What makes a guy refuse free sex?

I Live with a guy who helped me through many bad things and he’s letting me stay with him without paying rent, in return he asked me to do chores and cook while he’s at work. I didn’t buy it! So I offered him sex but he refused and told me to not say these things for guys because they’ll try to use me & hurt me. I told him i’ve been there and I’m used to it, yet he said that I value more than what I think & he’ll help me see it. He said I’m pretty & sexy but he’s not gonna use me sexually because I live with him. It’s been 1 month and I still don’t understand.

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  • A wife? Fear of an STD? Fear of unwanted pregnancy?

    • Morals, integrity. Sounds like he wants your trust more than your pussy. Sounds like a good guy!

  • He sees you as somebody who has been used before and has issues with self worth. He wants you to see that you are more than just a sexual object and you are a awesome human being.

  • Thats a good guy, don't fuck it up with offering sex

  • You should hold on to this guy marry him and make more copies. He apparently cares for you and don’t want to use you or make you feel you have to offer sex for rent he thinks you are better than that. A word of advice take his word he told why and you can trust a guy with such values is it weird now that some of us don’t see women as sex objects? The other side is self image I wouldn’t sleep with someone because she thinks she has to or has no other options I don’t feel good about myself it’s different when she is a position to Choose and chooses me. He probably wants that too.

  • Some guys have dignity and respect for women. It's not a complicated read.

  • It's because he respects you. How old is he?

  • If it bothers you that much, then it means you want to have sex with him.

    You would need to love him, not bribe him, if you want sex. Women who use sex as a trade offer tend to cheat.


    • But I’ve never been in relationship before.

  • he has actual integretiy and honor. dpunds like a genuine nice guy or good man.

    could also be a self preservation angle to it in that by turning you down could save him from a possible (not saying you would but many women will and do) false allegation sometime down the road.

    could be (again on the honorable side plus some pride) to accept could be seen as pity sex as maybe you would not normally sleep with him if not for him doing a service or services for you (helping as he has and does) which to many of us can also be seen (by our own minds at least) as prostitution (trading something [money, material, services] for sex) and plenty of us have varying objections to doing that.

  • You don't understand that he values you as a human being and not a sex slave? He actually cares and is telling you that he wants to treat you like a gentleman would. He wants to date you before he has sex.

    • Wait! You mean he likes me?

    • Duh. He said you're pretty and sexy. Why else. He likes you.

  • Most likely he's put you in the friend zone for reasons why you're there. He respects you. He's just asking to help around house while not paying rent and food. You're not there as a sex toy. you're a friend in need.

  • Because he respects you. Maybe he respects the concept of sex more than you do. But this is good. He is a good man.

  • Self esteem and priorities. Most men want women who they will date, and love. The notion that we just want to blast every other girl out there is not true. This is especially true the older and more mature we get.

  • You have a great friend right there. He respects you as the woman you are. He's a true gentleman. He values the friendship that you have together.

  • You're a naive and impressionable young girl, and you've only ever known bad men. You've never met a good man before. That's why you're confused.

  • He doesn’t like the idea of paying for sex. Or maybe he isn't attractive to you in that way, it would be like work to have sex with you.

  • He cares about you and doesn't want you to be having sex with him as a form of payment. He wants you to see that you are worth more than your body

  • Sounds like he’s on another level…and your stuck on yours

  • I personally only want sex in marriage.

  • Integrity.

  • He sounds like a great person just try to help you out and doesn't want to take advantage of use you sexually. Also possibly he just care for sex much or might be gay but probably not. He see you more of a value than a sex object that your use too.

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