What really destroys your confidence in bed? or at least what about you makes you second guess your sexual appeal/performance?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Can’t say this is something I’ve thought about.

However the one time that I felt my ego challenged was with this lady that I spent over an hour doing foreplay but it just didn’t work, later on found out she was on hypertension medication that suppressed her libido and also caused vaginal dryness.

Other aspects? Have never really cared if how I inserted my dick into her pussy was something she liked as I will do it how I like it to be, if it hurts her due to the size which it does quite often then it is something I will enjoy, she didn’t like the depth I inserted into her, not something I lose sleep over and secretly would be enjoying it that she felt I went too deep into her. My main purpose of inserting my dick into her pussy is to enjoy it, take ownership of her and dominate her.

[Asker]

Damn! A lot of that sounds like me so I can relate bro. 👤➕ me.

[Opinion Owner]

I believe it’s pretty normal and usual.

[Asker]

Oh I’m sure. Just not many guys voice it like you and I both do I guess

[Opinion Owner]

Yup no longer politically correct to say the truth any longer.

[Opinion Owner]

Also kind of not acceptable these days to say it that :- a) I don’t really care how she feels about something during sex. b) I enjoy hurting her during sex.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

If she doesn't cum, I don't go to bed happy. But sometimes it's just something unrelated to performance for her not having orgasm, coz women need all the stars to align for orgasm to happen. Something she ate earlier, stress over work, lack of sleep, overthinking, and any litany of other non-sexual causes can prevent orgasm. So I've learned when to let ot be, and when to 'up my game'.

[purplepoppy]

Ok boys, take your pick,
"It's what you do with it that counts"
"Aww cute"
"Is it in yet?"
"I need to boil a soft boiled egg will you fuck me?"
"We can try again later"
"No it's a relief not getting my cervix hit"

[MCheetah]

I've heard all of these before.

[Blackcupcake]

nothing about me makes me second guess my sexual appeal

[MCheetah]

"What about you makes you second guess your sexual appeal/performance?"

Small penis size. It's under seven inches.

Oddly enough, there's an alter ego of me in the bedroom. This voracious, raw, animalistic beast that can come out when I am really into someone. That raw magnetic energy produced from my "sex werewolf" side isn't focused on my small penis WHEN he comes out. But he doesn't always come out. But IF he does, I become a grand-master at giving oral, despite me not enjoying oral. That's why I said it's like I'm not fully in control. But if that lust beast side of me is unleashed, he knows how to get around all of my shortcomings I am physically lacking, like the lacking 6.5 that no woman would feel is enough, or other flaws.

[cookiecrusher]

Daddy chill😅 6 is fine for women, if she isn't overweight and stuff gets in the way. Trim and lose extra weight and keep it clean like a gentleman. Don't worry about it.

[Jenny4455]

Nothing

[DownIndaDumpz2]

uhh i dunno lol, i dont really worry about performance or pleasing her, my main goal is jus to please myself, and if she gets off too thats cool, but im pretty selfish when it comes that lol,

the only time i was embarrased was when i jerked off too many times a day and i suffered from erectile dysfunction because of it infront of a prositute, that was pretty embarrasing lol

[DownIndaDumpz2]

good thing i didn't pay before hand lol

[Asker]

I love the honesty here man. I admire that. You know and accept that you don’t care too much about her receiving pleasure. For me it’s important for her to get off just as it’s important for me to do so as well. Cumming too many times can definitely make your erections less existence before giving yourself time to recover. I’ve been there where I came to many times that Im exhausted and so is my dick. haha so I get it. That must’ve been one embarrassing experience for you though. Especially with a girl in your presence.

[DownIndaDumpz2]

yeah, it was lol, and i think the main reason i dont really care about her getting off is cos im always alone and single, since i jus pay prostitutes... i dont have any attachment or care for them lol, if i was in a relationship with someone i lovet id probably care more about their experience more lol

[Mahmoud_Madyan]

I'm still virgin, but I think if the girl with me didn't moan or even didn't react with me on bed, this will destroy my confidence

[Asker]

That’s understandable bro 👏🏻