Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I love men. But growing up you realize that there are different kinds of them, some you like more, some less, some not at all. So many times we hear about "real men" and everyone has a different opinion.
Here is what i think:
Being a real man
is not about how much money you have.
Is not about how many women you have been with.
Is not about how masculine you look
Is not about the amount of "swag" you have
Is not about the size of your penis.
is not about how socially powerful you are
So:
1. A real man will stand by his family and he will do everything for his children and wife.
Real men stand by their children, they will never leave and abandon them for an easier life with a new girlfriend. Even if they get divorced from their mothers the children will still be their first priority. Those who just run away and rarely or never have contact are poor excuses of men.
2. A real man will be consistent.
He won't cut contact suddenly and for no reason and remember you again when he needs something. He will be there when you need him and he will make time even on the busiest of his days
3. A real man will be loyal.
Loyalty is rare nowadays. A real man will be loyal to his woman, loyal to his friends, loyal to his family, loyal to his purpose
4. A real man will never try to prove his manliness through violence because he doesn't need to prove anything.
He won't hit women because they "insulted him" or "pushed his buttons", he won't hit his kids because "they dont listen", he won't pick up fights on the streets . He will only use violence if is necessary to protect his loved ones
5. A real man will not make excuses for himself and he will admit when he is wrong.
So many guys are unable to accept responsibility for their actions and try to blame everyone else.
6. Real men work and try to make the best of their lives.
It doesn't matter what job or the lever or education or how much money they making. A low payed uneducated man is better than a spoiled brat that lives off his parents money and he is better than work shy people who chose to live off of social security.
What Girls & Guys Said
11 43Great my take..
Real man don't get laid..
And I want to get laid
Hence I don't intend to be a real man..
you got it all wrong
This is just the making of a decent person not a man. It applies to women too. You have to fight sometimes when your a man. If you start a fight for no reason you'll just about always lose anyway. You've put the guy in survival mode and he'll come at you like a wild animal and give 120%. A real mans humble and puts everybody on a pedeastal above himself. A leader must be a servant. Thats why men come across as strong. Humbleness and a sense of humility make you strong. I agree its got nothing to do with money. Money makes you weak if anything
i agree
I agree with every point of this MyTake, but my older brother keeps telling that I will never get a girl to stay with me unless I have lots of money. Ironically he never seems to have a long term girlfriend and is rich compared to me. So I'm wondering if he is just full of shit, trying to put me down and make himself feel better about himself.
the sort of girls that will be with a man for his money only, is not the sort of girls that will give you a loving , genuine and long term relationship
So many times, I've flirted with pretty girls, everytime they wait for me to ask them on a date. I never do and they look so disappointed. I probably made so many of them feel insecure. They were so beautiful. I wanna apologize to them if I met them again. I'm a fool to not trust my instinct. If she is as loyal as I would be to her, I would definitely married her and appreciate her criticism because I know it would only be to make me better.
4/6 are nonsense.
which ones and why
then first four and because.
thats not an answer :D But ok
it is and yes ok
I just disagree with it not being about how much money you make lol
A huuuuge part of life is money, lol
So my husband is less of a man because I'm the primary earner and he's our children's primary caretaker? ::taps foot::
@redeyemindtricks *kneels in submission and begs for forgiveness* lol well you're dual income, so household income 'sall good
I mean, we are nominally dual-income, but at this point it's more than 80 percent from me. His work is all long-term commissions; he can work 0 hours for several weeks on end if need be. Let's not kid ourselves here -- There's a certain point above which *most* 2-career families are like a car with 2 engines and no exhaust. Not really gna work. One person has to be the primary, and the other has to be their support -- or BOTH will suffer. I wouldn't be able to do half of what I'm doing, without my husband's logistical support. And, more importantly, I might be the rainmaker around here, but, at the end of the day, this is definitely HIS household. There's no question about that at all.
@redeyemindtricks Dude, you're the best red eyes fr Just have the fucking life trophy already
hahah well if that's not /s then thanks lol <3
@redeyemindtricks I think the mere fact he makes enough to take care of the family or you is good (in this case he looks after the kids). But this opinion will differ, a woman let say is not a real woman (imo) will want guys with $$$ it's considered attractive in some eyes
How much money you make it doesn't define who you are. Not in the eyes of mature and descent people. A factory worker with no education and minimum wage is not less of a man that his boss who makes millions
tell that to the gold diggers
@Fusionpredz the world has good and bad, it has been like that since the begging and it will always be like that. While you can not change the world , you can change your view of it. So some are gold diggers. So what? Does their opinion matters more? will you believe that money making the man just because the gold diggers do? We chose what to believe and with whom to agree
A real man only needs two things - an X chromosome and a Y chromosome.
Don't buy into this "real man" bullshit guys. Women are getting called out for the slutshaming crap that they pull on each other, so now they're redirecting their judgment towards us.
lol, this is not war of the sexes... i think many of you getting very defensive, whats up is it difficult to be descent person? Because that is what the take is about
But it really isn't though. By posting shit like this, you're making guys who don't exactly fit your cookie cutter ideals to feel shit about themselves. It's pure mean girl bullying by exclusion.
this is the way you perceived it, not the way it was meant. Is all about being decent, nothing wrong with that. But of course is your opinion and is respected
Well if you want to say that men should be decent, then just say that men should be decent. What you actually said is the equivalent of body shaming and slut shaming. Think about it. What if some poor kid in Spain or Greece came across your take? Their economy is shot and there just isn't enough jobs to go around, but hey your take doesn't cover that. According to this, he can't be a real man. What if a guy is stuck with a mentally unstable wife who physically abuses him? According to criteria 1, he has to keep himself in danger otherwise he doesn't qualify as a real man.
did you read what i wrote or just the titles? For work : is about the intention to work. I am pointing out that doesn't matter the nature of job (good, bad, low payed etc) as long as the person has the intention to work. There are people who live on purpose in benefits because they dont bother differently. If someone tries and can not find work , this is out of their control. As for loyalty, do i really need to explain the obvious? Loyalty and been a victim are different things and what you describe is not loyalty matter
The former 6 gets you laid more than the latter 6. Non arguable.
money maybe buy you more sex, that matters only if your first priority is to get laid a lot by many different people
Money doesn't just buy you sex, money attracts women. And then even if my priority is to get laid by many different people, even your answer implies that money is a factor. and I will even leave money out of this and say the former 4 (the penis size thing is true) will get you paid more then the latter 6.
If a man listens to a woman about what a man is, that man will become confused and live a life of mixed understanding. If a man takes instruction on what a man is from another man, that man will grow and actually be a successful man.
Don't give advice on topics you don't understand.
this is a point of view, everyone has one and the rest can agree or disagree
I see you received some hate and flame for your take, to which I can only relate.
I admit, I felt triggered when I saw women defining what a real man is
but to my surprise these criteria aren't even bad and unobtainable at all.
I felt at least calmed when I saw it isn't about money, status, women count, swag, dick size etc...
I stand in a position, where I refuse the term "real men" because of so called red-pill philosophy (a social manipulating tool).
But this one is actually very rational.
Good!
Thank you :)
I'm writing my version based on your take "What makes a real lady 6 essential things." I will have this take linked at the end for inspiration.
nice :)
Here it is!
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a28453-what-makes-a-real-lady-6-essential-things
Enjoy!
This was actually good
thank you :)
Yeah right. You would never have a one night stand or get turned on by a guy who does those things. You're just talking about a potential husband.
The guy women bang is all the things you mentioned doesn't make a man a real man.
I dont want an one night stand, i want a relationship
Most of the people here don't care about that.
so people just having one night stands forever? What sort of life is that
I am the great mighty poo and I'm going to throw my shit at you.
I could agree with a few, others i dismiss as baseless to me. Males vary so much so some could apply and others can simply screw off.
if i find one that has it all i will never let him go :)
Nice!
I try to live to that model
I wish I had a role model
Thanks, I'll try my best
i disagree, if you got balls and a dick you are a real man.
Monkeys have balls and dick too, doesn't make them men
it does make them masculine.
by the way, who are you to define what is a man?
Another one who gets defensive. This is an opinion, none forces you to agree :) But having balls and dick doesn't make you a man
thats just your opinion.
way to be transphobic
@shinyunicorn you speak about it like its a bad thing.
Nice take...
and you ladies love the exact opposite of this lol
that's why I don't believe 90% of what comes out a girls mouth
unless its my dick it ain't true
Good mytake! I agree with it, 5 is hard though but that's something hrad for both man and woman I think.
I want to add something:
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5 i think it has to do with the persons character. Insecure or arrogant people will always try to blame you or the world for their mistakes. But i dont think is that hard to find people who will admit , learn and move on. And nice addition :)
Maybe I am wrong but it seems to be easier for many to do like nothing happend and just forget it then saying sorry I was wrong, most are to pride to do that. Thank you, I really do that's important in a relationship to do!
Sweeping problems under the carpet will not solve them. Pretend that something never happened (either man either woman) is coward and immature but yes i agree many people do that. It doesn't mean is the best option though just because many doing it
It is indeed not the best solution to do
those first few line
@polocrew doesn't approve :D
A real man has a penis.
I like it.
If you are 14 you wouldn't know better. Lets see you growing a bit more and experience life before comment on those issues
im going to buy a strap on and become super man. look out ladies ;-)