What personality traits determine submissiveness or dominance in bed?

[Anonymous]

I can mention my traits that will be demonstrated as they are some of my main traits

Affectionate/passionate

sensual/lovey dovey

energetic/enthusiastic

caring/selfless

Some say being turned on by the idea of kissing more than being kissed makes me dominant while others claim it makes me submissive. So it's kind of subjectibe but what I know is I am hardly thrilled when seeing scenes of a man kiss a woman's body unless it's mouth to mouth kiss. I think it's because I'm very affectionate in nature. The idea of using my mouth turns me on the most lol.

[Anonymous]

Really not sure cause we all are different but I think most know how they are in bed. Honestly some say this or that but it is all how you perform!

Always on top and dominant but I like letting someone else be on top also!

Pinning you down making you kiss me wiggling grinding against you pressing my chest on yours pushing your face to my chest for kisses. My knee gently gringing on your thighs!

Getting what queeny wants...

Little pushy makes you dominant but also I know subbys who are pushy too.

[Berethor]

There is trope that is called 'aggressive submissive', you not always on top. :)

[Apple1996]

It's impossible to tell if your dom/sub before having sex. It can also switch around throughout your life or with different partners.

What your describing is dom/sub in everyday life. Which from I have noticed is the opposite in the bedroom. For example: Boss bitches tend to be sub cause they need a break from all the power that they carry in real life

[Berethor]

She is watching porn so she can tell if she into sub stuff or into dom stuff.

[Billlewis]

I agree with you wholeheartedly.

[Asker]

"It can also switch around throughout your life or with different partners." I will have only one partner. Is wanting to kiss more than being kissed dominant or submissive?

[Berethor]

Yea being with multiple men is slutty, so you better be with one man. :)

allthetropes.org/wiki/My_Girl_Is_Not_a_Slut

[Asker]

@Berethor and the idea of being with only one man turns me on. When a woman here says she has had many sexual partners she literally makes me feel disgust. That's why I avoid talking to them about sex because I better get turned on than off.

[Berethor]

@marish01 most men value virgin women, while many feminists are slutty.

allthetropes.org/wiki/Nature_Adores_a_Virgin

[Billlewis]

@Berethor I think you deserve whatever kind of woman you want, sir, because you are absolutely magnificent, and I know there isn't another guy in the world who can even come close to your awe inspiring presence.

[Berethor]

@Billlewis good slave, by the way most women are sub, both weak and strong.

[Billlewis]

@Berethor Thank you very much, sir! Receiving such exalted praise from a superior, masculine master like yourself is a tremendous achievement.

[AmeerX]

@marish01 obviously Marish is a Dom

[Apple1996]

Even if just one partner it can switch over time. And kissing has nothing to do with how someone acts during sex

[AmeerX]

@apple1996 that's true

[Apple1996]

@AmeerX also the whole dom/sub thing shouldn't even matter during sex. It should be more focused on pleasure, having fun and sharing a connection

[AmeerX]

Well, you are right but what if people find pleasure in role play?

[Billlewis]

For me personally, the primary element of my sexual relationships with women is being kept strictly celibate at all times, and never being allowed to have any penetrative sex with her whatsoever.

[Berethor]

Sounds very lame, she shitty partner, and she likely cheat on the side.

[Asker]

@Berethor don't turn him on

[Billlewis]

@Berethor I want her to date other guys, that's what fulfills me.

[Berethor]

@Billlewis sounds like a beta male to me, alpha male never allow that shit.

[Billlewis]

@Berethor Yes, sir, I'm just a weak beta male wimp who never gets any pussy, because I know that guys like you are more deserving of enjoying sex with the beautiful women who only laugh at me.

[Berethor]

@Billlewis that what are males like you are for, being laughed by real men.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Non-Action_Guy

[Billlewis]

@Berethor Yes, sir, you're so right. Thank you so much for laughing at me, sir.

[MementoMori777]

It seems like submissive and dominance in subjective cause people got different opinions

[Berethor]

Well being selfless tend to be submissive trait, being active is dominant trait, except oral.

[Iron_Man]

You don’t know if your dominant or submissive

[Asker]

What am I based on my description?

[Iron_Man]

Mostly submissive you probably have a dominant side

[Berethor]

It not black and white, and she seems to have both sub and dom traits.

[Anonymous]

Well im submissive both in bed and in every day life but if talking about in bed I think being submissive is letting go and giving the other person all the control. So more passive I guess and the dominant do the most and take control

[Berethor]

Yea activeness is dominant, except oral, as oral is an active submissiveness.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Men_Act,_Women_Are

[Opinion Owner]

@Berethor yeah I agree with that!

[Anonymous]

It's just a person's preference

[Berethor]

No shit, but she is asking if she sub or dom, she is bit of both.