first date is kinda like an "interview" ... have to build on emotional connection before phyicial connection. its all connected.
So no sex first date... maybe 2-3 months in...8-10 dates later... If I am not getting that connection.. i would feel sick, used
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On_cloud_wineGuru
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Empty.
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WarmapplecrumbleGuru
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Don't care, if I want to have sex I'll have sex.
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MorningStar69Xper 6
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If I'm interested in him, I'll have sex with him as soon as possible. I need to make sure he can make me cum and vice versa.
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SarahsSummerMaster
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To each their own. I just know it’s not for me.
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hsshannah96Explorer
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I’m a sexual assault victim
what do you think my answer will be 😒😒😒
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Shamalien
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honestly ud be surprised. Most sex assault victims end up jumping into bed too early.
VIVANT
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@Shamalien I doubt that is true.
Shamalien
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@VIVANT it is true. It is well documented. Ask a therapist.
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VIVANT
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@Shamalien Well documented by who? The people who talk to the people who are promiscuous in the first place. Most people don’t end up seeing therapists. There’s no way to prove abuse leads to quick sex Bc many people have quick sex anyhow and most abuse victims do not talk about it. As I’ve said before, someone had to be looking for troubled women to be having sex as a research question.. and that is bc women’s sexuality is looked at as abnormal in the first place. Kids of women have sex easily bc they enjoy it. If women who are abused also have sex quickly it doesn’t mean the abuse caused it. Correlation does not mean causation. Either way the premise is assuming women shouldn’t be enjoying sex. Like I said “ I doubt it’s true” Neither you nor I know for sure. I recognize that 😊
hsshannah96
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@Shamalien uh no. And mine was at age 18.
Shamalien
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@VIVANT its mostly for childhood abuse victims, I ain't gunna try to convince someone who doesn't wanna do the research, but it is very true. I don't think women shouldn't enjoy sex, I never said such thing, but you should respect yourself
lightbulb27
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@Shamalien I believe you are right from what I've seen on and about, but cannot say for sure statistically. When someone is even imposed upon, it can lows self esteem/worth which leads to all sorts of maledies.
Telekinetic-PotatoGuru
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Why not, who cares? I hate bullshit where you don't do things you want to do because of some arbitrary social norm/rule. Just do what feels right and focus on the time you spend together and whether or not this is someone you can trust for a long time.
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sophiejoYoda
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If it feels right go for it, there's nothing wrong with having sex at any time
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HayleyMarieXper 7
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If you want something long term, wait a few dates. Get to know who they are before jumping into bed with them.
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ApacheGazellaXper 5
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No that’s way too soon, personally I’m going to wait till marriage to actually have sex...
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claryyXper 6
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If it feel right and both people are ok with it, it isn't a problem, but personally I won't do it
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ecfreshMaster
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Sex with a stranger? Nope.
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Ellie-VGuru
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Nothing I’m interested in, but also nothing I’d shame another for doing. Just ain’t my cup of tea.
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arabgoddessYoda
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It sounds so desperate.. Might as well fk anyone on the street!
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R_ūshīExplorer
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I'd do that... as long as the guy views it in the same light as I do.
I don't know why people care so much about it. It doesn't make any difference if you fuck on the first or last date🤷♀️
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slatybMaster
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I've done this once. Later I decided that I preferred to wait at least a few weeks before having sex with a new partner, because I hate breaking up with people after sex.
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BlondeGoneWildGuru
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If the dates going well, then I’m all for it!
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CumBunnXper 1
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Chemistry is everything 😘
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AvicennaMaster
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Its fine if the personal chemistry is excellent and you can be certain you will eventually go exclusive.
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Finchie40Master
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Just depends on the chemistry , sometimes 2 people meet that hit it off like crazy and get lost in each other and it just happens , and sometimes it happens and they were wrong , so again it just comes down to taking chances
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57 84first date is kinda like an "interview" ... have to build on emotional connection before phyicial connection. its all connected.
So no sex first date... maybe 2-3 months in...8-10 dates later...
If I am not getting that connection.. i would feel sick, used
Empty.
Don't care, if I want to have sex I'll have sex.
If I'm interested in him, I'll have sex with him as soon as possible. I need to make sure he can make me cum and vice versa.
To each their own. I just know it’s not for me.
I’m a sexual assault victim
what do you think my answer will be 😒😒😒
honestly ud be surprised. Most sex assault victims end up jumping into bed too early.
@Shamalien I doubt that is true.
@VIVANT it is true. It is well documented. Ask a therapist.
@Shamalien Well documented by who? The people who talk to the people who are promiscuous in the first place. Most people don’t end up seeing therapists. There’s no way to prove abuse leads to quick sex Bc many people have quick sex anyhow and most abuse victims do not talk about it. As I’ve said before, someone had to be looking for troubled women to be having sex as a research question.. and that is bc women’s sexuality is looked at as abnormal in the first place. Kids of women have sex easily bc they enjoy it. If women who are abused also have sex quickly it doesn’t mean the abuse caused it. Correlation does not mean causation. Either way the premise is assuming women shouldn’t be enjoying sex. Like I said “ I doubt it’s true” Neither you nor I know for sure. I recognize that 😊
@Shamalien uh no. And mine was at age 18.
@VIVANT its mostly for childhood abuse victims, I ain't gunna try to convince someone who doesn't wanna do the research, but it is very true. I don't think women shouldn't enjoy sex, I never said such thing, but you should respect yourself
@Shamalien I believe you are right from what I've seen on and about, but cannot say for sure statistically. When someone is even imposed upon, it can lows self esteem/worth which leads to all sorts of maledies.
Why not, who cares? I hate bullshit where you don't do things you want to do because of some arbitrary social norm/rule. Just do what feels right and focus on the time you spend together and whether or not this is someone you can trust for a long time.
If it feels right go for it, there's nothing wrong with having sex at any time
If you want something long term, wait a few dates. Get to know who they are before jumping into bed with them.
No that’s way too soon, personally I’m going to wait till marriage to actually have sex...
If it feel right and both people are ok with it, it isn't a problem, but personally I won't do it
Sex with a stranger? Nope.
Nothing I’m interested in, but also nothing I’d shame another for doing. Just ain’t my cup of tea.
It sounds so desperate.. Might as well fk anyone on the street!
I'd do that... as long as the guy views it in the same light as I do.
I don't know why people care so much about it. It doesn't make any difference if you fuck on the first or last date🤷♀️
I've done this once. Later I decided that I preferred to wait at least a few weeks before having sex with a new partner, because I hate breaking up with people after sex.
If the dates going well, then I’m all for it!
Chemistry is everything 😘
Its fine if the personal chemistry is excellent and you can be certain you will eventually go exclusive.
Just depends on the chemistry , sometimes 2 people meet that hit it off like crazy and get lost in each other and it just happens , and sometimes it happens and they were wrong , so again it just comes down to taking chances