What’s it like being with a possibly “hypersexual” guy?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy and I am attracted to him but I think he may have a big sexual appetite. I know men like sex but I feel like it can become an issue… I think he wants to be married ect… but he told someone that marriage feels like ownership…

I feel like he still wants to play the field and possibly be with multiple women. Maybe like an open relationship etc I don't know.

It hurt bc one minute I thought he was interested but he avoided me not long after.

maybe he’s still young (24) not mature yet… I don't know

[RespectfulGuy]

Being hypersexual is different from unsettling.

A married man can be hypersexual but he sticks with his wife only.

But a person who only needs sex once a week could be a Player, fucking a different girl every weekend.

Hence observe your guy carefully.

It's OK if he's hypersexual. Your consideration and a little self control on his part can take care of it.

But if he's unsettling, still wanting to sow wild oats, and possibly thinking of fucking a few more girls before staying with one, then be cautious, you may end up as another nunber in his list.

To conclude, 24 is young. Unless he's mature enough to think with his head above instead of the one below, you should exercise extra caution to avoid being heart broken.

[Asker]

Yeah, I feel that I’m not number one to him or I feel like there’s other women. I don't know.

[Anonymous]

I guess I’m hyper sexual.

My girlfriend is 24, had 5 previous BFs since 16, she said her last boyfriend was hyper sexual but due to distance required sexts and phonesex mainly and when he was present he would ask for it once or twice per day. She never had a live in boyfriend or a man that’s well endowed before me. We started out as 2 persons sharing a 2 bed apartment. Now we’re dating and she has become a stay home spouse as she said either she had to stop the sex or her job. I told her to stop her job. Sex 2-4 times per day, 20-50 minutes each and usually after it’s over she would be sore from both mine being big and the way I insert and thrust her. She did say in 4 months it felt as if she had done more sex than she did the last 8 years.

[Anonymous]

So why feel bad about a player wanting you just sexually? He is such an ass.

So get bring sad it did not work but do you really want someone who will bang anything when with you!

Imagine coming home and him bragging how hot your coworker is

[Asker]

I work with him lol but yeah. Maybe he’s a player… I didn’t really think so.

[Opinion Owner]

No you do just saying you don't to feel better! Maybe you might have to get hurt before you accept it

[Asker]

I’m moving on. No guy will avoid you if he were genuine.. I work with him and I don’t know if he quit or not I’m not totally sure he left but he had a duffel bag and someone said “you’re a good chef” when he was leaving out the kitchen. It really didn’t register with me that he could be leaving for good… I was passing through and he was at the door and I was about 4 ft away from him leaving out the same door. when he was leaving out I heard him say sorry.. but I didn’t know who he was talking to… I was not far behind him and it was just me and another chef but he wasn’t paying attention.. he had the door still help open and peeped his head back while saying “sorry”.. but there was only me in his view It’s just all confusing. I don't know what happened

[Opinion Owner]

Good move on it is best

[RobT312]

Being hyper sexual and playing around are 2 very different things. You can be hyper sexual and monogamous. I wouldn’t worry about it if he’s hyper sexual, but if he just plays around go find someone better

[normalice]

This is pretty much every guy. If any given guy could get a continuously changing supply of ass, they would prefer that over a relationship. The thing is that's not actually an option for most men, which is why they settle down - that's why it's called settling down.

[Asker]

But open relationships and polygamy is a thing now

[normalice]

yeah, but it's not very common. And unless guys are really good at seducing women, they know an open relationship is a bit of a trap, as guys will line up to bang their girlfriend while he will find it is an even greater struggle to discover women who will sleep with him, with a relationship off the table.