In an adult relationship sex is considered "on the table" starting with the 3rd date. Of course it may not happen but it is know that is when it is an option for many. If you really click with someone first date sex is fine. of the 5 of 8 women I have had sex with since I started dating after my divorce I had it on date 3,3,1,3, 4.
you age plays a big part in this. Young guys who have had none or very little sex are less likely to expect it and will usually wait a lot longer. But if sex hasn't happened by date 7 it is not likely she is going to sleep with you so I move on to another. The right woman is worth waiting for but within reason. At my age women don't have all the hangups about sex that young women do. they aren't stuck in the whole "sex for the first time has to be magical" bullshit that young women have in their head. Most women will tell you that the first time, and many of the beginning times, are not magical. They are very fast, sloppy, and unfulfilling for the women (I am guessing on that one). once the guy gets more experience and confidence it changes. Due to divorce rates and the changes in ideals nowadays there is no reason to wait. Your not likely to be with the man you lose your virginity to. and why is that even needed or desired? Most men don't want to marry a virgin. Why would anyone want to deal with that emotional nightmare on their honeymoon? get the first parts out of the way so that when you meet a man you really like, your ready for him.
You've had intercourse with 5 out of 8 women since your divorce. Why not the other three? Yes, the right woman IS WORTH waiting for. How likely is it that you would stay with any of these women after sex? You should be old enough to realize that a relationship is MORE than sex. If all it is, is sex, it WILL NOT last. You found that out with at least 7 woman. I think the sooner you bed with each other, the less likely you have respect for each, and less likely a relationship will last. It's common knowledge that very few relationships based on sex will last. Once the excitement wears off one of you is gone. First you must prove that you honor her, trust her, make her feel more than just a vagina and two breasts.
Wow, for 54 you should be a lot smarter and less full of shit. At our age there are non of the hangups that younger people have. I have a lot more respect for a woman that has sex when the time is right the one that waits a certain amount of time because "society" says so. The "normal" amount of time is 3 dates. Sex is a very important part of an adult relationship. Also, women in their 40's and older do not want to wait. I have a policy that I never bring up sex before they do. I don't even say the word sex. I will kiss them but I see kissing as fun and not sex. why not the other 3? because they lasted 3 dates or less. Your not going to click with everyone. That is why you date. As I stated, if I get to date 7 or so and sex has not happened, she isn't going to have sex. This is not like when we were young. With texting and cell phones and facebook etc.. your already on date 5 before you have date 1. So by date 3 your on date 15 or more.
I would leave her. Call me shallow or a horndog but people just make too big of a deal over sex. It's literally nothing but a fun and pleasurable experience. Things like religion and cultural taboos has made it seem like such a HUGE deal. I'd be willing to wait for her but if we are in a committed relationship, I couldn't see myself waiting over a month. I also hate when girls have the mentality that they are a "prize" or a "reward." Sex is a MUTUAL experience so I shouldn't have to beg for it like a dog.
Longest I've ever waited was 3 days so about a week and a half. It was hard. Can't see doing that every again.
That should say dates. Auto correct sucks.
I think the older you get and the more relationships you've been in the wait time gets less and less.
9 months. I don't know you would just have to find out with him every guy is different.
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Sadly, I'm sure a lot of guys probably would leave after a year of waiting, and while I can only speak for myself I'm being completely honest when I say that I'd wait as long as she wanted to before having sex. Now, if she wanted to start having sex in the first week I would suggest we hold off for a while, but if she needed a year to be ready that would be fine, I'm a virgin so there really isn't anything short of a weird fetish or lying there like a corpse that a woman could do in bed that would really dissapoint me. And besides, sex isn't something I personally need to survive, and while I would like to have a healthy sex life with my girlfriend, it wouldn't be something that I needed all he time, or something that I would require from the very beginning, I'm a pretty patient guy when it comes to that.
#Respect.
I would wait until we were married, if I needed to do that and I truly thought she was the one. . . but I don't believe in very long engagements.
3-7 dates.
Tops.
If we're not sexually compatible, I don't want to find out after we're celebrating our 5 year anniversary, or worse yet, after we're married.
until marriage
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