A good friend of mine in his 60s lost his wife several months ago; she died from cancer. They had been married for 40 years.
We were having a drink at the bar, and we started talking about women. He said he has no desire to date again, but he still has sexual needs. He rarely masturbated or watched porn while he was married, and he's not sure he wants to do that. He asked me what I would do in his situation, and hinted that he's thinking of trying a female escort.
What would you recommend?
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A widower is a made of concept. It doesn't exist. You could argue a widow doesn't exist either as women are more independent now.
The definition of widower is a man who has lost his spouse by death and has not remarried. A widower is no more a made up concept than rain is.
This is tough. I feel really bad for your friend.
I am 41. I still struggle with porn and other “sponsored” activity. I remember when I was in my 20s that i told myself I would likely lose interest in that as I got older. I haven’t. It’s actually gotten worse in some ways.
However I am trying very hard to abstain from that crap. I noticed when I am sexually sober I overall enjoy life more, have more confidence, etc. I also have Christian beliefs. So I am not only concerned about the worldly pitfalls and risks but I am also worried about the dire impact this has on my spiritual growth.
I did join a SA group a few months ago. It’s been tough but I have met other men who have gone to some absolute extremes with sex addiction yet have recovered. It is not impossible with faith.