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What Prevents Men From Going Bitter? (Part Two)

This myTake expands on what was written in the first part of What Prevents Men From Going Bitter? This can also be applied to girls as well.

No Traumatic Experiences

We all know that traumatic experiences or a terrible life experience such as child abuse, bullying, rape and/or etc. can influence any person to become bitter. If a person doesn't have any of those experiences, they are less likely to be angry about their past.

What Prevents Men From Going Bitter? (Part Two)

Forgiveness

A person who is able to forgive can undergo a change in feelings and attitude regarding something or someone. Forgiveness allows a person to let go of negative emotions. Not only should one forgive, but they could also learn to avoid the incident from happening again.

What Prevents Men From Going Bitter? (Part Two)

No Regrets

People who have regrets tend to hold on to things that they can't change. If a person is able to move on, then they couldn't be bitter about something that they did or didn't do.

What Prevents Men From Going Bitter? (Part Two)

No Sense Of Entitlement

A real man understands that he is not entitled to whatever he wants. He either has to work for it or get over what he can't have.

What Prevents Men From Going Bitter? (Part Two)

Self Control

There are no excuses for being bitter because being bitter is a choice, not something a person is born with. If a guy is able to control his actions, then he can stop being bitter if he wants to.

“You can have a ****** life growing up. You can have a tough upbringing. You can have history. You can have whatever. But if you are just a bad person, you know what I mean? There’s no excuse for that.” - Maksim Chmerkovskiy

#StopTheBitterness

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Most Helpful Guy

  • i hear women try to win arguments all the time like "you're bitter just because you can't get laid". Which is ridiculous, one, because they're the same girls who constantly complain about guys just "using them for sex", so if these guys genuinely can't get laid then why the hell aren't you trying sex with them, because its clearly an option you haven't tried.

    Two, because thats some straight bullshit, they're bitter because women use their sexuality as an argumentative tactic and they resent the female race for belittling everything about their sexuality just to get ahead in a stupid argument that doesn't fucking matter, and they can't respect a girl like that in the first place, and they would never respect themselves if they slept with her, so how the fuck does wanting to get laid have anything to do with it? Its just something those women tell themselves so they can egocentrically convince themselves the guy they are arguing with wants to sleep with them so they don't actually have to pay attention to how valid his opinion is and how utterly based in irrelevant crap their opinion is. But when a guy argues with a girl, he is absolutely repulsed at the idea of sleeping with her, BECAUSE WHY WOULD HE WANT TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE SO ANGRY, OPPORTUNIST AND SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED WHO INVALIDATES HIS EMOTIONS BASED ON MANIPULATIVE TACTICS AND THEIR OWN NARCISSISTIC WISHFUL THINKING?

Most Helpful Girl

  • Bitterness follows unwanted experiences—failures, disappointment, setbacks—that are perceived to be beyond one's control.

    Being bitter because you're a virgin at 17 or because a guy only wanted sex from you, I'll not empathise with them. Sorry but going to encourage this self pitting and whining. Sometimes by blaming everyone but yourself for your problems will be left unresolved.

    If you have to seek validation for your bitterness then you know you do not have a reason to be bitter. It's almost insulting for those who have had genuine hardships and have become bitter.

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  • Well, I commented on the first one so now it's time for this one too.

    No Traumatic Experiences, you can't control the life experiences and having traumatic ones don't make people bitter. Some maybe but most grow from it but somethings are out of people's control.

    Forgiveness is good but just because you forgive doesn't mean you forget, so whatever it is will always be with that person.

    Regrets, it's good not to have any but it's unrealistic to not have at least one in your life. Everybody has at least one thing they regret but that doesn't mean because they do it would make them bitter.

    No Sense Of Entitlement that's just a good thing in general, no one should ever feel entitled to anything EVER! But, even if they were entitled I don't see what that has to do with bitterness.

    Self Control is also a good thing but I don't see what that has to do with bitterness. I don't see what one has to do with the other.

  • Some things a person can't control. No one automatically gets forgiveness, and it's not usually a person's fault if something traumatic happens to them, like being dumped by a girlfriend for a guy with a hotter car or more money. This latter experience is well nigh a universal one for US guys these days. Some can laugh it off, but others get bitter. And few people 'forgive' them; often people just call them losers in this situation.

    And that, you know, might tend to make anyone bitter, don't you think? It's easy to say they should just move on, but trauma leaves scars.

    I really doubt you'd say a rape victim should just move on, right? But guys who are abused, oh well, they should just move on, or they are losers...

  • I used to be really bitter and closed of from everyone when I was a teenager and was always mocked and called emo because all I did was listen to music and separate myself from the rest of my classmates and friends because of my early teenage years.

    I've since become less bitter and closed off but wound up being cynical but more caring as I've gotten older.

    • I guess it would be your state of mind emotionally.

  • someone sweet enough to make them see the good in their life. =)

    cute question!

  • Girls on this site just lack creativity with their insults.

    • I wasn't trying to insult anyone

    • I'm just making a statement that "bitter" is the go to word on his site whenever some girl has a disagreement over anything. It's lost it's meaning on this site, and thus renders it's use irrelevant unless you're talking about sour candy.

    • Do you prefer salty? Lol

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  • The opinion piece is written on the assumption that there is something wrong with being bitter.
    I disagree.
    I am bitter about some things and I believe that I have a right to be bitter.

    • I agree with you. There are some reasons in life to be bitter. Especially if a situation left you with huge emotional scars. The thing is, people become bitter, it happens, and it's a natural human emotion. I can see a problem though if it becomes the persons sole focus in life to be bitter and only dwell on that one situation though. But to be bitter about a situation, but to be able to have a good life in other areas, I don't see how that could be a problem. We all have things in our lives which we look back on and have some bitterness about. I see nothing wrong with that.

  • I have no reason to stop being bitter. Women have it coming

    • You bitterness keeps me up at night... how oh how will I deal with this important issue!

  • for me, rigged game of society against men (law, social, financial, emotional (or lack of care for) and cluelessness of white kniights and illogical females is a constant reminder my hope to find love is extremely slim.

    without love, i see life as numbers.

  • What about naming it what stops people from being bitter? If a guy/ girl is bitter towards the other gender that's their choice. Some people have much better experiences with the other gender and they can't relate or fully understand when others don't have great experiences with the other gender. They see it as an easy fix but it might not be so easy. Everyone's experience with the opposite gender is different and in no way equal so for some it may be way harder and require much better experiences for some to avoid and let go of bitterness.

  • When non virgin girls stop wanting to date me, I will stop being bitter. I wanted girls to want me at a younger age than 17. I wasn't physically desirable until I started late blooming at age 17. By then all girls interested into me were non virgin used shit!
    The bitterness has fueled my desire to lead non virgin women on and them for sex. The bitterness has also led me to treat these non virgins really bad after I've gotten them into bed. Finally the bitterness has made my life goal to lead on and use as many non virgins as I can.

    • 17 is really young, you have no reason to be bitter.

    • @Goldie757 i think 17 is starting late and late blooming. Do you think 17 is too late?

    • Dude I'm blooming at 23 socially and aesthetically, you're good...

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  • Women are the source of sorrow and disorder. This has always been known.

    • yep you got that right

  • Again, you know absolutely nothing on the subject. don't write about shit you know nothing about

    • I obviously know more than you do. I can write about whatever I want!

  • Not every guy gets even a 1/4 of treatment you girls give to Chad.

    i3.kym-cdn.com/.../ac7.jpg

    It basically goes you either Chad or you get treated like shit and/or used by women. No in between.

  • "Self Control"
    You can fight it, you can suppress it, but expecting a person to just turn it off like it's nothing and let it go without any effort is ridiculous, they're wounds that need to be treated and healed. You don't just shrug off sickness and injury, ailments of one's emotions aren't just going to be shrugged off either, they need to be resolved. "Traumatic experience" isn't just going to easily go away by wanting it to.

  • haha female shaming passive aggressive tactics dressed as helpful altruistic paradigm shift. yeah right, you fool noone with half a brain. bitterness is common to both those who crave but lack women and to those who have them. the common denominator is losing your valuable time with women in one form or the other, not the lack of them. the lack would contrary help society progress.

  • You can't always control what happens to you but you can control your reaction to it.

  • So what if I only have one of these which is the no sense of entitlement I strongly believe you work for what you get

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