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What's the big deal about penis size nowadays?

Despite being a guy, even I'm getting sick of the these questions and overall worry about one's dick size. I mean when did men become such pussies. It's like if you don't have a big dick nowadays, you end up going into depression and contemplating suicide. That or stalk people on this forum that have unintentionally offended you about your size. I don't mean to rant, but I just want to know where does the size issue stem from. Most of the people I see worried about their size, have a dick that is average or slightly above average. It seems they are more worried about not being able to be an "alpha male" than they are about being able to have adequate sex. Being above average myself, maybe I'm blissfully ignorant to this apparent issue. So I apologize if I offended anyone.
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  • I agree with you but the underlying problems here are ignorance and p*rn.

    Guys and girls alike don't understand rarity in terms of size. 5-6 inches is average and, depending on how far you want to deviate away from average, it's going to get rarer and rarer. The girls who are all about penis size don't acknowledge the fact that maybe 10% of guys have a 7+ inch penis let alone a SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE, WELL-OFF guy who is attracted to her too. It's just not feasible to require a certain length.

    The other part of it is that, in p*rn, most of the guys are packing giant penises because this is usually a requirement for entering the business. The guys see these penises and think "Mine has to be that big" and the girls think "My guy's should be that big". NO ONE takes the time to realize the reality of the situation.

    That being said, it's perfectly okay to have preferences within reason and it's understandable to be insecure about penis length if you're in the 50% of guys that are "sub-par" but your life is going to be miserable if you have such expectations.

    • I too understand why one might be insecure about their size, however, the degree of insecurity is what baffles me. I mean they make it out as if their life depends on the size of their dick.

    • I agree. People revolve their whole lives around sex. That's what this site would have you believe anyway.

  • "It seems they are more worried about not being able to be an "alpha male" than they are about being able to have adequate sex."

    Correct. There are many elements to masculinity and physicality like the penis happen to be one of them and the penis in society happens to be one of the largest for the West specifically because of the myth that female orgasm depends entirely on male influence therefore any form of inadequacy is functionally failing the females you happen to attract which is an intimate wound that can't just be licked.

    The reason people are concerned with anything related to their socially perceived roles is simply because that is how social species are. From women who are worried about their breasts, faces, butts, curves, weight, vaginal area, and all else to men who are worried about their muscularity, charm, socio-economic status, penis size, height, and so forth and so on it is all a portrait of Identity.

    In actuality is a very serious issue.

    • I understand what you're saying. I just don't understand how it is such a serious issue. It has been proven throughout history that people with average size dongs do just fine in life. I mean it's not like cancer, where if you have it, it is proven that it can kill you.

    • Before I pass out one note: It's not porn. Like any form of entertainment pen follows and emulates a role rather than seeing that role. The "dominant male" is muscular, strong, gets vixens, is wealthy out daring/dangerous, and has a physique with penis included. Pen did not set this trend as this was and has been present in society long prior. The danger of blaming p*rn is that we about the issue of social climate because it's not a universal issue and it's not chronologically stable either; the cultural nature of masculinity cannot be defined by something that is a by-product of that culture.

    • I hate auto correct. Pen = porn. You can figure the rest out.

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  • What's the big deal about penis size nowadays?
    Likely male ego as it seems masculinity is quite a big deal for guys and guys seem to be quite competitive. So for many it appears the measure of how much of a man they are is by the measure of their d*ck.

    "It seems they are more worried about not being able to be an "alpha male" than they are about being able to have adequate sex."
    I agree withe the alpha male part however I disagree with the worry about having adequate sex unless you mean having adequate to satiate his sex drive rather than adequate in both partners being pleased. I highly doubt it's concern for female desires which would be a reasonable concern to me. As it seems guys generally ignore what gals say and decide for themselves what gals want or listen plus going by statistics/studies it doesn't seem guys are much interested in producing female orgasms.

  • I don't understand why men have this issue. I know most women would prefer an average size if they have an average sized vagina. Honestly I think two main causes for guys would be insecurity because of what they see in p*rn or wanting to be more "masculine" for the other guys and perhaps a bit of pressure from some girls talking about other males penises. If a guy is confident and works to please you it's not really going to matter to the girl anyway!

  • Haha "big deal"

    Its just a confidence issue. 5-6 is supposed to be average. Its dumb if people take this too seriously. They should be more worried if the girl they wanna fuck is a stalker or crazy than they should about their size. Women KNOW that all men are different.
    Motion of the ocean right?
    OH! And just cause a guy has a big dick, does NOT mean he knows how to use it.

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  • It's not about the size of the penis, but what you can do with the penis.

  • Yep p*rn and competition.

  • I'm not sure...before I started using this site, I had no idea that it was such an issue for some guys.

    • I know this is going to sound sad, but this site has made it out like every other guy has a serious problem with their size. Even sadder is that I can't manage to hangout with my friends anymore without thinking at least one of them has a similar problem that he is hiding from us.

    • You might be right. You would be surprised by how many and what kind of insecurities plague ourselves and the people around us.

  • It comes from watching too much p*rn

  • It is basically the guys who think they are the "Alpha Males" that put out the image and try to set the standard.

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