What's the reason my boyfriend never cum while I give him BJ (for like 30 mins with shorts breaks in between)?

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So we've been together for 2 years. From the very beginning he never cums while giving bj for like 30 mins. I even asked him the reason and he told to me do it fast. I had always tried my best to do it faster for like (2/3mins) , then my mouth hurts (coz he has big one) and I take a break and retry to do it faster. He is hornier than me. My question is does this happen with other guys? Had he lost interest? What's going on?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because he is thinking way to much into it or he is holding back from busting a nut , or you aren’t sucking him good , maybe be more soft and sensitive and slowly blow him , instead of thrusting your head trying to get him off while you are hurting yourself , ask him what turns him on , I I don’t know your boyfriend and not sure what he is into , so their could be a handful of reasons why he isn’t busting a nut from your blow jobs , Does he cum when you have sex? The thing is Most guy’s train themselves to last longer in bed with a girl , mainly because they want to make sure she gets off as well , so she keeps coming back for more , What girls’ don’t really understand about Guy’s is that it’s embarrassing to most of us , if we fail to please her as well and cum before she does , it also comes down to what kind of girl she is as well some girls’ get off by making their men come fast and other girls’ think the worst case scenario when he fails to please her , the thing is , if a guy is really into a girl and wants her To be by his side his mission is to make sure she gets off as well , getting her off boosts his ego and pays himself on the back if he fucked her good , if he isn’t that into her , he more Than likely doesn’t give a fuck on whether she gets off or not , so it comes down to what kind of person he truly is. If he is the type of guy that masturbates a lot , then pleasing him is going to take longer mainly because he is fantasizing about a bunch of things to make himself get off , which isn’t a good thing , because no matter what you do for him , might never be good enough so it’s possible that he desensitized himself from jerking off way too many times to make it harder for him to ejaculate. The best thing

For him to reach ejaculation , best advice I can give you is to talk to him , find out what he really
Likes , tell him you want him to cum from your blow jobs , if that’s really what you want , or do you want to be fucked as well, make him feel relaxed , if I am receiving a blow job from a girl my assumption is she wants to be pleased as well, so I will hold back from ejaculating from her blow job so I can stick it in her and get her off as well, communication is key , we aren’t mind readers , so tell your boyfriend what you want , in the heat of the moment just say baby I want you to cum from my blow job and then talk dirty to him , or if you want to to be fucked then you are best to not make him cum from a blow job

Nigjt · Accepted Answer

U just need to get into giving him more Bj's more often then u do so that u can get use to it an better at it because one of my girls is the same way so what I am saying an know this I am a Man an no I do not give Bj's to other Men but my Woman do give them to me an some do get very upset that they can not make me cum an I just tell them to go longer so they can last longer each time an sooner or later u will make me cum for u so all u gotta do is try harder for longer.
God Bless

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

There are a few possible reasons why your boyfriend might not be able to reach orgasm when receiving a blowjob. This could be due to a lack of stimulation, or it may be that he has a longer time to ejaculation and needs more foreplay or different techniques to reach arousal. It could also be that he is nervous or self-conscious about his performance and therefore cannot relax enough to "finish the job."

It is always best to communicate with your partner and ask them what they enjoy and what works best for them.

Mamaliv · Accepted Answer

Have you tried switching up your technique? Act like your enjoying it, moaning around him causes vibrations. Use your hands around his shaft if it is to hard to take him all the way in. Cup his balls. Maybe tease him and work him up well before you go down on him. You can try some flavored lube too to get it nice and slick.

Hot_Mess_Express · Answer

I once dated a guy who was addicted to masturbating. Like he would do it every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day. When it came to sex, either he'd finish right away or he wouldn't be able to cum no matter what I did. He had just used it all up. I wonder if he has a similar issue 🤷

chrissykerdock · Answer

sometimes sensous works best... a lot of the sensation is in his penis head... so relax give him nice licks kissing of his penis... do tongue swirling around the tip and make sure you do a lot of licking of the vein... along with his cockhead doing in and out of your mouth... sometimes less is more... deepthroating may seem what they want but it's really all in the head... hence give head.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

BJ's don't turn me on as much as the vagina. I'm hard and it feels good, but there's only been one chick that made me want to cum just from the blowjob. The only time I actually did cum with just a woman's mouth was with my Japanese girlfriend in a karaoke booth and I basically just held her head and fucked her mouth.

It's probably just our animal instinct to get the vagina.

spartan55 · Answer

I have never been able to cum from blowjobs unless it a Elite level one.

Apple1996 · Answer

Some guys (especially the ones that masturbate and watch porn a lot) can't cum from blowjobs

richardcory · Answer

It varies a lot for men. All you can really do is ask him what he enjoys - different men like different thigns. BJs may just not work for him. I hope he puts equal effort into getting you off

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

As much as I love receiving oral sex, it’s always harder to orgasm from it. This sounds entirely normal, to me.

MementoMori777 · Answer

I've heard its possible for some not to climax from it, I don't know how true it is but if I go by what I've heard, maybe it's normal for some not too

AviatorTom · Answer

Some guys need more than oral stimulation to cum. Sometimes that is even the situation with me. It feels great when my SO is doing me, and I usually cum, but sometimes I finish with my hand.

Dargil · Answer

It's a matter of timing and technique.

sheikalana · Answer

Some guys are just like that. Try to suck him after he had f*cked you for a while. Or you can even ask him what would he like you to do to make him cum while you're sucking him off.

RavVid · Answer

For me It is all too wet and slippery. Just not enough friction. Still enjoy it a lot.

stratford · Answer

Sounds like he has learned behaviour from porn. You could try letting him try gently throat fucking you, but it would require a lot of trust.

chloeaimee · Answer

It may be because he’s not aroused enough and needs more foreplay, it could be that he wanks too much and then can’t perform or it could be something similar to what is wrong with my brother. My brother has lowered testosterone levels and erectile disfunction. It doesn’t matter if he is wanking or having intercourse, it takes my brother over an hour to climax, his girlfriend (who also happens to be my best friend) complains to me all the time about it taking him so long to bust his nut.

genericname85 · Answer

maybe he's just not all that into blowjobs. why do you expect to get him off that way? does it not work for you in other ways?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

If our mind isn’t into it or we lost interest. I can see why that happens. Does he give you foreplay?

Alex-Snow · Answer

Every guy is different. Does he enjoy the feeling of the bj even if he does not cum? How bout handjobs... guys love them also... does he cum from them?

smilelots · Answer

I love BJ most guys do but i have always taken a long time to cum that way unless im so horny and hot that I cum much faster then normal with is about 20 mins or so , even having sex fucking takes me a while I learned from a young age how to slow down so I could make sure the lady always came before I did.. and I got it right I am older now and it takes me a little longer but have no trouble smiles.. ladies use your hands and your mouth and tongue and lips and you will make him cum faster or while your fucking take him out just before he cums and take him in your mouth that way.. if your ok with that.. have fun enjoy what ever your doing, we are all different right.

jahaims · Answer

It sounds like you don't know what you are doing and it takes him out of it.

kellytheman · Answer

Some guys actually have a hard time cumming from bjs and just rather have a pussy to cum. He probably should tell you more than just to go faster maybe a different technique, play or suck his balls, use more tongue than just putting in your mouth. Also if you need a break keep stroking and jacking it hard and fast and spit on it so when you go back to work he still feeling you was still sucking it.