What should a woman do if she got pregnant from a hookup and wanted to keep the child but the guy is opposed to the idea?

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Let’s mention he didn’t have condoms, she took the after pill but that could’ve possibly failed, it was consensual sex still but she finds out she’s pregnant.
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  • Unless this is a person she already knew or has known for a while, I'd be surprised she knew who the hook up is to even let him know she is pregnant from him.

    Most hookup's tend to not even know his name to let him know, once it is done its done.

    Even so, it is her choice and if she chooses to raise the child herself that is her choice. If the man doesn't want a child, she should leave him out of it, for the best interest of the child.

    If she goes after him for child support, then he will also get visitation rights and many men who do not want children but have to pay support will insist on taking visitation as well, and really don't want anything to do with the child.

    Imagine being that child and going to your dad's place, being ignored by him when there, bored and lonely and all he says is, tell your mom to let me give up my parental rights and you won't have to come over anymore.

    How would you feel?

    and if the mother denies visitation she will be held in contempt of court... and could potentially lose custody to the dad who didn't want the child. Although that is unlikely it is always possible.

    In the best interest of the child, raise it herself and don't even let the sperm donor know he has a child.

Most Helpful Girl

  • It takes two to make a child. They both knew the consequences of having unprotected sex and still did it anyway. Its the lack of common sense that gets me, they knew there was no condom the smart thing to do was not have sex or go get some condoms. Anyway they both made their choice, the kid didn't ask to be here. The both of them are just going to have to chip in and help raise that kid.

    We really need to push for abstinence in our society again. People don't seem to understand how sex works anymore.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Not the kid's fault and the consequences on you are much worse than the consequences on him which is why women should be much more careful, that's a tough spot you're in I'm sorry

  • She should keep it.

    What if the guy wants to keep the child but the girls is opposed to it?

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  • She gets to choose whether or not to keep it.

    And he should get to choose whether or not he pays for it.


    Fair's fair.

  • The guy has no say- men have no reproductive rights.

    • Sure they do, they can choose not to have sex or to have it... but beyond that you are 100% right. NO reproductive rights over women.

    • @Aerissa_Jade yes but women have reproductive rights over men aka abortion. U can fuck a new guy without a condom every night and never have to risk bearing children. A guy can get a vasectomy and wear a condom and the girl can still get pregnant and he could be forced to pay child support. Just so we’re on the same page

    • @Aerissa_Jade So, you're saying that the choice of having sex is a reproductive rights? In that case we're ALL for reproductive rights for women, it's just that I believe in reproductive responsibility for both of them. Men have to pay child support for 18 years; women have to take care of a kid. They both had a choice.

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  • Keep the baby. If he didn't want a child then he shouldn't have let his penis do his thinking for him.

  • Then she should keep the baby and raise it

  • What she "should" do is respect his wishes and raise the kid herself without any involvement from him.

    But I don't know any woman willing to do that so most would sue for child support and our fucked up system will have them win

  • It usually the woman who decide, not the man, the man is screwed. :)

  • keep the baby and have the asshole pay child support.

  • Just keep it no matter what

  • Tough luck, he's going to have to pay up... It takes two to tangle.

  • Just live in America:)

  • Keep the child. It's her decision.

  • It’s her choice. But she’s also gonna be the one raising it so she needs to think about this a lot.

  • Keep it, ditch him. He has no say in the matter. He's not even dating her, he was just a hookup.

  • Keep it.

  • If she wants to keep the child, then she should. Her choice. Even if he doesn't want one, he should support the child.

  • She should marry me

  • I guess she better start buying diapers and formula

  • Not ruin his life with child support

  • Her body, her choice.