and are wondering how they can ask for what they want. Naked is preferred because they're horny and want to feel good or imagine you. If it's a matter of wanting to keep private, just tell them you don't send nudes and you want to keep chatting to see where things go. Don't let anyone push you to do something you don't want to do.

[SweetFyter]

Well, yes, I understand it's a lack of "social grace." But, like isn't it more than just a "lack"? And it's not just one guy here or there - it's like just about every guy I've spent time talking to online. But you did say one thing I'll have to think about. You said just tell him no naked pics but that I could keep chatting about other stuff and see where it goes. Yes, I COULD do that, I guess. Honestly never even considered that - because it's just such a big thing to me that I think - why would I even WANT to keep talking with a guy that would ask me that. Like, if I knew a guy who lived nearby and we liked each other and we met somewhere in town - would that guy say, let's go get something to eat and, by the way, if you have any naked pics, I'd love to see them. Or, because we're face to face, he asks - hey, lets go somewhere and you can take off your clothes for me. NO, the guy wouldn't say that to my face. So, why would he say it just because we're online? And my point, why would I want to keep chatting with a guy who'd think that was an OK thing to ask? I guess what I'm saying is this - I'm human, too. And, yes, I would like to see guys naked. I DO like seeing guys naked (but so far it's only been brothers and cousins). But, if I was talking with a guy in town that I liked, the LAST thing I would say is, "Hey, would you take your clothes off for me?" It's the same thing. I guess I'm not being clear enough. Sorry. But that's how I see it.

[Opinion Owner]

You're right. It's off-putting, but the internet is also a place where people feel comfortable doing things they wouldn't in person. Online etiquette is terrible and has been for decades. Guys in person will never act like that. You were perfectly clear by the way. I get it :)

[OlderAndWiser]

When boys reach puberty, their sexual interest can be overwhelming for them as well as you. It's like being hungry and the only thing that will satisfy you is food.

[SweetFyter]

OK, yes, I do have "sexual interest." But, I actually CAN think about other stuff. I don't think my brothers or cousins are like that but I'm also not online with them - NO way.

[yofuknutz]

What happens if somebody is hungry and you put them on a diet?

[OlderAndWiser]

@yofuknutz Sometimes, they lose weight, sometimes they die.

[yofuknutz]

Yeah no kidding

[SweetFyter]

@olderandwiser "Sometimes, they lose weight, sometimes they die." Laughed at this. Then I thought, "OH! They might die? So, is it my public duty to send naked pics to guys so they won't die?" NAAAAHHH!

[OlderAndWiser]

No, in know you are joking, but you really should value your body too much to share it with someone else in pictures. It sounds exciting but there are plenty of girls who have pictures now posted online and they had to explai to their dad and their grandpa why there are naked pictures of them on the internet.

[yofuknutz]

Tragically nobody ever thinks of those long-term consequences I'm glad you brought it up it's about time somebody did it's all too much Fantasy on here.

[SweetFyter]

@olderandwiser I would literally DIE if I had to explain online naked pics to my dad. As for Grandpa - it's funny. When I read what you said and I thought about it, I KNEW I would hate to have that time with my dad, but my grandpa? I somehow don't think he'd care all that much. He's kind of eccentric and old-school about somethings and I just feel like he would just shake his head and tell me I'm "foolish" (a word he likes) but I just don't think I would feel so crushed if HE was the one I had to answer to. Dad? Actually, I have no idea what he thinks about nudity and such. It's really my mom who is so old-fashioned and paranoid about stuff. But with Dad, I think it would be more of the "shame" I brought to the family, maybe, more than the naked thing. Like if I was photographed shop-lifting and that was online. It's hard to explain but I think it'd be the shame more than the nakedness. I really can't say but - one thing for sure - it's not gonna happen so this is all just talk.

[SweetFyter]

@me - Wow; I talk too much.

[SweetFyter]

@yofuknutz Thanks. Yes, I do think long term. LOL, like my mom pointed out once (showing how thinking long term is important). She said, "What do you think? Should I get a tattoo across my lower back, right above my butt? I've been thinking about it?" I said, "WHAT - are you CRAZY?" She said, "Oh, so if YOU wanted to get a tattoo, and I asked YOU the same thing, you would understand?" I told her I didn't get what she was saying and she said, "You think I'm crazy because a woman my age having a tattoo above her butt is just weird? WELL, that's why you MUST think long term. What if I had that idea (about getting the tattoo) when I was your age?" I was about 10 1/2 at the time. "I might have got the tattoo and then, all these years later, wish I hadn't. So, THAT is why YOU need to think long term on every decision you make - especially about your body." This was when we were having "the talk" but that really stuck with me (well, that and more, but you know what I mean). So you're right - maybe another young person on here might see this and think twice. I hope so. Kind of why I put the question up there.

[Avicenna]

These are young, horny guys

[SweetFyter]

Mostly, yes. But a few older guys contacted me and it was nice NOT to be treated like a dumb kid. I was asked my opinion on stuff (and sometimes I had opinions on the questions) and it was like a nice conversation and then, "so, do you ever go naked at home?" WHAT? So, yeah, I don't know about the age thing.

[Dargil]

Guys stupidly think they can lure you with pictures.

[SweetFyter]

I read something once (I read a LOT) and it said that males are visual. But I think I could say the same thing about women (or, at least, about me). I'm visual, too. Yes, I like to see naked guys. But FIRST I want to see INSIDE the guy - I want to see WHO he is, before I see the OUTSIDE of the guy, what he LOOKS like. Hope that makes sense. (So, no, I don't think any guy can "lure" me anywhere by sending me a naked pic.)

[Dargil]

That's why I prefer a two or 3 dates before I see what is under her clothes. The talk is most important. Seeing what is inside.

[yofuknutz]

Very important that you point that out very smooth

[SweetFyter]

@yofuknutz @Dargil Well, it's like society now EXPECTS me to be naked on my third date? I know I'm young. OK, but, seriously? I mean, don't get me wrong, I want to know more about sex and I do have my "thoughts" and all, but I can't believe guys are THAT far different from us in that ALL they want is to "get" her sexually, whereas what WE want is to find a guy we LIKE. And THEN, if we like him enough, well then MAYBE sex could happen - or not depending on your principles - point being that I can't see me being naked in front of some guy after three dates. Or four or whatever.

[yofuknutz]

You're thinking is logical the problem with that in the Last 5 Years the demographics have really shifted to favor a nobody so rightfully thinking if you're friends with somebody you get to know love and you expose yourself to them by having sex with them the problem first becoming friends with somebody at the beginning is that the very real risk of the friend zone and back in my day nobody understood the concept if you even think about bringing up the friend zone many guys now stand up they say no way Jose either all-or-nothing approach now so I don't know what to tell you but let's be honest here and try to keep it PG-13 if a guy likes you he find you desirable he is trying to get inside you plain and simple no amount of sugar coating can fight Mother Nature it's a losing battle it's like feeding a dog you know what they want and when they want it you don't make a dog do an Irish jig to get dog food from you and you don't do the Irish jig for the dog before you feed the dog and that's a problem with humans we like to complicate things and now things are really complicated and Fubar which is an army term

[SweetFyter]

@yofuknutz I just don't think it needs to be so complicated. People just make life harder than it needs to be. But, TBH, the first time I read what you said, I missed the part where you said, "guy likes you he find you desirable he is trying to get inside you plain and simple no amount of sugar coating can fight Mother Nature it's a losing battle." My "seeing inside" is NOT the "get inside" you were talking about here. So, yeah, I totally missed that. But, to answer that... is EVERYTHING about sex? Is there nothing without it? Maybe I'm stupid and maybe I'll die old and alone, but I just think there MUST be more to life than sex (as much as I'm interested in that part, it's not the only part - that's what I'm saying).

[yofuknutz]

Where were the expression all roads lead to Rome that is like an expression of sex nine times out of 10 there's always that angle now if you can match it head-on and always establish your intentions clearly you can dodge many bullets that life has to throw at you remember nature wants us to reproduce so everything is tied into that it is what it is youngster

[SweetFyter]

@yofuknutz Well, then, I guess my goal is to dodge the bullets of life. I think I'm doing that by not getting involved with guys who can only think about sex.

[yofuknutz]

I hate to spoil your party every guy thinks about that you have to find a way to manage that

[SweetFyter]

@yofuknutz Just saw this: "I hate to spoil your party every guy thinks about that [sex]..." Well, yeah, I know all guys do and I do, too. But the point is, is sex ALL they think about? I think about it but I think more (or first, anyway) about how he treats other people (me, other girls, his guy friends, ...) and what he says about people who aren't around. All that stuff tells me more about WHO he is. And if THAT is good, then, yeah, I think about the sex stuff. We're all human. If I can control or prioritize my thoughts, why can't guys? I guess, thinking about this... if I see a guy, I think, "Hmm... he's cute. I wonder what he's like?" and not "Hmm, he's cute, I wonder what he looks like naked?" But I think guys must think in reverse order? And then, if they don't like what they picture naked (or they SEE her naked and don't like it), then they never care about the second question, "Wonder what she's like."

[yofuknutz]

Pretty much spot on.

[BarryLiverstone]

Some guys do this when they feel their hormones. Hopefully you have had better experiences since then

[SweetFyter]

Well, TBH, when I found this site and came on here, I was afraid I'd start getting more pics sent to me (unasked for). But, thankfully, I have not had ONE! So I guess that tells me that the guys on G@G are much more intelligent and respectful than online in general.

[BarryLiverstone]

You get pics on other sites?

[crmoore]

Guys most certainly can control their sexual urges, those guys just didn't want to. They probably were nice to you specifically to try and get those from you. Which is a real shame. I hope those experiences don't prevent you from talking to people, there's plenty of decent people out there.

[SweetFyter]

OH, they won't! I love talking with people online! I just ignore those guys with no control.

[crmoore]

Glad to hear it 😁

[oldermale]

Very well said...
Some guys but not all..

[Godsvengeance]

Guys have a tendency to think of things sexually, even when we attempt not to. Also, it's been my experience that guys are more likely to be visual learners so the sight of things and people are more important to them where girls are more audio learners so the sound of things are more important. That's why guys prefer videos and girls are more likely to enjoy takking on the phone

[driven159]

guys think of sex all the time so asking for naked pictures are part of it

[Zlantur2]

Guys are visuals and like to see nude bodies. I'm not blaming you but you are right, you can't understand us cause we have more testosterone levels too.

[SweetFyter]

LOL, hey, I like seeing nude bodies, too, but you are right - guys have WAY more testosterone levels and that's as it should be. I don't want hair on my chest HA!

[Zlantur2]

Exactly. And we don't want you to have 🤣

[Anonymous]

Guys that do that, know they can get away with it and not be slapped or kicked in the balls.

[Anonymous]

The naked pics make it easy for us to do it in the shower.