What's the difference between sex with love and loveless sex?

[Anonymous]

Basically I'm just wondering what the difference is. Like obviously one has love yes but how does that affect the actual sex?

I've never had sex with someone i love so I'm curious.

[VIVANT]

I disagree with all the loveless sex means selfish sex. You don’t have to be in love to not be an asshole or to enjoy sex and care about someone. And people can be in love and still be selfish pricks.

I think the difference is the hormones that are released and the deep connection you feel as a result.

[VIVANT]

Love doesn’t make you a good lover anymore than smart doesn’t make you a good teacher or good student. It has everything to do with skill and ability to learn and the desire to do so. Personality and comparability, in my opinion are the biggest determining factors in good sex. not feeling.

[Asker]

I love this answer!!

[Little_Bumblebee]

When you have sex with someone you love, you care more about their pleasure as well, so it's about mutual pleasure.

When it's loveless it's just about that sex and what you can get out of it.

[Mark-IV]

For women there would be a massive difference, as sex would be an expression of love and all emotions, women are far more likely to have an orgasm and feel fulfilled when they make love than to have meaningless casual sex, some women are very guarded by nature so they’ll never even enjoy sex if they didn’t feel loved and embraced.

the same can be said about us men, but to a lesser degree casual sex is very nice but it does get a bit old and we need emotional support too

[Reaperbot666]

• sex with love tends to mean you put your partners enjoyment first. because you want to do everything in your power to pleasure them.
• loveless sex tends to mean you put your own enjoyment first. regardless of if they feel pleasure or not.

[scooogy]

Love is when he goes down on her.

[Asker]

hahaha i think we must have different definitions

[Footballplayz]

Loveless sex doesn't feel the same it's not as intemate it's not as satisfying

[Asker]

hmm this makes sense. What if the two people are flirty and they like each other and do cute little affectionate gestures? sorry i'm just curious so I'm asking

[black_pearls]

It’s just role play

[Asker]

black_pearls omg that's gold

[black_pearls]

Actors do it in the movies.

[Footballplayz]

Well here the thing I don't engage in sex with people who I'm not in a relationship with. I can literally feel that something is off and I eventually ask them if they truly love me and bam they don't we break up and we part ways.

[Asker]

I think it's a little different than movies though just because there is actual intercourse. But you definitely have a point that it is similar to role play, that was a really good response.

[Asker]

@footballplayz that's a really good point, and very nice of you to want to be in a relationship! so many fuck boys out there

[Footballplayz]

I don't seek out sex I just want someone I enjoy talking to and I'm excited to talk to, sex is mainly just a way of almost thanking that person in a way. Here's the think I view sexuality as a way to express your passion, lust, and love for another person. I know ew a romantic but hey we all have our own views

[Asker]

@footballplayz no I'm jealous i wish i could be a romantic!! I read so many cute romance novels, but those never happen in real life

[Footballplayz]

Lol it's because people are too sex obsessed now, they focus too much on what society wants them to be like and they never become their own person. I can literally describe at least 70% of girls mainly because they follow the trends. I like girls who Gow against the flow and would rather be themselves than like everyone else

[beatcoock]

Well, It will be very smooth and awesome. I never experienced it though.

[beatcoock]

I never experienced sex though

[Asker]

oh really its pretty great. I've never had sex with some one that I love so i can only speak for what im doing right now with my partner and its really nice

[beatcoock]

So, you are experimenting it now?

[Asker]

eh not really experimenting just having fun while I'm young

[beatcoock]

That's great too